Hey, Ryan. I was with my ex for almost three years. She broke it off five months ago. I was in a bad place at the time and was causing a lot of unnecessary discussions. I took care of my problems and I’ve been working on myself a lot since. I insisted on getting back together for the first two months, which didn’t work. We have kept in touch this time, but not in a flirty way. Plus she hasn’t agreed to go out with me. We saw each other twice on October, but she has declined to see me since. I tried no contact back in November and after 12 days she texted saying she missed her best friend (me). I started conversations and she said she was working on stuff of her own, but then started kind of ignoring me. For a while, I wished she would just shut the door on us so I could move on, and the fact that she refuses to do that makes me believe she still sees us together, though I don’t want to be seen like an option and that I’ll just run right back whenever she wants. I sent her flowers for Christmas, for which she thanked me and sent me a picture of them a week later out of the blue, but I didn’t make conversation. Early this year I asked if I could see her and she said no (actually says “not now”. Like I said, she always sort of evades being straightforward, and I don’t know what to make of that). I decided to get more serious with no contact. It’s been like 15 days and I’m getting the no contact “symptom” of thinking she doesn’t care/is trying to forget about me, etc. Is it too late to be doing no contact? What are your insights on her attitude of not giving clear answers? Thanks!
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The first thing you will need to do is to find out if he still wants you back. If he has really moved on and is not interested in getting back together with you then you could be wasting your time or just end up embarrassing yourself in front of him.
You will understand what romantic love is all about one day. Come back and revisit your comment in about another 5 years and you will have an appreciation of people saying you are infatuated or it being puppy love. You should be about 19 now and still to young to fully understand.
Like anything else, getting back an ex boyfriend is a totally learnable skill. Just as you can learn how to get a man in the first place, you can also learn how to get him back after an unwanted breakup.
When I slow down for longer than a minute and think about why we broke up (several times) it was because we weren’t right for each other. She is my ex for a reason… just like yours is your ex for a reason. If it was meant to be then it would have been easier and you both would have fought to keep it going. But now it’s in the past and all that’s left to do is to let go of it.
In the next few weeks, you need to have a new man interested in you. Find one or fabricate one, but by all means you have a new flame according to anyone that he may know. You don’t need to announce it in smoke signals, but if you are asked, smile and discreetly say that yes, you are dating someone. It may sound nuts, but it does help you gain the piece of mind. If you’re not ready to date and still missing him every second of every day, that’s fine. I understand. But HE doesn’t have to know that.
Break ups are tough. Different people deal with them differently. It might involve a lot of crying, or even depression. The most important thing whilst going through a break up, I think, is to remember you are a person and as such worthy of respect. Respect yourself, and try not to do anything you will regret later. And if you do, it is not the end of the world either, it will help you grow as a person, and that is all that matters.
hi, last sunday my boyfriend broke up with me. i dont know if its totally broke up because he only said to me that “lets end this, i have so many problems right now and im so tired.” i asked him if he dont like me anymore. he said “yes, i dont. i just want to be alone now, pls.”. i cant accept the fact that we broke up and he never even explain to me the reason. all his saying is he had so many problems but he dont want to discuss with me thats why i cant understand him why he so stress about. so i gave what he want, i didnt talk to him ever since, its almost 2 days already. but i miss him. and i know he love me too. maybe something really happened that why i gave him what he want. if he really want to be alone. he also never msg me since then. do i just let him alone first. you think he will call me soon? i really want him back. im trying my best not to msg or call him. hopefully soon he will realize that he miss me too. i know its because of stress and anger thats why all of a sudden he said those things to me.
Stop all contact. One way to make your ex jealous is to sever all contact between the two of you right after you split. Shoot for a decent length of time, like 3-4 weeks. This lack of contact may get your ex to think about what you are doing. Have you moved on? Are you dating other people? Are you over the break up already?
