You’re overthinking it.. The nc rule is for you to focus in yourself, so that when you initiate and try to rebuild rapport, you’ll be thinking rationally instead of being emotional. We only recommend up to three tries after nc.. after that if it doesn’t go well, that means it would be better to move on.
First, we broke because of her doubt on me with another lady. But it was a very fair relationship and I was almost like a mentor for her and she helped me in some financial troubles. I kept it hidden not to worry her for a long time and she caught us over phone red-handed. That was a very serious and she resigned. But I beg pardon and I explained everything she forgave me. she back again and normal. but so suspicious in every relation even with my relatives. it happened once more when I kept hidden something not to worry her and broke again. Again managed to get but She asked me to cut all suspicious relationships and I accepted. I’m so sincere to her till this moment and never thought about any other dating relationship even before I met or after we fell in love. she is the second lady with whom I had the physical relationship in my life after my wife.
I have a big gigantic crush and he used to like me and then my BEST friend told everyone in my class that I have a crush on him and everyone told him and now he hates me… no body can replace him I have nothing to do!!! can any of you help???
I have successfully started cross-fit, a new job and become open in possibly moving for my career and taking the next step in growth. I have also sought therapy, opened myself back to God, and dove into various self-help books.
Think of it this way, if you do this set of messages correctly then you have a good chance of getting your ex to feel the same feelings you are feeling and they will start to remember how great your times together were.
paragraph addressing half of the elephant in the room, that when he said he is overwhelmed, that respond overwhelmed me, and I didnt say those words but reacted in that way. I understand I am very scared of abandonment. I had a gut feeling of you backing out, hence I was walking on egg shells and did not even bring up the topic. Probably if I had, we would have had a different situation. That I have anxiety and I acted out of a place of fear when you said not to come without any explanation and to not call you too. Something to show my vulnerable side and how this time apart, I have thought about it. And it applies to us and that day’s conversation. Without putting nay blame on him. (I do think that knowing I have anxiety he should have handled it better, what he did is the nmber one trigger for me, but I do not want to go there, and I am going to chalk it off to us still exploring each other.)
Its been 2 weeks ive started the no contact rule. I broke it once on Christmas day wishing her a merry Christmas. She didn’t reply ive left it alone. Just wondering how long untill i make contact with her again and ive make successful changes and avhieved my goals I’ve made.. just want to know how to approach and what to say to her.. Regards Theo Thanks.
The 20-question “True Love or True Loser?” relationship quiz is inspired by Dr Joseph Carver’s famous article “Are You Dating a Loser? Identifying Losers, Controllers and Abusers” and has been co-authored by Dr Carver. This quiz is intended to help you become aware of aspects of your relationship experiences which Dr Carver has associated with hurtful relationships and potentially, at particularly high levels, with the types of abuse sometimes linked to personality disorders.
My ex boyfriend & I have dated for 1 yr 8 months.we study on same campus & we moved in together after an year of dating.on the month of August we were on holiday.one evening we were chatting as usual then he happened to talk to me in a rude way.i then corrected him but he insisted tht he wasn’t rude & tht he won’t apologise.i got so angry and decided to keep quite.the following morning ,with no bad intention i called him and asked him why he wouldn’t admit his mistake.this resulted in2 the worst urguement ever.he said that i only complain abt his mistakes &only focus on his bad side, that i don’t appreciate him.we stayed without talking until the holiday was over.we reported back to sch on sep and told me he want us to break up & move on as grown ups.i insisted that he should give me a chance to correct my mistakes.he then said i didn’t do him any wrong.he gave a reason tht the r/ship wasn’t working.deep down me i knew things weren’t right & so i started working on myself.i bought him an expensive gift to show that i appreciate him.he accepted the gift bt told me that he wanted to live his life the way he want & party alone with his male friends.i let him do that &supported him by paying for the night-outs since he wasn’t well financially.i did that because I wanted him happy.that has been going on for a month.but he hasn’t changed his mind about the break up.he said that we should live separately and actually he has started looking for his own house.yesterday he went ahead & deleted my photos from his instagram.i got angry & asked him about it.he became rude & bitter saying that we r nt dating anymore &told me to move on.when i ask him for a second chance to become a better girlfriend he insists that I’ve not done him any wrong.he says he don’t want to date,he don’t want any girl in his life,he don’t want anything to do with love.he says there are many things he want with his life &that he wants to be on his own.i feel so much pain.i’ve given up on him.actually I’ve hurt so much while fighting for him &convincing him to stay.im so broken and I’ve told him that he will never hear again from me.why is he doing this?whats happening? Will he ever come back or want to be in a relationship with me again?help me please.thanks
3rd broke up(while improving on myself(not doing enough), we were chatting about things i did in the past, cant exactly remember if i confess everything in a proper manner to her, being not wanting to hide anything from her, i gave her a recap and told her everything, the very next day, she left)
Me and my ex were together for 4 years and broke up almost 2 months ago , because we were having too many arguments because of which he’s hurt and he says there’s no future because we don’t get along that well, and argue a lot . So he decided to break up, I tried to make an effort but he’s not ready , he’s blocked and deleted me from everywhere . I did act pushy and needy , but it’s been 10-12 days since I haven’t contacted him , do you think there’s a chance that he’ll come back ?
hi kelvin, I broke with my boyfriend before six months after long relationship means five years he is 27 and am 28. we live in distant to work and only met to holiday and to break.we had no any sex history during those years I said to him sex must be after marriage and he said ok .before a year I said to him i don’t want him anymore but not from my bottom but the reason was we were in distant specially I was working in harsh environment plus and community and i was always want him in my side means I was always waiting my boyfriend to visit me but he was always busy this was the reason. and his friend call me and ask why i became like this and i understood my fault and I was calling to him but he was ignoring me and one day he was picking my calls and we were talk and regret each other and i back to my family to searching job and within two months we dated only two days but I need more date with him but he was busy and I was going to his work place and asking him why ignoring my calls and he said that he need clear cut I said why and we’re plan to date and to talk about it but we didn’t met. As he said now he was waiting my calls first but I was trying but he ignoring me after that I always messaged to him but no respond and again I was going to his work place with gifts he was surprised and dated to the next day and we did and I was asking why he was ignoring my calls he said he don’t want me any more he need freedom without stress and expose him self new hobbies like smoking cigarette ,drunk alcohol and chewing stimulate plants and i did no contact to 30 days and i did text to him no respond and what can I do next
5. Go out on a date. This is absolutely essential and if you are reading this, then I will recommend that you definitely go out on a few dates before ending no contact with your ex. It’s absolutely imperative for you to get some perspective right now and meeting new people is the best way to do it.
I HAVE READ ENOUGH OF THESE POSTS. PAY ATTENTION! I STILL EXPERIENCE SAID HEARTACHES. Going on 40 years now. But I know that you will find yourselves in a place of much happiness, contentment, and a good night’s sleep. Best advice Ever: