Love her, admire her, respect her, make her laugh, desire her, make her feel beautiful, desired and worthy, validate her, make love to her every day like crazy. Put your insecurities aside, ignore the “previous boyfriend” issue and be a great partner. If and when she wants to talk to you about him, listen with a kind heart: the fact that she chooses to open up to you about it, means that you are already in a very good way. Don’t feel intimidated, feel trusted. Provide her comfort and acceptance. If you do all these, it will end very soon, before you both know it, you will be one soul.
My boyfriend left me last week, completely out of the blue. We were so happy, just begun living together, in lust still after a year. He told me he woke up the day he left and realised he couldn’t commit to me. That he wasn’t ready to put in the work and ups and downs that you had to put into a relationship. He said he only wanted to make himself happy and confined he no longer loved me. I walked out of the house and immediately began NC. I haven’t heard from him since, however he has blocked me on all social media, but made all accounts public deleting all of our photos and now putting up topless photos of himself for the world to see. With a holiday we had planned together coming up and bank accounts needing to be sorted out, I have done all of it. Very confused, hurt and embarrassed.
Hello, after a relationship of 2 years with my bestfriend (since 5 years) I heard from one of his mate he was already with this girl from his class. I taught she was a rebound because 3 weeks after the breakup they already were dating. My ex told me that he would tell me if he has a new girlfriend but he never told about her. But now I think she is more than a rebound.. It’s been 2 months and they follow the familymembers on instagram. I don’t understand him, why doesn’t he just tell me he has a new girlfriend? I’m the kind of person who wants always the best for the other person. I told him I want him to be happy, even if it’s not me who makes him happy. We had a fight last month because I still had contact with one of his best friends. He told me he could not party with me on NYE because he couldn’t be drunk in the same room as me (we have a lot of common friends). I wrote him a letter to say I’m okay with the breakup and I think it’s for the best to give each other space. He didn’t respond on the letter, but after that he puts more snapchats in our friends group to make me look at it. I don’t understand him?
Hi there I need your help. My girlfriend broke up with me about two weeks ago. We pretty much argued a lot lately and she and I both had enough. I broke up with her in aug and we got back together. We pretty much argue about the same things. One major problem being her ex (child father) he would send her explicit things and we argued about that and the fact every chance he got he was hitting on her. To me she always made excuses for him saying take couldn’t block him or stop him because they had to communicate for child. To me seemed that she like him chasing her. She said I didn’t trust her but I’ve caught her in so many lies. Another large problem was she would sometimes lie about things..I couldn’t trust her which is one reason I didn’t want her communicating with oneone else. She said I was jealous and have a bad attitude. I felt she made me have one by not respecting our relationship and by entertaining other people. Anyways.. she broke up with me recently and says we will never work.. she said I didn’t care about her health or financial issues .. but lately she has me been pushing me away.. we work together so it’s hard to avoid her. I love her and want her back. We hit a bad patch and I’m willing to change. She has been flirting openly with another Co worker which I told her was disrespectful. Also same day we broke up I found out she slept with her ex. She denied it at first until I provided proof. I’m not innocent, I did flirt with someone else in her face while we were together to show her how it feels.. she hated but that was my point. I didn’t want her to break up with me..When we first broke up I didn’t everything this website said not to do. I even I friended her in Facebook which really pissed her off and she blocked my phone#. It’s only been 2 1/2 days since I’ve done the no contact things.. it’s driving me crazy and I can’t tell where her head is. I feel like I should be chasing her. Is this too far gone? Can I get her back?? So I leave it alone? It’s driving me crazy not being with her and not knowing what she is doing with other people
I have no definite proof of him being with any of the OW and until I do I will continue with my contact etc. We are set to meet in November, when he is changing ships. We will again get to spend significant time together and this is my deadline date. We will either decide to pursue a new relationship or I’ll walk away forever.
Your story is very similar to mine. He was dating another girl but i didnt know it. He came back to me several times but didnt want to work things out so i blocked him from social media. that was three months ago. He has been dating that girl for several months even when when he was trying to convince me that he still loved me and missed me but because of my shortcomings he couldnt be with me. Now they are a couple and he hasnt tried to reach out. i changed my number though.
