I broke up with my boyfriend more than 2 months ago and I went through the process of breaking off with him so hard. I’ve been in a long distance relationship with this guy over a full year. In fact, I knew him 17 years ago. We reconnected on Facebook when he divorced his ex-wife about 2,5 years.

It works better with guys you know in real life, but if you’re having trouble getting started then pick your favorite actor. The important part is that you do this once per day, and that you really stick with it. It might not seem like it’s doing much at first, but in reality it’s detoxing your mind consciously and unconsciously from your ex, and putting you in a much better mental state.

It was just a mask. Beware, as if you both go back to your old ways of arguing and dealing with problems, you’ll get back to where you were – apart.  Don’t let that happen. Don’t get lazy and don’t take things for granted. The first few weeks of being together again as also the first few weeks where he’s most likely to “run for his life” and leave you or just decide that you shouldn’t have gotten back together in the first place.

I want you to take a second and imagine something for me. You are at a crowded bar with a group of your friends. Now, since you are a nice person you offer to go buy drinks for everyone in your group.

It will, promise. Anyone who’s come out the other side of a breakup knows that. But if you’re currently in the trenches of a potent heartbreak, that’s not exactly comforting. We won’t sugarcoat it: The unfortunate truth is that having a broken heart sucks and it’s going to continue to suck — until it doesn’t.

When someone says “think positive”, that means there’s absolutely nothing negative to think. And when there’s nothing negative to feel, you will not have any negative emotions. How can you have negative emotions when you only think happy and positive thoughts?

i just recently have a breakup with a guy whom i really love by my heart.i love him so freaking much..even i cant think about ur separation likes this..it was one sided love from my side..its just happened because of her sister as she reads our conversation on social media….i want a good and wants a good suggestion tht how can i forget him from my life despite knowing the fact i cant.i dont understand what to do.. i m just crying over n over again..i cant handle myself without himm..my life is being confused taking to him..i became in mentally depression because of him..

Tracing strong reactions to current life events back to their origin in earlier experiences can enable a person to identify what felt the same then and now. The healing question then is to find what in the present situation is different.

You are right that you may not be able to use the good memories from your past relationship in rebuilding attraction with him. But that is only a small part of the plan. The biggest thing that attracts an ex back is the changes you make in yourself. If you can show him that you have truly changed and are a new person after you have finished no contact, you can definitely attract him back. Read this article for more info on what to do after no contact.

Example…if you both equally enjoyed Italian foods and hit up different Italian eateries obsessively together. It would work to send a subtle text about a certain Italian restaurant you just ate at or are eating at and that it reminded you of him.

Hello, after a relationship of 2 years with my bestfriend (since 5 years) I heard from one of his mate he was already with this girl from his class. I taught she was a rebound because 3 weeks after the breakup they already were dating. My ex told me that he would tell me if he has a new girlfriend but he never told about her. But now I think she is more than a rebound.. It’s been 2 months and they follow the familymembers on instagram. I don’t understand him, why doesn’t he just tell me he has a new girlfriend? I’m the kind of person who wants always the best for the other person. I told him I want him to be happy, even if it’s not me who makes him happy. We had a fight last month because I still had contact with one of his best friends. He told me he could not party with me on NYE because he couldn’t be drunk in the same room as me (we have a lot of common friends). I wrote him a letter to say I’m okay with the breakup and I think it’s for the best to give each other space. He didn’t respond on the letter, but after that he puts more snapchats in our friends group to make me look at it. I don’t understand him?

If I am being completely honest it was kind of cool at first but now you guys can get a little annoying sometimes. I mean, I just wish you would listen to me. I tell you to do (thing A) to get your ex back and you don’t do it. Then after you fail at getting him back you come back here feeling sorry for yourself. The truth of the matter is that your overall success rate would drastically increase if you just got out of your own way. Instead though, you think too much and feel really bad for the situation you are in.

