Joe (you remember me telling you about Joe) damn near killed me when he ended our relationship. I thought for sure my heart would shatter into a million pieces and I’d never love again. Even now, seeing a picture of him makes me cringe a little inside. If I looked at his picture every day, every memory we ever made together would come flooding back and I’d never heal.

You will also receive a comprehensive guide on how you can approach him and communicate your plan to get back to him. The guide will also let you gather information on some signs that will help you determine whether it is the perfect time to approach him.

SIDE NOTE: One thing I want you to see here is that to your ex or any other girl, your DMV/ perceived superiority is as high as your behavior makes it, and is only partially related to your job, income, looks etc. This is why no guy reading this has any excuse for not being able to become the kind of guy his ex wants for a relationship.

In all fairness, it’s not like you were born with an arsenal of tools for fixing a damaged relationship. It’s not like someone can physically take your hand and magically reunite you with your lover. Or can they?..

What kind of relationship do you imagine with him? This is important to know what you want exactly — the more detailed it is that you want, the universe will give you something that matches exactly what it is that you want.

Today was the day I did not respond his text, however he called me and I answered. Do I still ignore his text when he tells me that he will disappear and not bug me anymore? So lost and confused, will this 4 weeks detox really work? Help

I lost the love of my life over something stupid that I did. Long story short, I lied about my age. Although she didn’t care about my real age, it was the lie I carried on for a year that was part of the reason we broke up. She came from an emotionally abusive marriage and had baggage from that. And two kids who I came to love dearly – and who got along very well with mine. I know that she had issues stemming from childhood, specifically trust. But she’s an awesome girl – the love of my life, my parallel. But I messed up – I lied. Honestly, the lie started because I was afraid that she would be turned off when we first met (she’s 28 and I’m 48)…so I told her I was 44. Every time she brought up age stuff, I steered the conversation away. I wanted to tell her so many times but I knew that if I did that would end things. So I let it go and my heart is breaking because of it. It was her abusive ex-husband who cued her in and she defended me to him until I admitted it. Now, she won’t have anything to do with me. The breakup ended VERY BADLY. Probably the worst I’ve ever experience. Yelling/screaming/crying/etc. She said she can’t believe a word I said and felt like I used her for sex. She said that if I ever contacted her again that I’d be sorry. So I haven’t. At first after the breakup I did what everyone does – texted/called/emailed. I didn’t know of these steps. At any rate, she won’t talk and the last time we did I was met with extreme hostility. I know this one is done. Had I followed this advice there might have been a chance. But I doubt even that. Lessons learned the hardest of all ways. I wanted to marry her. It would have been my second and her third. I love her with all my heart and soul – she his my parallel. The yin to my yang.

Now that you’ve arranged the meetup, at some non-romantic place I hope, it’s time to get your game face on. I know you want him back, but doing this the right way to make sure it works out this time will take some time and patience. Play your cards right and all will be back to normal sooner than you know!

Catching up with guys who have a crush on you can be a lot of flirty fun. But sometimes, you also need to meet new people. In everyday life, humans intuitively have the need to please others and make a good impression. By meeting friends of your friends, you’d find yourself feeling great and completely normal, just like you’ve always been for years. People only miss their ex when they’re lonely or unoccupied. By meeting new friends who don’t know about your break up status, you’d end up forgetting you’ve just broken up yourself.

If your boyfriend were serious about breaking up, he wouldn’t still be talking to you. Learn why his words and actions are actually him keeping the door to your relationship open for possible reconcilation.

Social media is a very useful tool when it comes to how to get her back. I have some great strategies that have worked very well for lots of guys. What are these strategies? Again, it’s all in that video I keep talking about.

Now you know what you’ve lost, and you are about to get it back. Nobody can guarantee you that you’ll end up being together again – but, in at least 90% of the cases, it’s totally possible. You must believe in the possibility.

