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Thanks! I’m not sure whether is she still missing me now. I realise she might be seeing someone now who is actually her Friend for few years. I just recently make a Christmas card and mail it to her house. The card that I write doesn’t show any needy words like ‘I miss you’ or ‘I still love’. It’s just purely a simple Christmas wish for her. Will you please advise me that am I doing the right thing? Thanks!
Remember, in the introduction when I told you that I would have some strange requests that you might not understand but you should trust me anyway and do them because my plan is based on experience and has proven to work? And that when this plan fails it is usually because the person didn’t do EVERYTHING that I said to do?
The right approach is the biggest key to winning your girlfriend back. Unless you can address your breakup from just the right angle, you’ll end up running yourself over and over into the same brick wall of rejection.
I know I probably shouldn’t say this because it will just make things hard for you and me both. But I’m always here for you as a friend Ivan, I care about you and want what’s best for you, that’s the only thing that makes this whole process doable. I’m sorry Ivan I really am.”
If you’re in the latter camp, and your girlfriend has said things like, “I’m not sure what I want anymore,” or “I just need some time by myself to figure things out,” she’s likely questioning her own feelings, not yours. The appropriate (and most effective) response here is to tell her you understand her feelings, rather than try to talk her out of them.
If you still have any of the items that she gave you as gifts before, such as a jewelry, then make it a point to wear it when you’re planning to meet up. Such will send a clear signal that you are still not over her and you want her to be back in your life.
Follow the simple steps and instructions in the upcoming blog posts that I have on this blog. And do the Advanced Healing Process Assignments that I have coming along in my Ex Back Advanced System here for you.
I just want to let you know that I respect your decision to end things and that I saw it coming for a while. It just didn’t feel right. Also, I would like to apologize for how I acted during the break-up. It wasn’t right for me to force you into something you didn’t want; it was disrespectful, and for that I am truly sorry.
You could start with No contact and avoid making small talk with him for the time being. This article helps you deal with having to see your ex on a daily basis. Do that until you feel that you’re not as affected by things, and start with initiating a casual friendship to see if there’s still a spark, and whether the situation may be different this time compared to the previous relationship.
Don’t overthink it. It’s important to avoid falling back into old habits, but don’t spend all of your time obsessing about making the same mistakes again, either. Find a balance between enjoying your new and (hopefully) improved relationship and being wary of repeating the same mistakes. If you spend all of your time worrying about all of the things that can go wrong, whether it’s in a new relationship or during your second go-around, you’ll quickly sabotage your chance at happiness.
Well, chances are your ex knows that you love them and they know how much you care for them. In fact, if they were in a relationship with you, then they care for you too. But they decided to breakup anyways, didn’t they?
Me and my girl been dating for almost 18 months. And I became depending and demanding which leads to posessive attitude. Starts acting jealous and shit. The last months before we broke up we had a huge fight. We yelled to each other, and she hits and kicks me like crazy and I lose my temper back then. I slap her cheek once (not in purpose) and I cried over her because I felt so wronged for doing that. Things seems to go well, but all of a sudden she blow up some litlle mess into a reason for broke me up. She oftenhy hide something for me. Even lied to me. But I don’t know, my heart still beats for her. I even saw still her posting pics on our date. Been 6 months since we broke up and she never respond to my text and calls. I tried to hold it, but last week we talked through text. And I begged her to come back. Remind her things we used to do. But the answer is “no, I can’t be with you anymore” “don’t bother me!” “Go find another girl, or either I will” . She’s an introvert. I always honest to her. Never mess with any other girl. And I’m the one who took her virginity. I feel responsible for that. I don’t want another man used her! Need to get her back. But none of no talking method works. I feel guilty when I text and begged her after months I gave her own space to cool down. 🙁 I really love her man. Please help me. Desperately needed advice. Thanks a lot. -z-
Having been in a relationship for four years gave us the kind of closeness that other roommates couldn’t possibly have. There are no labels on the food in our fridge. We buy everything together, keeping an unofficial tally of who owes whom, and eat dinner together like a family. When laundry needs to be done, Katie does it (yes, she even washes my underwear) because she’s not about to stick her hand in the sink to pull out food that’s gotten trapped or wash congealed cheese out of a pot, which makes the dishes my domain. When I need someone to rub my feet after a long day of shopping in the city (usually with Katie by my side), she’s got me covered there, too.
The success rate of the coaching provided by the experts is high, but there is no 100% confirmation that you will get her back. In case you fail to win her heart again then don’t consider yourself as a loser, but move on in life. You will meet many more new girls that would like to have a boyfriend like you. You tried your level best to bring her back, but it is she who doesn’t love you and it is not a good choice to be with such a girl. Meet new girls, I am sure you will definitely find a new girl who will love you and it will be your responsibility to multiply the love towards her to live in a happy relationship.
Slowly approach her when the time is right. After enough time has passed and you’ve made it back on her radar, you should slowly start to make your way back into her life. It can be as simple as stopping to have a five minute conversation if you run into her, or casually sliding your tray next to hers at lunch, or even texting her if you know that she’ll love something that’s about to start playing on TV.
This is some seriously good s***! Though it’s seems rather challenging, especially waiting until step 7… and will take lots of self discipline I believe it’s totally worth a shot. There is after all nothing left to lose.
