I have one for you guys! I started dating this girl that in my mind is the perfect one! I mean I couldnt possibly build a better woman. Well after 4 years of dating we broke up because she was tired of my habbits.!? Well we have been broken up now for three years and she still calls and texts every day. When I go to her house for the night she sleeps in her bed alone. She helps me in any way I need. (Bails me outta jail, pays my phone bill, buys me sweet gifts, ect.)

If your motives for getting back together have to do with saving face in front of friends or family, with proving to yourself or others that you can get her back if you want to, or with giving you a chance to hurt her back in any way, stop. Those aren’t good motives for pursuing a relationship with anyone, and particularly not with an ex. You’ll only cause the both of you further pain and emotional trauma. Instead, bear down and decide to deal with your feelings in an adult way.

How much time do you leave her without contact? Good question. It depends if you have children with her or not. If you do, you don’t really have much of an option. But, if you don’t, give her at least thirty days.

Talk about kissing. It is possible that your partner may not be thinking about kissing. You can bring kissing to their mind (and encourage them to kiss you) by bringing up the topic of kissing in conversation.[10]

Keep at it, realise your mistakes, change everything (better appearance, be more kind, a better listener, etc.) she is still in love with you and still wants you very much you just have to prove to her that you are a better person than before.

Peter arranged to meet his wife for coffee. He brought with him his list of all the old habits that he now understood had been problematic in the old relationship. He also listed the new habit patterns he was building to replace the old ones.  

When you pick her call, number one rule is, don’t be angry, depress or rude to her. If she calls you or visits your workplace, then make sure to act happy and cheerful. Acting this way will demonstrate your higher value. Again, this will increase her ‘fear of loss’ feeling and make you look like you have moved on.

It goes without saying: don’t go too long before you swoop in enough again. Wait long enough so she has time to heal, but not so long that she forgets all of the wonderful things about you. Each situation is different — feel it out. Though as a general rule, give it at least a few weeks, but no longer than two months.

On social media, you can take that to another level, as well. You can do things that you know she would find interesting (like skydiving or a cooking class), and post about that to pique her interest.

The secret here is to assess the specific reasons why your relationship did not work out in the past. Find out if it is any different this time. If no one changed and worked on improving himself/herself, then there is a chance that your relationship will fail once again. With that in mind, you have to make sure that you are both mature enough before rekindling the relationship.

One of the little things I always love about relationships that are going well is how you are constantly helping each other remember things. This tactic is no different and can definitely earn you some huge brownie points if you remind him about something he forgot. Lets look at a few examples.

My girlfriend and I were together for a year and 2 months and she kept repeating, daily, that this is the best thing in her life, and we’re meant together. We are very close. I’ve personally never known a person I want to be with more than her, and she expressed the same in visits, writing letters, and texts. Around Christmas, while she was staying with her family (she lives in the adjacent country but we travel constantly to see each other), and after a small discussion about where she might get a job and where we would live together, she turned completely and said (on new year’s eve) she can’t do a relationship anymore, she wants to be alone, that she’s a toxic person to me (she isn’t), and never wants a relationship again, ever, with anyone. She did not explain the details why making such a heavy decision, she said she feels inadequate, and that I shouldn’t contact her any more if I want her to stay. I am very confused. Now it’s been twenty days since we last had any contact and it’s killing me, I miss her and I wish we could talk. I have no idea what to do.

Recall who initiated the breakup. Was it you? If so, did you do it after careful thought or in a fit of anger that you now regret? Was it your ex, and did he or she have specific reasons? Was it a mutual decision?

I put a lot of work into this page (half a year to be exact.) Yup, I have been planning on helping men get their exes back for over half a year. I know that sounds a little insane but I am actually a pretty busy guy so it was all really a matter of finding the time to finally put this project in motion. [otp_overlay]