The weird part was when I had one guy leave me as soon as I had another he got jealous. He was so pissed he set his carpet on fire. I usally do the break ups but when he broke up I went with another guy I wasn’t realy all that interested in. I basiclly went with him because I was bored. Needless to say it was interesting when his brother told me the guy was so pissed he set the carpet on fire, I told him the truth and we got back together. I’m not sure how long it lasted but he and I stayed friends after I broke up this time. The last I heard he had issues with his life. Oh well boys will be boys I wonder what Eric thinks of that.
For instance, in the future when he was traveling for business and staying alone in hotels he would plan ahead what to do in the evenings: phone his wife, work on his computer, read, watch his favorite TV shows. He would NOT go to the hotel bar. If he met people in the lobby, if the acquaintances were women he would speak with them briefly and then say goodbye. He would go out to dinner only with men friends. If women joined them, he would not engage in one-on-one conversations with them. Alcohol, private time with women plus loneliness and a disconnected relationship with his wife had been a dangerous combination for him.
I broke up with my beloved ex due to some problems we had..he always told me he is going to kill himself and after a long period of trying to help him he left for his job at the helllenic navy…then after some time of the problems he had I told him to brake up….and then found someone else after some time,so I could overcome my beloved one….and then,because I wanted to return to ex who loved me a lot and I also did,the new one sent him photos and said that I cheated on him,thing that in NOT true….and he threatened me to be with him otherwise I would have problems…and so,my ex hated me..9 months passed and I still love him and want him back and I don’t know how to tell him….he also has told everybody the worst about me and together,the made a clique of hate towards me….I am really sad I don’t know what to do…
Also, don’t allow your emotions to let you down and dictate your overall outlook on life. Remember, it will be impossible for you to achieve your goal if you have no control over your emotions and if your head is constantly blaming you.
It would do you better to walk away from this since he has already prioritized another female over you and has even expressed his disinterest, which might have been caused by the loss of spark or interest after so many years.
The tips and tricks for getting ex-boyfriend back introduced by The Ex Factor Guide really work for women. It explains some of the common mistakes of couples that often lead to break-up and how they can fix it.
I decided that I needed to do what’s best for me so I began doing things that made me happy. I also realized that I didn’t need anyone to make me happy. I am the captain of my life so I needed to take charge.
Be thankful and learn from your past and use that to become a better and more lovable person. Realize that there are different kinds of people that we are meant to meet in life. Some of them are just passing by to give us lessons, some will make us stronger, some are meant to show us what real world is like and there are some who will stay with us forever.
This ex back system helped me a lot in getting my ex boyfriend back. For copyright reasons, I can’t share exact text-messaging plan mentioned in this program. However, you can combine my 4 step formula with the plan given in this Ex Back Program to win your ex boyfriend.
6. Wait, don’t carried away quite yet! Remind yourself of why things didn’t work out the first time around and look for clues to whether things would be any different now. If you broke up because he partied too hard, for instance, notice how much he drinks or how he talks about his nightlife. It would suck to get back together only to discover that the same problems are still haunting you. So take it slow and trust your gut.
Situation 1– You broke up with your ex, realized you wanted him back but found out that he got a new girlfriend after the breakup. If you are in this situation then you are free to go ahead and try to get your ex boyfriend back.
Hi Ryan, dude where are you? I really need your help. I’m really trying to not a mistake here man. It’s been maybe half a month since the NC.. it’s been working like a charm.. couples days ago my ex sees me at work and days I looked good and like I’ve changed..also that I was happy. She text me that same day saying how much she missed my presence in her life, how she missed her best friend. I didn’t respond and then she text me a photo saying remember the good times.. also said she was going thru her phone deleting pics of us and didn’t know which to keep. I then replied I miss you too. We started chatting back in forth and remembering all the good things. She texted me all night. Then the next day says she loves me and misses.. I tell her too. We talked a lot about how much we loved one another. Don’t know if that was a right move ..yesterday she sends me a message at work that was a song. “Baby while were young , let’s do what we want, I want you, you’re mine and I don’t care who’s know it, I’m down for you” just a few things she sent me! I’m confused because after work I waited to talk with her but she ran out quickly and I’m sure when went to meet up with someone else. She didn’t go home last night. She also didn’t text me anymore.. so confusing what’s going on.. not sure what to do or expect! Please help dude! I really want her back and I can’t tell if I messed up the NC rule. She definitely has been seeing someone else lately. Please write me back soon.. she wants to me up tonight to go eat. Don’t know if I should go
You bet your butt there is. In fact, I would say that if you want to get over your ex boyfriend then no contact is essential. Ok, now that we know no contact is going to be a cornerstone to properly getting over an ex boyfriend the question becomes:
If you don’t want to leave anything to chance or risk another woman swiping him from under your nose while he’s still single, or if you just want to ramp things up to the next level, then I invite you to learn the three fastest ways to melt a man’s heart.
