my girlfriend of 3 and half years broke up wit me 5days ago without no reason. she is a Muslim Y I’m a christian. she said that her mum said that she cannot date christian and I converted to Muslim because of her. this girl love me so much bt she changed to me before even broken with me. if I tell her I want to see her, she we tell me we can’t see. if I tell her I love u she will not reply me. so with dis I decided not to call her for 4days just to see weda she will call me back bt she didn’t call me. so I decided to call her bt she refused to pick my call nd text me back dat she have d person she’s dating now. yesterday she call me and I pick it bt she didn’t say anything.please I need ur advice because I so much love her and I want to get her back.

Take her out. If she agrees to go out with you, you better do it right this time. You’re lucky enough to be getting a second chance, and third chances are hard to come by. Make the most of your time together and make sure to treat her right. Here’s what to do:

Write down your hopes and interests. Whenever you’re feeling self-possessed enough that you don’t need to vent in your writing, try listing your talents, hobbies, interests, ambitions, and dreams. You’ll be reminded of how much else there is in your life aside from your ex.

You have to make sure your ex-girlfriend initiate contact with you. However, don’t make her look like you are ignoring her. Always be cheerful and happy and act like you are completely okay with the breakup. Let her lead the conversation and put in most of the work when talking with her.

How about you? How much is all this worth to you? What is the value of discovering these insider secrets to tear through the barrier of your breakup and have her racing back to you? What is the value of shielding yourself from the months of misery and crippling uncertainty, wondering if you’ll ever get back together?

About 2 or 3 years ago I met this guy named Austin and I dated him for like a few days to a week then he would break up with me. A few days later he would ask me out and I always said yes. Well we dated for 2 years on and off. Anyway he dated me and his ex with some other girl at once so me and his other girl Brittany broke up with him while his ex Kayla wouldn’t. About 3 or 4 years after our break up he texts me and asks me if I know the number he texts me from and I said yes but the problem is that I’m depressed. I miss him and I don’t think anyone or anything could replace it. My friend is trying to get us back together but I don’t think he would. When we had to go to school we still stayed up all night on the phone then when we got home we would be on the phone til the next day. I really can’t explain it but I’ve been depressed, cried a lot, pray for us to be together and much more. Please help me I don’t know what to do!!

Start dating again. If your old flame does respond to your advances and wants to start dating again, too, then it’s time to celebrate — but not too much. Remember to take things slow, to be a gentleman, and to ease back into the relationship. Enjoy dating, telling each other how you feel, and kissing and cuddling, and take the time to reflect on how much you mean to each other instead of rushing right back into where you started.

I just want to let you know that I respect your decision to end things and that I saw it coming for a while. It just didn’t feel right. Also, I would like to apologize for how I acted during the break-up. It wasn’t right for me to force you into something you didn’t want; it was disrespectful, and for that I am truly sorry.

Alice, Your comment highlights a vital point. Upgrading skills only works if BOTH partners are willing to make skill upgrades. If only the partner of the abuser is making changes, the odds of success are close to zero. Worse, becoming more assertive with a violent partner can be downright dangerous.

So this is my story, I met a girl in college who is a couple years younger than me and throughout that year and the next we just had an unbelievable relationship. We would talk everyday and occasionally see each other on weekends. I knew she liked me through her friends and she knew I liked her, but we never were official boyfriend and girlfriend, but there were times when we both hinted at that outcome. I told her that I want her in my life and she wanted me to be in her life, but not in the same way. I texted her saying I couldn’t be just friends with her and that I’ll always have love for her because she was the first person I fell in love with in my life. 8 months ago I made a huge mistake and went over to her house back home unannounced and did it so no one would know I was there to drop off a handwritten letter after texting her; I went over to her house 3 times because the first two times I was afraid of what she would think if I did that when I hadn’t been over there before. This mistake backfired on me and she found out I had been stopping by her house a couple times before, and it creeped her out now she has blocked me on every social media accounts and I haven’t talked to her in 8 months. I’ve been thinking a lot about her like everyday morning, during, and at night before I go to sleep, and even dream about her. I know she isn’t my ex but in other peoples eyes she was definitely more than just a friend to me, and I want nothing more to have her back in my life, but I’m pretty sure she hates me and doesn’t want anything to do with me anymore. What should I do? I moved across country for work, but found out some family stuff is going on that I might have to move back home to where she and I both live, and I know that once I do I’ll be reminded of the fact that I lost the only girl I cared about and it is killing me inside. Asking for advise on what to do, and if there is anything I can do to make her trust me again and hopefully someday have her back in my life

To his relief, Peter began to experience his small apartment somewhat more positively. Now it felt like a cozy place to read and enjoy time alone. His loneliness, too, began to abate to the point that some evenings he even preferred staying home alone to running out to activites with others lest he drown in the pain of loss.

However if you dumped her but you’ve realized you made a huge mistake, and now you want her back, see my article on that topic in the “blog” section of this website, because all steps on this page show how to get your ex back if it’s the girl who ended it.

My ex girlfriend dumped me last night. She said that I treated her better than anyone ever had before, and when I asked why she was breaking up with me she said it was because I treated her more like a friend then a girlfriend. I was okay with it and trying to start to move on but then she texted me and said “I hope that this break up wont be a permanent thing and that I hope someday soon we can get back together”I have no clue what to do but I would like to get back togethersince she was the only girl I actually readily liked. Please help.

You can start with “Hey! Wassup” followed by the routine talk asking her of health and job issues. Now when she starts replying real fast you know it is time to ask her of meeting. It could be arranged on any of the place you both liked in the past like a café, restaurant romantic beach opening or even a shopping mall. But keep in mind that you do not need to take it faster. Relax and wait for the partner to ask of it. You know that she is eager for this.

The Ex-Factor Guide even contains the specific mistakes that you should avoid doing if you want to boost your chances of making your ex-girlfriend come back. By strictly following all the information gathered in the Ex-Factor Guide, you will gain a positive response from her, which is a big help in improving your confidence significantly.

Be proud of yourself for working hard to get your ex back. At least now you know that it wasn’t worth it after all — it’s better to know the truth than to wonder what could have happened if you fought for his heart again.

Update: I caught up with my ex girlfriend recently and she told me she doesn’t love me anymore and she was quite clear and her feelings faded a while ago and she was just in the relationship for me, not for her. She doesn’t want me anymore and I’m obviously depressed. This is the girl I wanted to marry. I don’t think any amount of no contact is going to help my situation at all as she said she wants to be alone for a while and is ok with being single the rest of her life. What do I do now? She’s already deleted photos of us and me off Facebook and told me she won’t add me back on Facebook. She doesn’t want anything to do with me as the trust she had for me went a long time ago. She always suspected me of cheating when I’m never did anything of the sort. 5 years spent with this girl to end like this. She caught me off guard and left me. And she’s much happier without me. Someone please help me. What do I do? Is there any chance of getting her back at all? I want her back

Tracing strong reactions to current life events back to their origin in earlier experiences can enable a person to identify what felt the same then and now. The healing question then is to find what in the present situation is different.

Listen closely.  Women have patterns of psychological behavior – and if you learn to harmonize with those patterns, you can get any ex-girlfriend back into your life — virtually with mathematical certainty. [otp_overlay]