I was in a 3 year long relationship. We took a break 4 months ago because of his drinking.”surely not a breakup”. But then i hav done the worst thing : i had a guy friend to whom i felt an affection and happened to mistake it as love. But he was loving me, so when he proposed me during the break i accepted it thinking that my affection is love. Bt soon within a month i realised that it was nothing more than a crush and also i loved my ex/bf (since we were just on a break) so much who is infact my first love. My ex/bf came to know about all these things and now he barely replies to my messages. Please help me with this problem. Now i know i really loved him. He is my first love & guess it will be the last one too.

the next day she uploads a picture we took of her and said thanx bae for picking out my dress. I asked her who she was calling bae, and she said a friend of hers , he calls her bae but they are just friends.

Having a plan gives you a sense of direction and removes all the confusion. A plan will give you something to look forward to when you are feeling down and unsure about yourself. A plan will give you hope. This article is that plan.

Gottman’s studies were interesting, he would lock a couple in an apartment and videotape their every move. Every discussion, every interaction, every argument was caught on tape and carefully analyzed.

This is where your ex will look back to see how you’re doing without her. And the most important thing to remember here? Make sure she sees you’re doing FINE. In fact, you should be doing better than fine – you should be thriving without your ex girlfriend.

If she’s said goodbye, it’s possible she meant exactly what she said. But it’s also very possible she’s open to a full-fledged win-me-back operation. The only thing we know for sure is that you’ll need our advice. Here’s how to navigate the reconciliation like you’re MacGyver: How to Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back. 

The No Contact Rule- A period of time where you are not allowed to talk to your ex at all. You can’t pick up your phone if she calls, texts or Facebooks you. To add on to that you are also not allowed to reach out to your ex at all during the no contact rule.

I know that when a person – especially a man – is stuck between two people, this can come across as weak, indulgent and greedy. There is certainly not a lot of sympathy to go around. The reality is anything but; it makes you feel entirely wretched and after a while can start to erode your self-esteem. It is important, however, to realise you have control over your situation.

After those three days, try to let the relationship go. Give yourself time to just be alone, spending time with family and friends and doing things you love. When you’re in a healthy place, you can begin looking for love once more.

Why? Because women despise needy guys. They will not be pressured, persuaded, tricked, or manipulated into getting back into a relationship. What they’re looking for is a man who understands their innermost desires — they’re desperate to be understood on that level.

Remember she was once completely vulnerable with you, she was intimate with you, and she let you know things about her that nobody knows! She may have found someone or she may be cynical about getting back together but that is because she did not feel emotionally safe. You were a part of her heart and soul once, and if you have caused her hurt, you are the only one who can heal it. She needs to see that you can be as invested as she was. She needs to know that you feel it can work out. She needs to see that the same problems that caused you to drift apart shall never surface again. Show her. Evince it through actions, words, gestures- whatever it takes. Just make her feel that she can be emotionally safe with you- that you are the man she once fell for and will continue to be!

I will txt or call you not as a couple. Like a friendship. and she told me ‘ok’. Since that day… I have felt like living in the hell. Only crying. No eating. No work out. My recent life is full of missing her.

Being a happy and confident person is probably the most important thing when it comes to getting your ex back. You need to realize that happiness and confidence is something that you can get by working on yourself.  Here are a few ideas that will help you gain more confidence and become a happier person.

Be sure however that one therapist works with both of you if you want to increase the odds that you will end up re-united as a couple. Two therapists, one for each partner, all but guarantees that the relationship will end.

Heyy !!! It’s been two months I and my girl broke up.. As like normal guys v guys were in contact, latter on she kept on tellin you gotta move on and all that.. Recently I avoided textin her callin for lik two days, I had even tried avoiding her even b4 once she herself had called from front to know if I am fine.. I acted all fine.. Nd lst night I just bumped at her in place … V wer together boozing she had come with her friends, even then she ws full time wit me , all off sudden topic off our relationship started I was in tears , she wiped my tears , hugged nd kissed me on forehead .. Nd I got to know through her friends tat even she broke down… I really don know what to do??? I just love her alot!!! Tis is killin me .. Plz help.. Does she still love me ??