The only thing that will get him missing you again is time, and the only way to get him thinking about how good the relationship was and forgetting about the pain is uninterrupted time without contact.
Don’t overdo it! You don’t want to scream that you have been looking for attention from him and come off the wrong way. Just wear something you know you look good in but something that you are also comfortable in and could wear out normally.
This ties back into the first mistake – except instead of convincing him to get back together with you by putting up with his bad behavior, you’re trying to convince him to get back together by showering him with affection.
Before you should do something to win the heart of your ex-boyfriend, you need to spend time and exert some effort towards improving yourself. Make sure that you build your confidence and self-esteem, too.
I also do want to point out that once you start the steps that I outline on this page there is no going back. I like to look at it like this, only begin this page if you are sure that you DO NOT want your ex back. If you are ready to move on from that phase of your life then this page will pretty much do the trick for you. Of course, if there is still a doubt, a hungering that maybe you and your ex could work out in the end I recommend you read this site, post to post. It will give you ideas on exactly what you need to do to get him back.
You have to figure out whether his intentions are out of concern as a friend, or he actually likes you still, or just wants the benefits (hookup). Regardless, it would best for you to give him some space, considering you don’t know what his intentions are, and he may not know either. Apply the No Contact Rule and focus on yourself in the meantime. If he likes you, he will come back.
Break ups cause grief, the process is different for everyone. I was married for 26 yrs to an emotional abuser with some violence but mostly mental abuse. The father of my two grown children and grandchildren who are my saviours. I think this marriage contributed to a feeling of low esteem which made me first reject close relationships as I was afraid of intimacy and thgt sex was the answer. I was single for 4 years just dating then I fell deeply in love with two men at differing time periods both controlling in different ways. One lasted 3 years and we are still friends after 17 yrs the last one was for 12 years. I am still broken hearted about my last love, he withheld love and let me down, typical not answering phone for days then I found out he had cheated and he just denied and denied it. Seemed to want me but would pull away if we got too close. However we were happy in each other’s company sex was fantastic and we enjoyed similar things. He never wanted to know my family and would prefer to spend vacation time with female friends and family without me. I left him 18 months ago and moved out of town new job and nearer my family. We continued to see each other long distance saw each other last 3 months ago. Mostly I initiated contact but he always responded. Says he’s missed me but does not want commitment,crazy huh when we had 12 years together (not living together tho). I still miss him still love him and don’t see that going away any time soon. I have male friends and could start dating but at 63 not sure what to do. He is 50. I just take a day at a time i go on holiday with friends. I have more happy days now than sad days but it has taken a long time to get to this point. I am very lonely at times but don’t want to get involved again at moment. I have acquired two beautiful kittens who have been life savers and I am less lonely now I have them. I have great friends and family but I don’t think I will be the same ever again. It is harder as you get older. If you are young be kind to yourself and take a chance on love again. Don’t waste years grieving accept the break up as soon as you can and move on you have your whole lives ahead of you .
When he finally did show, I looked incredible and had my head held high. Because I had been waiting for him, I was able to remain confident and interact with him with ease. And because he hadn’t been expecting to see him, he was caught off guard and clearly shocked by how good I seemed to be doing.
If your boyfriend were serious about breaking up, he wouldn’t still be talking to you. Learn why his words and actions are actually him keeping the door to your relationship open for possible reconcilation.
When I found the research on dopamine above I remember thinking that it was extremely interesting. However, I also thought that when dopamine is being fired off in my brain when I have a crush on someone the inner workings are completely different.