Keep thinking that I have to be friends with him because we have a kid together. Well, that kid is a teenager and has his own ideas of what Dad is. I love this ” I’m more mature than he is and I’m 15!. He’s a chicken sh** selfish d***!” ..out of the mouths of babes! And I have said nothing bad about his father, I keep telling him he loves him. Haven’t said anything negative, he saw this all by himself!

You need to show discipline and give him some space so he can take in everything. Even if he’s hitting you up, show a bit of self control before responding to his texts. Right now is not about convincing him to come back to you, it’s about him making the decision on his own to want to be with you again.

Learning to be by yourself is an important step if you’re trying to move on while you’re still in love with your ex. While it’s also important to be around friends, you really need to find something to do on your own that you’ll enjoy.

So, this is it. Once you decide to embark on the plan I am about to give you there is no going back. Well, I suppose technically that isn’t true because in the end the choice is always yours but me saying “there is no going back” sound so much more dramatic which is what I am going for here.

I broke up with my beloved ex due to some problems we had..he always told me he is going to kill himself and after a long period of trying to help him he left for his job at the helllenic navy…then after some time of the problems he had I told him to brake up….and then found someone else after some time,so I could overcome my beloved one….and then,because I wanted to return to ex who loved me a lot and I also did,the new one sent him photos and said that I cheated on him,thing that in NOT true….and he threatened me to be with him otherwise I would have problems…and so,my ex hated me..9 months passed and I still love him and want him back and I don’t know how to tell him….he also has told everybody the worst about me and together,the made a clique of hate towards me….I am really sad I don’t know what to do…

Making a positive change in your physical appearance is going to give you a fresh look. You are going to feel new and you are going to feel better. And when your ex sees you after the no contact period, they are going to see a new you. Here are a few things you can do.

Since you are trying to move on, it is really important that you completely cut connections with this guy. It might upset him  and perhaps you also,for a considerable amount of time but in future he’ll thank you.

For years Peter had reacted to Paulette’s complaints about him with defensiveness. When he did allow himself to hear information about what he was doing that troubled his wife, he’d get mad at himself.  Listening to her had escalated his agitation and distress instead of leading to learning. Now Peter decided he’d better address her concerns, beginning by writing out a list of all he could recall. “Information is power,” he reminded himself to ease the sting of shame and guilt. 

Be specific about what you are sorry for. Instead of saying, “I’m sorry for hurting you,” say, “I’m sorry for not returning your calls.” This will help convince him that you have genuinely put some thought into the things you have to be sorry for.

I literally sit there in awe. In fact, it is women like this who typically get their exes to come back begging for them. (Back on point though) If you plan on cutting your ex out of your life forever follow the steps laid out in this section. Bear in mind though, once you step down this path you are accepting that you don’t want him back ever and he doesn’t even deserve to be in your life anymore.

The whole point of No Contact is to avoid conversations with her, general or relationship wise until you feel more sorted out emotionally to deal with things rationally. The only conversations that is encouraged is if it’s a serious issue (financial matters, divorce paperwork, children, etc). You should tell her that you would like some space since the relationship has ended to work on yourself.

Naturally you may be worried your ex boyfriend will soon forget about you, or be snapped up by another girl. But that’s not quite how it works. I mean.. sure, it happens. But it’s always more complicated than that.

If you notice that he doesn’t want to reestablish the relationship, don’t force it. You can’t make someone love you, or care about you by force. Maybe it wasn’t meant to be. By forcing it, you can only push him further from you.

A rebound relationship will impede your progress in truly getting over your ex. It will do nothing for you. In fact, it will only ADD TO THE PROBLEMS you are having emotionally. Besides, you don’t want to use somebody to make yourself feel better. It’s bad karma.

My husband died a year and four months ago. I began working out and joined a gym. Last June, I saw an attractive man and developed an infatuation with him. Then four months ago, he showed up at my church, and I developed a definite crush on him. I’m 59, and I have no idea how old he is. We haven’t spoken two words to each other until July 4, when we ran into each other at the gym by the vending machines. I did discover today, however, that he’s married! Well, the door to any possible relationship closed right then. How can I move on when I will still see him at the gym and church? I can go to another gym for a few days a week, but I’m in choir, and I can’t leave my church. I’ll have to see him in the audience, so I can’t just “have no contact” with him and completely eliminate him from “my view.” This seems totally silly, being 59 and infatuated (and seriously attracted) to a man. Thanks! [otp_overlay]