You have some work to do on yourself if you want to have healthy, lasting relationships with amazing women. You need to build self-esteem. You need to build social skills. You need to build relationship skills.
Then you are still suffering from post-breakup denial and bargaining. Denial and bargaining are two of the many stages of grief after a breakup. It’s extremely common for people to want to get their ex back after a breakup. However, it’s not always the right choice.
One additional thought. You might want to check out my post on infusing your interactions with positivity. It’s not just moths that are drawn to light. See http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/resolution-not-conflict/201207/10-ways-radiate-positivity-and-be-attractive. Maximize the positives in your interactions, delete the negatives like criticism or irritated emotions, and the odds will be likely to shift in your favor.
This is why you need a powerful and easy-to-use text messaging system to win your ex back. Michael Fiore is the creator of Digital Romance INC. where he is helping people to get their ex back using simple yet powerful TEXT MESSAGE.
Good day I was dating my ex-girlfriend for about 1.5 years I truely am Inlove with her and we share so much in common love of rodeo , long story short most people I know that knew us have said “wow I can’t belive it you two were the perfect match “ we lived together in my house and there was naturally arguments on and off the last couple weeks of our relationship there was no fighting. Then she decided after working all day and we talked about the night before (sex) and she decided she was finished with me I got home and she was packing all of her stuff and leaving when I wanted to talk to her about possible ways of fixing the damaged love she said she just don’t love me anymore . A week went by we talked over text and then started hanging out again for another two weeks spending quality time together very relaxed filled with smiles on both ends ( Theses two weeks she didn’t live with me ) then she decided she just didn’t care enough to put any effort in and said I deserve someone that is willing to treat me like I treat them and she is unable to give to the relationship the way I was (which is not the case she was great) she claims she was unhappy and wasn’t being herself . So my question is is there a chance we will be back together and have the future we once talked about?
Start dating again. If your old flame does respond to your advances and wants to start dating again, too, then it’s time to celebrate — but not too much. Remember to take things slow, to be a gentleman, and to ease back into the relationship. Enjoy dating, telling each other how you feel, and kissing and cuddling, and take the time to reflect on how much you mean to each other instead of rushing right back into where you started.
At one point you convinced this girl to date you. That means for a certain segment of time in her life she probably obsessed about you every single day. This means that she formed an emotional attachment to you and she does care about what you think.
These things are only the tip of the iceberg in regards to putting yourself back in contact after the breakup. Call her too soon, and you could scare your ex off. Wait too long, and you could find that she’s completely lost interest.
#11 Write her a letter. It’s a great way to say everything you want to say. Plus, it’s therapeutic for you. It also stands out, rather than a text or email. In your letter, talk about how you accept what happened, apologize for your behavior, and mention how your life is turning into something positive and exciting. [Read: How to write a heartfelt love letter like a true romantic]
One really useful thing is to find a project, especially one that helps others. This can be anything from volunteering at a soup kitchen to writing the next Great American Novel to training dogs. The idea is to get your attention off yourself and your feelings and onto the wider world.
If you don’t give her space, you’re not going to be able to give yourself space either. While you may be tempted to check up on her social media, resist the urge! Delete your text conversations and unfollow her from social media, at least for a while. If she’s ready to talk to you again after the break up, she’ll let you know! In the meantime, you both need the space in order to sort out your thoughts and feelings.
I don’t want to talk about common mistakes that ended your relationship. If I start writing I can point out more than hundred mistakes that men do in their relationship however I don’t want to talk about these mistakes because all of these mistakes come to one BIG REASON and that is ‘loss of attraction’.
Well, the same rules apply to this situation as the above two situations. The only thing that’s different is that you don’t have a boyfriend to contend with, which means that you will find it WAY WAY easier to get her back if you keep it casual, play it cool and spruce up your current image/mindset.
Make her jealous (optional). This is an optional move because it depends on the situation. If your relationship ended because she was so jealous that you were always hanging around with other girls, then you shouldn’t make her jealous or she’ll just be reminded of the reason why things didn’t work out between you. But if your relationship ended because she thought you were just too into her, or that she was bored by you, then making her jealous is a great move. Here’s how to do it:
Twitter won’t do it. I’m sure you can find people who will tell you differently, but my advice would still be to get to the point where you don’t feel a crippling need to get back with her. Work on yourself, get other awesome things going on in your life, meet new amazing women. If you want to date your ex from that position of abundance, you’ll be much more capable of it because you won’t be needy. But as long as you are begging and desperate it is going to be a near un-winnable battle
My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago because of the distance and the fact that he has lost feelings for me (about this he wasn’t really certain though…). I have accomplished NC succesfully and got in touch again with him in the begining of December. We started to have small talks, videochating occasionally and we have even achieved an active snap activity. However, recently, to be more exact, when going back to school he started to be distant and cold. I know that he has a lot of work as now he is in exam period, but he always replies short and almost after 24 or 16 hours, which is not typic of him.
I dated my girlfriend for 8yrs. We broke up one year ago but kept trying to get back together. She just officially dumped me a couple of weeks ago. Her reasons were that I took too long to change my ways and that she didn’t know what she wanted right now. I still keep trying to show her that I love her more than anything. All she does all day long is work and go to college classes. I feel that there is still a small chance that it will work between us. Our past fights were always about my job, I was insensitive, too much partying, not paying attention to her needs and that she wanted me to better myself. Her birthday is coming up and I bought her a gift. Is that bad? I don’t know what I should do. I really need some help. I love this girl and I don’t want almost nine years to go down the toilet. I did change my ways by the way. I’m also applying for a good job. Hopefully I get it. We lived together and now I live with my sister for the time being. So I say again what advise do u give me.
If you give her space, she’ll also be more likely to think about you. She’ll think, “I haven’t heard from [insert your name here] in a while. That must mean that he’s just fine without me…” This will intrigue her and make her wonder what you’re up to.
Similarly if you don’t control your anger and only fix the mistakes that happened in the previous relationship then you only end up having leaky vessel which will break sooner or later. You have to guarantee that if you replace old vessel with new one then it would not happen again.
I am completely devastated, hurt, lost and just want her back. I love her completely. We had a few discussions before she left about trying to work things out, and she felt I took her for granted…I had stopped treating her with appreciation and love. I agreed that I have to be more romantic and be an equal partner in the relationship. Over the course of the following days I showed her love and appreciation, treated her like I had done in the past however she still wanted out. She said she needed time and space to figure out what she wants. I told her I would not give up on us but I would give her space that she wanted. She said she still loved me and care a lot about me but was just hurting.
About four months ago, my current girlfriend found out that I had been to see my ex and we were on the verge of breaking up. I tried to put things right with her and it has been a very difficult and dark few months. She has forgiven me to an extent, but I still haven’t been able to let go of my ex.