Almost 2 months ago my ex broke up with me and a few days later he got into a relationship with someone else he told me how she makes him happy and how shw treats him good 9 days ago when we were arguing through text one of the last things he said to me 9 days ago was I don’t want you in my life I am happy he then changed his number and deleted his whatsapp do I have any chance of getting him back or should I just accept that it is over ?

Since you guys shared a meaningful relationship, there would be a chance for you guys getting back together but you have to work on those issues first or the same problems would occur again. I suggest applying NC and spending time and focus on those issues like trust, insecurities and overthinking. Understand why you feel this way and try to change it. The best thing you can contribute in getting back together is to change yourself as that’s always the most effective.

In our therapy sessions Peter recalled that in his family expressions of anger were not allowed.  As a young boy with no one who would listen when he felt negative feelings, Peter often felt abandoned.  

Break ups cause grief, the process is different for everyone. I was married for 26 yrs to an emotional abuser with some violence but mostly mental abuse. The father of my two grown children and grandchildren who are my saviours. I think this marriage contributed to a feeling of low esteem which made me first reject close relationships as I was afraid of intimacy and thgt sex was the answer. I was single for 4 years just dating then I fell deeply in love with two men at differing time periods both controlling in different ways. One lasted 3 years and we are still friends after 17 yrs the last one was for 12 years. I am still broken hearted about my last love, he withheld love and let me down, typical not answering phone for days then I found out he had cheated and he just denied and denied it. Seemed to want me but would pull away if we got too close. However we were happy in each other’s company sex was fantastic and we enjoyed similar things. He never wanted to know my family and would prefer to spend vacation time with female friends and family without me. I left him 18 months ago and moved out of town new job and nearer my family. We continued to see each other long distance saw each other last 3 months ago. Mostly I initiated contact but he always responded. Says he’s missed me but does not want commitment,crazy huh when we had 12 years together (not living together tho). I still miss him still love him and don’t see that going away any time soon. I have male friends and could start dating but at 63 not sure what to do. He is 50. I just take a day at a time i go on holiday with friends. I have more happy days now than sad days but it has taken a long time to get to this point. I am very lonely at times but don’t want to get involved again at moment. I have acquired two beautiful kittens who have been life savers and I am less lonely now I have them. I have great friends and family but I don’t think I will be the same ever again. It is harder as you get older. If you are young be kind to yourself and take a chance on love again. Don’t waste years grieving accept the break up as soon as you can and move on you have your whole lives ahead of you .

My ex and I have been talking ever so slightly lately but nothing substantial. About a month ago I asked her in person if she was mad at me and she said yes bc of stuff I said to another person. She didn’t tell me what I said or who I said it to. Honestly I have no clue. She added how she thought it was funny how I said that we would get back together one day(she dumped me) but that I closed the door on us even being friends. She’s only 23 and I’m the only person she dated. I’m having a hard time getting her to talk to me about it. A bit afraid to ask her in person bc she’s always surrounded with her friends at work and don’t feel it’s appropriate to show up at her home. She won’t reply to a text that involves talking about why she’s upset. What do I do? What are my options here?

Take this opportunity to get back in touch with you and fall in love with the woman who attracted him rather than spending your time thinking about how to get your boyfriend back. Get busy with your friends, your interests, and the things that make you YOU. Remember: you can lose a man, but you can NEVER lose yourself. If this man is worthy of you and is the right man for you, I guarantee that when he sees you are focusing on your own life he will realize what he’s missing.

You and your boyfriend just split up and you are hurting. You might be tempted to dive into the carton of ice cream in your freezer, or you could find yourself clicking on his Facebook or Twitter feeds. You need healthy ways of moving past this breakup so you can put yourself into a new and happier place. Hovering over his social network sites won’t help — it’ll make your eventual recovery harder.

If you didn’t break up, you would never meet that next guy that will come along. Yes – he will come along – but only if you think positively. Open up yourself to new opportunities by looking at things from the right angle. Your heart is broken because you let it be broken. You can’t get over your ex – not because of him, but because of yourself – you do not let yourself get over him. Allow yourself to move on. It’s easier than you think.