Well I tried adding her back on Facebook about 6 days ago and she hasn’t accepted. She told a mutual friend that she doesn’t want to accept and doesn’t want me to think that there’s still something there between us. Also she said that she was done with the relarionship but kept changing her reasons to the mutual friend. She has also deleted a lot of “couple photos” of us and has changed the description from “my man and my baby” to just nothing. It seems as though she’s trying to erase me out of her life. She also told this mutual friend that she can’t remember the last time I made her smile or laugh, which is a lie. I made an instagram post, she still follows me on there, and has seen a couple funny/silly videos i posted up on there but hasn’t “liked” any. Not sure if she did that on purpose or is genuinely not wanting me back at all. She seems quite set in her decision. Our mutual told me that she might be suffering from a mild form of depression due to hating her job so much. and she mentioned the girl I was talking to (the reason for our 1st breakup 4 years ago) and was angry about it. Seems like she’s still jealous about something that happened 4 years ago. Our mutual friend told her that a healthy amount of jealousy is a good thing and that she must love me if she’s mentioning that and is jealous about it. Our mutual friend believes that she doesn’t know what she wants. She went from quite an abusive relationship where she was emotionally and mentally abused and used up, and then she got me a guy that treats her like a princess.
Like I said, a little bit of jealousy is a good thing, but you can’t be too obvious about it or your ex will simply get irritated and your attempts at stimulating jealousy will have the opposite effect.
I know the Stoic thing to do would be to leave the past as it is and live hic and nunc. However, I am finding this tremendously difficult to do. I will go months without thinking of her and suddenly fall into sadness. This has been a barrier in my wanting new romantic relationships and I am not finding a Stoic way to accept my past without feeling emotional and hindered by it. I don’t want to ignore my memories of my relationship as I feel that this would be unhealthy, but I feel like getting back in touch with her would be equally unhealthy (given the two-year hiatus and the way we left things).
How much time do you leave her without contact? Good question. It depends if you have children with her or not. If you do, you don’t really have much of an option. But, if you don’t, give her at least thirty days.
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It is as old as the previous week when there was statistical analysis of the broken relationship and psychological issues. It states that the sole reason of unprovoked serious attitude of an individual is because of the result of remembering of people ex around.
It’s been a little over three months since my ex and I broke up. I’ve completed no contact and given my ex space, a task someone difficult because we work together. I never begged or been pushy did the right moves based on advice given on here and other places. She’s still will barely talk to me and will barely reply to text messages. Typically she’ll reply to the initial message, but getting a second reply doesn’t happen much. Back in September I purchased a Christmas gift for her and even though we broke up I still sent it to her on Friday. She replied thank you for the gift. You didn’t need to. Merry Christmas! Attached to the gift was a clean slate letter. She made no mention of it. I told her she was welcome for the gift. I asked her if she was going to be up for talking soon to clear the air. She never replied back. She isn’t seeing anyone, nor did we have a bad breakup. Since the breakup I have found out that she is mad at me about something I said but I don’t know what I said or who I said it to and she won’t tell me. We’ve had some positive interactions as of late at work, but she’s got a wall so high up now. Where do I go from here? Three months, no contact completed, clean slate letter given, space given, showed activity on social media sites as well and not much recoconcilation has occurred. What can I do? Or is it time to accept the fact that I’m not going to get her back?
Dating again to re-kindle the spark immediately after the breakup doesn’t usually work well, because not enough time has passed since then for real changes to have been made for fresh feelings to develop. Additionally, old habits would still remain, and it could easily turn into a situation where you face all the problems of a relationship, but not the full benefits of it since you guys are only ‘dating’. I suggest taking some time off to actually focus on yourself since he is doing the same, and gauge the situation again later on.
To humility and self-awareness I would add skills. That’s why I wrote my book Power of Two and the website poweroftwomarriage.com. I’d sure love to see more folks access the gratifications of a fully loving committed relationship….
As someone in his early 50s with his share of relationships that have come and gone, I’m tempted to simply tell you that you are young and that it will pass, a process facilitated by the likely fact that you will soon encounter someone else you will fall in love with. That sounds dismissive of your problem, but it isn’t meant to be. It is just a reminder to you that from time to time we need to step back and look at the broader picture, engage in a healthy Stoic “view from above” exercise, as Marcus often did:
The second one is asking yourself that whether the girl is safe to sleep with? Or do she have any of the symptoms of heavy diseases like aids etc. If not, then there are two ways of re-connecting with her.
If your ex is the one getting in touch with you, things become more complicated. It’s best to avoid her as much as possible, if you can. Try to explain to her that you need more time to get over her. If she still cares at all, she’ll do her best to respect your wishes.
There are certain texting and calling rules you can follow that will ensure you come across more attractively to an ex than you have been recently. These rules are simple but extremely powerful. Obviously they’re only simple and powerful if you know what they are. Once again, see my Category A video to learn more.
It happens all the time, people lose their girlfriends and they want them back, but it doesn’t happen. The reason why it doesn’t happen, is because you don’t know the tips and tricks that actually work. If you want to get an ex back, there are some things that you need to consider. The following are the best tips that you can take with you today to ensure that you’re going to get the upper hand in your life. These take time, so don’t think that you’re going to get through with this overnight. Take your time, gain some confidence and hit these notes in getting your ex girlfriend back.
Basically, by not “pushing” at all for a month they have no reason to keep “pulling back.” In fact, by not being around them at all the gap that was created by all the pushing and pulling that happened in the past may start to close.