As common knowledge goes, you cannot make a person have certain feelings for you. However, you can encourage them to feel a certain way through reminders, thoughts, gestures and messages, so there might be some ways to help your ex think about the good things the two of you shared together. For more details on how this might be possible, read How to Make Your Ex Miss You.
Focus on yourself and your own life. Spend time and energy on improving yourself and focus on things that you like to do or experience. Work on being happy with yourself and where you are. Take steps to reach that point. Most importantly give it time, because letting go does take time. Allow yourself to let go even if it is painful. It will pass. With time it will be easier to handle. Also remember it doesn’t mean you have to stop loving someone. As long as you can move forward and also be open for new people and experiences. Connect with others that you can relate with in a positive sense.
I still love my ex but we work together and before we broke up we’re together for three years not only this but he lives around the corner and I have tried to move on but I always see him with his new girlfriend they became a couple as when me and him were dating he slept with her on multiple occasions
I did the nc rule more then one month, just because I wasn’t ready after only 30 days so i went on 50 days, after that i had send him a text messege, he responded an hour after says that he was very happy to hear from me, telling me about himself and what he’s been up to , asking me the same and at the end of his text telling me that he is still ok with the decision he took that he doesn’t want us back together.
Call your best friend and suggest a “just for us” day. Go out and exercise or get manis and pedis and, while you’re doing so, just vent. Let her know that you’re going to let it all hang out so she’s ready. Once it’s over, you might feel better, as if you had cleansed your emotions.
Thanks to this great man of spirit called Dr Uda which I don’t know how to thank him for the good work he has Don for me and family which I want to share my testimony with to you all so I was married to Hassan Moel and my name is Rose Jude for six years now he left me with two kids with know reason which I don’t know what to do.so one day i was in my friends place when I exposed my pain to her about my depression which I have be looking for who to help me out of it then my friend called me closer to her self telling me on how she got this great man of spirit who helped her found her way to get her husband back then I ask of his contact she quickly go and get her computer and gave me his Email ID and his number so,that is how I contacted him for a help. And now am so happy with my family and with a happy home if you are in such pain kindly Via Email ( firstname.lastname@example.org ) or call +2348117663351 have faith in him and he will help you.
I ended up going back to him after 6 months. I called him and he seemed very happy and regretful for the things that happened in the past. We were talking normally again. I started going to his house and being intimate. He told me he really wanted to work things out this time. So I automatically assumed we were together in a relationship.
you for being an absolute life saver recently for me. Your posts are helping me get through every single day. I was just wondering if you had any opinion or any insight into what potentially could have caused my current situation.
Note also that therapy is virtually always more potent if the couple goes together for some of the sessions. Paulette, after initial reluctance, decided to schedule sessions with Peter’s therapist as well. They sometimes saw the therapist separately, and sometimes together which helped them to recognize and rectify the problematic patterns in their prior interactions. When both partners participate in a process of growth, the odds zoom up that the outcome will be positive for both of them.
Sometimes, you want to fight for the relationship. Sometimes you just know deep in your heart that if only you could get another chance with your ex, things would work out. Sometimes, you just can’t close that chapter unless you get another try.
Get that little device that Kay and Jay used to erase memories in the 1990-something blockbuster hit movie, Men in Black, starring Tommy Lee Jones and Will Smith. Rated PG-13. Starts Friday, November 30th at theater near you.
I am leaning towards not talking for a year and then being his distant friend. He said he prefers to be distant friends (the type that every 3-6 months check up on eachother to see how they are because theh still care for eachother) but that the decision is ultimately mine because he did mess with my mind a little after the breakup changing his mind over and over. I just don’t know if taking a year off to get over it and then opening the wound to be friends would be productive. I know that being friends would probably lead to us reconnecting which I do want in the future. This guy is the UG (ungettable guy ) for me.
This quick video shows how one simple trick can change the way he currently sees you. Learn how to reverse your ex boyfriend’s negative thinking and get him to see you the way he did before, back when everything was magical and he couldn’t wait to be with you. Don’t miss this one!
I work on myself everyday (some days I fail). Trying to extract my self-esteem, self-respect and dignity from what seems like the other side of the universe. I go to therapy every week. I stay in most nights, I’M starting to get out more. But most importantly, I DO NOT AND WILL NOT contact him in anyway shape or form. He doesn’t deserve contact from me.