It is not always easy to want someone back so badly and see them in another relationship with someone else. I put this section together to give you some advice on how to handle what you are feeling. Remember, just because he is dating someone new doesn’t mean your chances are gone completely. Sometimes men need to go out with someone new to realize just how good they had it with you.

Hello! On another article on the thought process the guy goes through in NC, I commented that he can’t possibly be thinking of me, because you don’t think of things you throw away. My opinion changed: Thursday night, day 20 of NC he wrote me “Hey” I saw it in my notifications and decided not to write back, because the no contact rule is 30 days and I was also extremely scared. I thought for example that maybe he just wanted his books back (I still haven’t given them back), but then I thought, if that was the case, he would have written that already to avoid conversation. I talked to my mum and she said I should write back, because she believed, if I didn’t write back he would never try to contact me again. The next day I still hadn’t written back yet and I waited until after a three hour exam. I then talked to a mutual friend of mine and my ex and she said I should write him to see what he wants and she also said, I should write as if I were pissed off with him (I obviously didn’t, I have bad experiences of doing such with former crushes) and I wrote back “Hey”. He asked how I was and I asked him bla bla bla and he wasn’t feeling well. He vented his frustration about his problems with his parents (he has a very bad father-son relationship with his dad) and then he thanked me for trying to cheer me up (I actually only said my opinion) and I asked him how I should answer that. Of course he didn’t know, but after some time he apologised for “bothering me with his problems” and I made the mistake saying, he can talk to me if he has a problem. In that same message he also said that he had been thinking about me a lot recently and he needed someone to talk to. I was proven wrong about the not thinking about trash you threw away thing. I guess I’m not trash?? Jokes aside, should I do the no contact rule from the start again? Have I ruined my chances of getting him back, because it’s only been 3 weeks? Please tell me, this is urgent… thanks

Omg I’ve been doing everything the wrong way. I moved out of m bf’s after we got in big argument cause I got home from work late. When I was actually at my therapist office asking for advice how to communicate better with my ex. Long story short, he got mad cause I deleted text messages that day. Ever since moving out he has “trust issue” so it’s been up and down. This is the longest we’ve gone without communicating or hanging out. I feel like he feels he has me so secure. I also have the messages he got so mad that i deleted i tried to show them to him but he won’t see them, I think he knows he over reacted and doesn’t want to see he was wrong. Sometimes i feel like just sending him the messages.. should i?

PSYCHOLOGY: This one is more complicated, and this is where you can put your magic to work.. Psychology is actually pretty simple if you know what you are doing. The only problem is, people act in the wrong way to get their results, and mess up their chances in the process. However, if you KNOW what you are doing, you can play your ex’s feelings like an instrument.

Even if you weren’t clingy, no contact is still something you should apply as you the relationship ended on a sour note, and he may harbor negative emotions towards you right now. NC will help give both parties some space to let go of those emotions before attempting anything again.

The reason you must answer these questions to yourself is so that you can determine a couple of things. First, do you really want to get him back, will you be happy or are you just lonely right now, but deep inside you know that it probably won’t work out if you get back together? You must believe that things will work out between the two of you and that you can be happy together again. Otherwise, if you don’t have total belief in this relationship, then it’s not worth trying to get him back.

I think you should consult a therapist. You should try distracting your mind for the best results. Also, it’s totally up to you, whether to expect to return back, or move on and lead a better life. Decision making is important. Make sure, you do good, and it’s for your happiness.

I currently going thru a separation, my husband left me for a girl with 3 kids and iT has been very hard to get over him. I always have been thinking that its my fault. I tried ti get busy and think about me and my lil one but it just too much sometimes….I think I really need to think about me and how much im worth.

Stop talking: The best of choice is to stop talking for a moment. This is the best of advice one can give as a love guru. Because always keeping on talking can be stressful and result in some useless talks that can destroy an entire relationship of many years. So just calm yourself and think for a moment that what went wrong in many years of relationship. Is it your work, talks, or heavy schedule? And then try to compromise on it. It’s in the best interest of you.

