Throughout our courtship, I was utterly under the control of my ex-girlfriend. I let her walk all over me. She would call me at 4 A.M. and only stop calling when I answered. Being in college, I decided to drive down south where she lived to see if our relationship could work. I asked Mary to wait for me while I figured it out. She didn’t want to. Obviously.

Okay, that wasn’t my best joke. But I am sure you can do something better than that. More importantly, you probably know what tickles her funny bone. So, think of a joke that you think she will find funny and send it to her.

After a breakup, girls want help from their ex-boyfriend to recover from painful feelings of a breakup. You have to make sure not to become her supporting hero. You have to let her heal herself. When you are not around her, she has to feel the reality without you.

My boyfriend broke up with me over a month ago. He won’t answer my calls or texts and blocked me on Facebook. I am trying so hard to stop contacting him via text but it’s hard because we talked everyday for six months. I cry and miss him terribly and he won’t talk to me. I am trying to hard to do the 30 day no contact rule. my email is girl8eliza@hotmail.com

Note: Brad has provided complete steps on how to follow this 60-days no contact technique. In this technique Brad will show you how you can take full advantage of these no contact days so when you meet with your ex she will see completely new person.

Your main goal in this section is to just open up communication. Remember though, you want to be in control at all times. That means that YOU have to be the one to end the conversation. To make matters more complicated you can’t get into a full blown conversation with him yet. This is simply a small baby step that you are using to test the waters and gauge where you are at.

The day we broke up, we went out fishing with two friends and it was really cool, and we went to see some of his friends play handball ( which is a very important part of his liife, but i have never played, so don’t really care, but I wanted to make the effort for him and to be with him). I was doing so good until he decided to go play ball with his friends during half time, leaving me alone on my chair, while I had come to be with him. There were two people I had talked to before close by ( which was his excuse to leave me) but they were talking the foreign language and imagine how hard it is to engage in the conversation when you don’t know what it,s about and you need to switch language… So i got mad at him and told him it wasn’t cool to leave me on my own.

Bring out the memory when what makes you write that thing. If you don’t remember the specific situation, then let your imagination fills it. Close your eyes and improve your focus, remembering the anger-producing-memory as clearly as possible.

He broke up with me because we had been arguing for about 3 weeks on and off and he is not willing to forgive me for that, and he didn’t like the fact that I was being harsh with him. I recognize that I was, but there have been periods of time when he’s been cold towards me too and I forgave him and moved on.

If begging worked after a breakup, no one will ever break up with anybody. They decided to leave you and they are prepared to go through your begging and pleading. Whatever the reason for breakup was, it’s not going to change with your begging. The only thing that begging will do is make you look like a weak and insecure person.

“If you broke up because of an incidence of cheating, and the person is not a chronic cheater or liar, and you see your part in the cheating incidence, even if you were not the person doing the cheating — then there is a good chance you can work toward a healthy reunion and a long-term relationship,” says Masini. She explains that if you broke up because of a cheating incident and are willing to work on the reasons why it happened, what your part was in the problem and can let go of the past, you should absolutely consider getting back together. “Use the incident as an opportunity for greater intimacy.”

“You look amazing. You smell amazing. You look like you are doing great in your life. You look like you’ve been working out. You look happy. You look confident, sexy, fun and attractive. You look like a catch. Why did I break up with you again?” – Your Ex

Another thing that ties into it is what I call Covert Jealousy — that means making your ex jealous without making them seem like you’re trying to make them jealous. You can do this by dating other people!

He was my bestfriend for a while and then we found out that we actually love each other so we dated for a few months and then he told me that we should go back to being bestfriends to protect what we have because we can never be together or get married due to our religious beliefs.. when we started doing that he was already talking to another girl who follows the same religion as him and i got jealous and got into many fights with him about that .. that lasted for about 2 months and then he got sick from my craziness and told me that we should be just regular friends not even bestfriends and we shouldn’t text everyday or call each other unless there is something important.. that was about a month ago .. i begged him to become bestfriends again i talked alot and tried everything i could do but it was no use .. yesterday i talked to him about it again and he told me that being just friends is his final decision ans he won’t change his mind and i should act that way and just let it flow .. i hate the fact that he’s in control and that it was his decision to be just regular friends. Moreover, he and that other girl became really close I’m not sure if they are dating or not but i know that they talk and hang out alot .. we go to the same college so i see them together alot .. whenever he sees me he acts normal as regular friends .. what should i do to go back into being bestfriends again ? What should i do to win him back after he said that he already moved on? I’m not sure if the other girl is a rebound or everything between them is real also.

By the way, I am a real person.  I sent the author a testimonial because I was so happy and he asked me to put up this page for you.  His “Immediate Reconnect Strategies” worked for me and Lori when other books said to just wait 30 days or more or to try to make your mate jealous.  I would say that How To Get Your Love Back Now is straightforward, and I learned more about relationships and emotions from this one book than anything else I have ever read about this stuff. 

Keep in mind that this does not mean you should change who you are. If your personalities are incompatible, it’s probably best to look for a new boyfriend who appreciates you for you. If, however, you have some bad habits that you can address, go ahead and work on them.