Although most parts of this article brought up good scenarios and solutions…it also seemed that a lot of times it was contradictory. Also I have been in a relationship were the relationship need for personal reason yes but on the others persons selfishness and no where was there any blame to be put in myself. The person was complete responsible for ALL the pain and the ending of the relationship let me say without getting into too much detail. No where in the article did it off up any advice for how to heal after dealing with a breakup from a person who was very persuasive and manipulative. The only thibg of was guilty was falling in love with someone who wasn’t looking for love and only let me know after I fell for them and they hurt me but bye being honest and up front but tried to put the blame on me without any expliabtiaon as to why except the fact that “just because I am one of those people”.
Stop talking: The best of choice is to stop talking for a moment. This is the best of advice one can give as a love guru. Because always keeping on talking can be stressful and result in some useless talks that can destroy an entire relationship of many years. So just calm yourself and think for a moment that what went wrong in many years of relationship. Is it your work, talks, or heavy schedule? And then try to compromise on it. It’s in the best interest of you.
What an amazing post! I’ve followed lots recently, but always ignored the bit where the writer says cut yourself off from your ex. U could never to it. We were trill friends spoke everyday etc he was just unsure what he wanted. For some reason the bit where you erode if he doesn’t 99.9 % want the relationship then leave his ass was wat needed! I instantly deleted his number, fb and told him I’m moving on! Hopefully this gas given me the strength I needed to to Do so thanks x
Penn State University collegiette Rachel Lytle puts it bluntly: “Just literally stop any form of communication altogether. No Facebook, no Skype, no texting or phone calls. Nothing for a few months. You’re left with no choice but to move forward!”
this is the first time i read this article. .actully his my boyfriend until now. .i just want to forget him even though were still in a relationship. . i just want to prepare myself from getting hurt. coz i know to myself that if one day i lose him .. i will die thats why im preparing….
Unfortunately, even if he does propose at this time, there isn’t much you can do about it since they are together now and it’s his given right. You’ll just have to have faith that your relationship did mean something to her and she would have the logical sense to say no.
Think about why you want him back. Breakups are never easy, even when the relationship was not a good fit. For this reason, it’s crucial to think about your motives for wanting to get your boyfriend back. If you want to get back together because you are sad or lonely or don’t like being single, you should probably reconsider. Just because you miss your ex does not mean you should be with him. These feelings will go away eventually, although it may take some time. If you want to get back together because you genuinely care for your ex and you can see yourself having a future with him, then go ahead and try to get him back!
Yes, and it’s a lot easier than you might think. Your ex’s feelings for you didn’t disappear overnight, just because he broke things off. The emotional bonds he felt – and still feels – for you can be played upon, drawing them out and creating a scenario in which your ex boyfriend starts missing you again.
Most likely though, every contact with you and every thing you say will be twisted in his head to support his fantasy that you really want him back. By communicating anything other than “No” to him he will hear/see/think whatever feeds his ego that you want him back. Sadly, this is the way some guys are, no respect for a woman’s wishes or feelings, it is all about what they want.
When he finally did show, I looked incredible and had my head held high. Because I had been waiting for him, I was able to remain confident and interact with him with ease. And because he hadn’t been expecting to see him, he was caught off guard and clearly shocked by how good I seemed to be doing.
Naturally you may be worried your ex boyfriend will soon forget about you, or be snapped up by another girl. But that’s not quite how it works. I mean.. sure, it happens. But it’s always more complicated than that.
on. I noticed he was withdrawing more and last night he sent me a text that he wants to break up .. We had a good relationship as friends but us getting closer is ruining that.. He wants go back to us being friends… We did talk and he said it’s not me .. He doesn’t feel mentally or memotionally prepared to be in a relationship with anyone.. But it’s killing me and I don’t believe that it wasn’t me… If he liked me still he would want to be with me.. He said he really wants to go back to friends and see what happens in the future.. I think he’s just telling me this appease me .. I don’t know what to do .. I’m having a hard time with this .. I feel like I may have pushed too hard and he just wants away from me
What you’re sharing with your girls he is more than likely just stomaching and telling the majority of his friends that everything is “all good.” He definitely remembers the good things about your relationship as well as the bad, we all do. The mood we are in when reflecting back is what controls the perspective. Meaning, if you can have him in a positive head space and not a negative one while you approach him looking for reconciliation, you’re much more likely to trigger memories of a pleasant nature rather then unpleasant memories.