Gives me chills. My Ex boyfriends behavior surrounding our breakup has confused me greatly. I still care for him despite the way he has handled himself. I keep beating myself up for it. But why? I’m just a loving person. He on the other hand, lives in fear of love. He was neglected by his mother from the time he was born, and I have always suspected that this plays a huge role in why he is unable to connect with anyone, why he always runs instead of confronting and trying to solve his problems. I keep telling him he needs to face them. But he doesn’t listen, and I realize that there is nothing I can do to change that. I feel so sad for him.

It is three weeks since I contacted him after No Contact rule. He has been lovely himself like a few months ago. I have initiated texting once in a while. Not everyday though as I know he is working a lot. We have got to meet a few times just quickly and he asked me twice about going for a coffee when he has time. Last week I got to know that we’ll be working next weeks some shifts together (As he is helping our mutual friend with the grocery store (our mutual friend owns the grocery store where I will start an internship) as she has some health issues. How should I handle those working situations? I really worry if I will mess up working because he is there. But then I have thought that I just friendzone him and stay calm. I have also thought if I could do some flirting. I don’t want to show him I am still interested. Should I stay more distant or give some hints?

And after the break up my ex husband indicated he wanted me back (we have two kids) but I refused because I want someone better. Also, interestingly right after the break-up my former neighbour asked me out for a drink through facebook. But I did not want to play with others since I am into my ex boyfriend. So I refused especially because I know that my neighbour would be serious about the relationship. He was trying with me previously, confessed his feelings but he is too simple for me: I mean he is not interested in deeper things and I am. So I refused him previously as well. And I am chatting with a guy who is quite interested in me. So as you can see I dont have to feel that I would not have any other chance. I am on dating sites. I am friendly and quite ok for my age. Also, i have 4 degrees. So I am not absolutely stupid. Men are attracted to me. And I am 38. I am after a 20 year long marriage so obviously I know my feelings for this guy wont last forever. I am not that naive. The main point is that: I would like one more chance with this guy because maybe we would get on very well if I try seriously. And since I realized that I need not only sex but someone who loves me and who I can love, at the end of the day I have to change my approach/behaviour anyway. So why not now and why not with this guy. It is not that easy to find someone who is interested in deep-speaking and still sober enough and who behaves in a loving way towards me. Also we were perfectly in synch in sex. So what else would I want? Of course maybe it wont work. I am realistic. I know this guy only for 3 months and we had fights. I am nornmally not an agressive type but I was the one who started the fight, he remained polite while I was swearing. This shows that I tried to protect myself from emotions. He realized that it is my fear but i did not want to realize. And you know I want this only if it works well. Basically I dont want this guy at any cost but I wanna see where it goes if I really try without fears. Maybe he is the right person for me.

When you’re feeling blue because you’ve been dumped, it’s tempting to just curl up on the sofa and wallow in your misery. But by doing this, you’re falling into your familiar patten. Instead, you need to break the link by doing something different. Keep yourself busy by doing something – anything. It could be something as simple as a puzzle or something as hectic as more hours at work.

However, it did make me get over the guy that I was dating who had broken my heart. So, the sex worked. In fact, sometimes (and I did say SOMETIMES) the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. Just make sure that someone you’re under isn’t another ex.

I feel you on the impatience. I am so sick of the cycles up and down. When I’m down I’m so out of myself, I can’t function. I just cry and cry. I can’t label it, I just hurt. It feels like its never going to end and I get so frustrated and mad at myself for still feeling like this 5 weeks later, especially now knowing he was never sad and feels most likely relieved and excited to be out of the long distance relationship we had and the stress of my adult life responsibilities (he still lives with his parents, doesn’t have debt or his own credit card, his new gf is 23 and fresh out of college working at a daycare and lives in his town).