Hi am haleemah my boy friend broke up with me early this month he saw some messages o my phone chatting with other guts , have been neging him to please giveme a second chance but he wouldn’t listen ,I mesg he several times but he said he is no more interested but the truth is I love him and I didn’t cheat on him intentionally ,I only did it because of my ex but he didn’t believe me.pls I never your advice

The key here is to use your advantages to win him over again. New relationships are tough. It’s not always easy to learn all there is to know about someone. Even feeling comfortable around a new someone can take some time. This being said, him making a move BACK to you is much, much easier. And a lot of men are lazy and generally opt to take the easiest path possible. All you have to do is make that path an option.

He won’t notice the hole that you left in his life unless you let him. So if you’re still in contact with him, he won’t get lonely. If you’re still having sex with him, he won’t miss the sex and companionship. If you’re still emotionally engaging with him, he won’t miss the love and satisfaction of being with you.

You release dopamine and endorphins, two chemicals responsible to your emotional well-being, when you exercise. And you get hotter, too. Never underestimate the power of physical attraction to keep or attract a man again. Besides, whether or not you want to get your ex back, being physically fit and attractive is always a guaranteed self-esteem booster. You need lots of it after a breakup.  

A first out-of-bounds behavior is one thing. If the mistake is corrected and not repeated ever again that is a positive development and can result in continuation of a better-than-ever marriage. Continued deal-breaker behaviors however, I agree, are invitations to divorce.

In this case, should i inform her that I would not contact her for a while, or still answer her calls but keep the conversation to general topics and avoid getting to serious topics? Or should I just ignore her (and might push her more away)?

If you don’t focus on this section, then it is possible you can make one of the two mistakes while planning your ‘FIXIT’ date. It would be a crime if you take this date too seriously, but you don’t have to take it too lightly as well.

Try singing these songs for yourself repeatedly over a few days or better yet, a few weeks and see it’s effects: “Happy Song”, “Singing In the Rain”, “Whistle a Happy Tune”, “My Favorite Things”, “Clim Every Mountain”, “Something Good”. and every song that makes you focus on positive and joyful things in life that you can be thankful for….

Don’t be over-the-top in flooding your ex with dating requests, but put yourself out there and apologize often. Go out of your way to do something he will appreciate. And again, let him know you screwed up.

The best way to handle this situation is to stay calm and present yourself as you are happy in your life with him. If he meets you one-on-one then avoid getting into deep conversation with him. Just smile, say “Hello” and do your own business.

She could be confused still, unable to let go of the past, or perhaps she wants to start off as friends first and is trying to see how she still feels about you. There could also be the last option that she really just wants to maintain a friendship with you and is over you already. I suggest you take things at face value for now since it would be easier compared to second guessing at every turn. Just continue to build up a friendship and bond, before seeing how things go from there. Don’t be too impatient or you would push her away completely.

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Even though your initial feeling might be to fight the end of your relationship tooth and nail, there could be a lot of strong points as to why it ended. If he gives you the reasons why it ended from his point of view, muster up the courage to listen to him with an open mind and try to understand what he is saying and how he is feeling.