Ok, so me and my ex were together for three months. He is 16 and I am 19. We are both guys. So basically we had an huge fight during New Year’s eve and broke up for two days. We decided to then to get back and try again, and then he decided that we would be better as just “friends” later on that weekend… He broke up with me because he didn’t want to cut talking with a boy he met (and kissed) during New Year’s eve… During the first the days after the break up he was acting like nothing happened or whatsover till I decided to use the whole “no contact” thing to him and then he asked to me go pick up my stuff on his house next week… So what should I do, is the any chance at all anymore or not.
“Thank you, my ordeal is now over and i am back with my girlfriend. After doing what you instructed she confessed that she couldn’t handle loosing me and we are now back together, but on my terms. The story went like this…”
The best reason to get back together is if you still love her and if you realize that there is still a great future ahead of you. Love should be the deciding factor. It should not just be because you’re worried that you will be earning just a single income nor because of your loneliness.
Ouch! That definitely hurts. Nevertheless, if you get a response like this you just have to be polite, positive and collected. Remember, you are the one that has to be in control. You may have made one of the following mistakes:
Note also that therapy is virtually always more potent if the couple goes together for some of the sessions. Paulette, after initial reluctance, decided to schedule sessions with Peter’s therapist as well. They sometimes saw the therapist separately, and sometimes together which helped them to recognize and rectify the problematic patterns in their prior interactions. When both partners participate in a process of growth, the odds zoom up that the outcome will be positive for both of them.
By changing your whole post-breakup mindset, you can also change the way your ex girlfriend currently sees you. This is a HUGE part of getting your ex to want you back, and the first big step toward reversing your breakup.
If you hurt her, apologize. If you really want her back, you have to be the man and apologize for what went wrong. If she was hurt by you, she’ll want to stay away from you for fear of getting hurt again. So man up and tell her you made a mistake.
If you’re busy pursuing your own interests, your ex may see you doing it — whether you’re going for a run or reading your favorite book in a coffee shop, if she sees you doing your own thing, she’ll be impressed.
Knowing that it’s important to give your ex some space is a sign of maturity. She’ll appreciate the fact that you respect her enough to know not to smother her, and that you’re mature enough to do your own thing for a while.
also he has already given her diamonds for her recent birthday, seems to be moving fast. And I can’t help but thinking of him proposing to her soon since they already knew each other so well. No, I don’t believe she ever cheated or started this with him while we were together.
My main suggestion is to keep doing more of what you have been doing, that is, talking openly, letting go of any pressuring of each other, appreciating and enjoying the positive sides of your relationship, and taking on faith that if the relationship is meant to be, it will be.
“I can see now,” Peter explained to her, “that in my depression about work I became totally self-centered. I withdrew from you, so no wonder you felt angry and distanced from me. As both of us withdrew from each other we lost our sexual connection. I felt desparate for attention. Then I took the ultimate wrong turn by seeking sexual attention from an infidelity. Big mistake! I’m so glad that now I’m looking for a job that will be a better fit for me. I think I’ve found one, and I’m thrilled at the prospect.”
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Hey Bro, I feel your pain…. I met an amazing girl and I love her a lot, and we broke up recently. She moved to another country recently and stopped talking to me so we broke up :/. And to be honest sure everyone says it’s easy to move on. But when it’s true love it’s different, sure it might not be “True” love but you want it to be. I personally love my EX and we broke up and it hurts like shit. I know another girl now I’m dating, I love her and she loves me, but I always think about what would’ve been with my EX. I don’t even want her back, but just to know she’s safe and not lost with other players and jerks. So I decided to tell her the truth and I’m getting her back slowly, she’s amazing and always will be. But trust me, just tell her the truth, get her somewhere and tell her what she means to you. If it works then it’s good and if not… only then is it time to move on. And trust me, I mean it 100% when I say I know how you feel bro. I may be Muslim and you may not be. I may be different but I feel you bro. Were guys and I get you man! If you need anymore advice or help or something you have my email!
Hi, my boyfriend of almost 1 year broke up with me just a week ago. It was very hard for both of us, as I love him with all my heart and he seemed genuinely upset about it too. we didn’t have a fight or anything, he just said he thinks i love him more than he loves me and isn’t sure if this is what he wants. when we left the place where we broke up, we were both very sad. yesterday i bumped into him, and he was very nice to me, we even chatted for a while about our school work. he just seemed very casual, relaxed and happy to see me. i plan on not contacting him for a while, but is this relationship already a lost cause if he seems all casual and treating me as a friend only a week after he left me? does this show that he actually never really cared enough about me?
It isn’t always hard. Plenty of people get back together every day. But I’ll be writing this for the hard cases – the ones where she isn’t already knocking down your door for another try. So I’ll be giving you some stuff that’s tried and tested, that I’ve used myself multiple times, and that I’ve watched friends and students and mentees use effectively again and again.
This went on for days. I would call, e-mail, and send dozens of text messages but she wouldn’t budge. I was losing my mind. The more she resisted, the crazier I would get, until one night we got into a such heated fight she told me to “never call again”.
Amazingly though, a few months later, we were (and are) back together and engaged. We couldn’t be happier, and it’s all because of an old friend of mine from way back, who showed me that there’s a specific get your girlfriend back process which you NEED to follow if you are going to succeed in getting your girl back.
hi my ex broke up with me about a week ago, but she still lives with me, we help each other out financially until i get another job after christmas, shes going out meeting new guys now, how should i conduct the no contact rule in my situation? and what should i do whilst shes here?
I’m going to level with you: this is really hard for me. This is hard for a lot of people! You get the ball rolling, you’re talking about yourselves and where you are now and then all of a sudden you’re curious if they want to get a drink and catch up. Disaster.
If your ex contacts you a lot, let him know that you’re going to give him some time so he doesn’t think you don’t want anything to do with him. This is especially important if the guy you love is a bit shy or insecure.
Recall who between you initiated the break-up – If it was you, then assess whether you did it after carefully thinking about it or just because you are overwhelmed with anger. If it was your ex-girlfriend, recall if she had specific reasons why she initiated it. The same goes if the break-up was a mutual decision. Dig deeper why the two of you decided to break up in the first place.
But after the two of you break up is the perfect time to really throw yourself into doing things that matter to you. Do the things you didn’t have time for when you were in a relationship. Visit with friends, take up a new hobby, work to get a promotion at work, hit the gym more frequently. Do things that make you feel good about you.
In addition to working on recreating attraction you should examine your relationship and look for what other contributing factors led to the break up and how you can overcome/prevent/eliminate these things.
So how do you recover? For starters, you want to ignore your ex for 30 days. Why? Well, first of all, it helps you recover. Additionally, you need to remove all the reminders of her away. Put her pictures and love notes in a box and put them away.
A lot of times this can be happening but you won’t have any clue. Men aren’t the best communicators especially when it comes to breaking bad news. The last thing they want is to hurt you so they will just break up with you and give you some general reason. Luckily again this can be addressed!
Even for the most accomplished Casanova, reclaiming love after it has been lost is a tricky endeavor. Nothing about it is simple, or straightforward, and contrary to what rom-coms have been telling you all these years, sleeping on her doorstep is not a no-fail route to changing her mind. [otp_overlay]