You are right that you may not be able to use the good memories from your past relationship in rebuilding attraction with him. But that is only a small part of the plan. The biggest thing that attracts an ex back is the changes you make in yourself. If you can show him that you have truly changed and are a new person after you have finished no contact, you can definitely attract him back. Read this article for more info on what to do after no contact.

Thanks for your article, this makes so much sense. I just went through bad time where after a three months break requested by my boyfriend, he decided he was not sure he wanted to resume our relationship. I cut all contact. I needed to re-organize my life, rethink my situation and create a back-up plan. Since, I am trying to organize to get my stuff out of his place as we were staying together. He does not answer my messages, I don’t know what to do. I have to dride 14 hours to get to his place so I can’t just knock on the door. First of all, I don’t understand what happened as I really thought we were sole mates. Then, why is he acting so distant and non-cooperative. It hurts. I try to be realistic and independent but my heart is broken in so many small pieces.

Treat your body to an exercise session and boost those endorphins. Whether your exercise choice is a run, yoga or a Pilates session, work out regularly. If those thoughts of your ex-boyfriend intrude at night, that exercise session will wear you out, making it easier to sleep, Cosmopolitan says.

To be entirely honest, there’s always a chance, but in long distance relationships, that chance can be a lot slimmer. If she’s dating someone new and he is in the same country as her, it’s very hard for you to compete because anything you do without being in close proximity can easily be misinterpreted. I would honestly suggest that you be fair to yourself and not contact her for the time being. Practice the No Contact rule for a period before considering anything again.

In Calcutta/Kolkata The Capital City of West Bengal In India, My Mom & Me Went December 2015 and the reason was the Reunion Of My Mom’s School Friends Of Her Batch.. Now This Event Was Just For A Day But Except this Day we travelled a lot as i and my mom stay in Ahmedabad Since 25 yrs & thus mom wanted to revisit her childhood hometown that was the place where she was born and brought up… And the another motive was that she wanted to show me also her native place and thus we went. 

Hi the NC seems to be working. At work she told me she misses me and missed my kisses. She also hinted of wanting to get back together. What should I do? Should I continue the NC rule? or just go with the flow ?

I’m pretty sure I did not say to wait around for him to come back, I said, many times, to move on. I said if there is a chance for things to work out it will only happen if both of you have had time away. My advice is to just move on no matter what because if he comes back, great. And if not, at least you’ve started to move on. Waiting around is what keeps you stuck in the same place and I definitely do NOT advocate that.And good fro you not waiting around, you’re doing the best thing for yourself and I hope you continue to have that strength.

Recognize your talents and strengths – Do not forget to remind yourself about these every day. Reminding yourself about all the things that you can do will make you realize how good and unique you actually are, which is beneficial if you want to boost your confidence. The time you spent away from your ex-boyfriend should also prompt you to start loving yourself by celebrating all the accomplishments you made, even the minor ones.

thank you! i agree, but he keeps saying he needs time and space and as of right now, he thinks too much has happened between us that can’t be erased. i was going through a hard time and that negativity may have brought him down, but he never told me how he felt until he ended things so i never had the chance to fix that. i’m hoping giving him this time and space he wants will make him realize it, but do you think it may just be too far gone in his mind? i really want a second chance since now i know what his problems with me were, i see how easily fixable they are. i just don’t know how to show him that!

Last Update Sep. 30, 2017 – Getting your ex boyfriend back is not going to be a simple procedure. Don’t be fooled for a second that winning back his love is an absolute guarantee. In fact, there are never guarantees because each individual is unique and the circumstances that caused the breakup play a huge role in what kind of success you are going to have in this process. With that being said, however, there are a good amount of girls that use this system (with great odds stacked against them, mind you) to woo their ex back in as little as a few weeks!

I fell into the moving back with him trap 4 times. each time my heart got broken a little bit more. I love him with all my heart still even though its finished. it finished in a horrible way, with all my friends and him talking for a week about how we should break up without me knowing anything about it, him then treating me like dirt and then telling me he only came back to me cos he thought id kill myself. ive never been suicidal, it was a stupid excuse of his and what also hurts is him trying to make me go out with other boys who I clearly could never love.

By the way, the best results I’ve seen for people with abusive anger is with the energy therapy techniques of Bradley Nelson, which Dale Petterson in my office does for my clients. It’s quite amazing how these techniques seem to pull the anger out by the roots….though multiple interventions plus conventional couple and individual treatment have to be part of the treatment strategy.

The way to frame the conversation is just like this: you’ve reflected on the breakup, and you fully believe that breaking up was the right thing to do – and that it was for the best for both of you. Still, it would be stupid to throw away such a great friendship.

While you do not want to change who you are in order to get your ex back (because eventually they would leave again, since the real you has to return at some point), it is always helpful to be the best you can be. Your ex was attracted to you and you can try to regain that attraction.

The very next day I went out with my friends for drinks. We went to a popular place that people usually go. That’s where I saw him my ex and surprisingly I was calm. I even saw him flirting with other girls. Before I had started using the law of attraction this would have really upset me but since I had learnt about the ways of the law this had no effect to my emotions. I just continued to have positive thoughts and I decided that I would let him have his fun while I had my fun. Later that evening my ex’s friends joined my friends and I. I was surprisingly having a good time with him and I had no ill thoughts about how he had hurt me.

I am even now beginning to believe that I spent all my love on her. And even if it did come back… I don’t know if I would feel right passing it to another…? It’s weird it’s like giving somebody a gift and now you are nolonger with them you take it back and give it to somebody else. I know this is life but is it right?

Learning to forgive and make peace with things that happened in the past can happen more easily when you take your focus off of the specific events that occurred and instead try to see the perspective of the people involved. Most people don’t act with the intention of directly hurting someone else; generally, they make choices intending to make themselves feel better. For better or worse, it is in our nature as human beings to operate from our own self-beneficial perspective and the impact of our actions on others is often a secondary consideration. It doesn’t make it right, but sometimes seeing someone else’s perspective can help you understand the events that unfolded better and make them less personal. It can also be easier to forgive someone when you see them as a whole person. If you find yourself stewing in anger over something that someone else did or didn’t do, try to pull back and remember the good qualities you saw in them when you first met, and recognize that we all have flaws and we all make mistakes.

I have decided to go no contact indefinitely but I am still struggling everytime I hear him speak or laugh or have to see him. I want nothing more for him to come back to me and I feel that this hope in my heart is preventing me from letting him go but I cannot stop myself missing him.

In this section we are going to be focusing more on what YOU need to do during the year long no contact to properly get over your ex boyfriend. But first, I thought it might be interesting to show you some of the behaviors to avoid.

Always be positive and happy when you’re around him. You can drop subtle hints along the way that you’re still interested in him. For example, you could say, “It’s great to hang out with you. I really missed spending time with you.”

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It will hurt but will help you the most is to distract yourself. Hang out with friends, let them show you that life is more than boys. Don’t TRY to make him jealous, MAKE him jealous by seeing what he no longer has. (:

When the string of messages, calls, and meetings keep going, gauge how it is going. See if you’d really like to rekindle the romance or it was just a mere ‘post-breakup’ urge that has long since been extinguished. A flirtationship is okay too, if you think that the signal is green. But do not create unnecessary pressure or expect it to magically be ‘like always.’ Reflect on all your interactions, meetings, and try and figure out from his responses if he really seems interested in giving it a second shot.

Once you’re set and committed and know you want him back and that he truly deserves you back, and both of your lives are much more enriched because of the relationship, then there is nothing at all that should hold you back. You really, really, really can win him back no matter how bad things might seem.