Don’t overthink it. It’s important to avoid falling back into old habits, but don’t spend all of your time obsessing about making the same mistakes again, either. Find a balance between enjoying your new and (hopefully) improved relationship and being wary of repeating the same mistakes. If you spend all of your time worrying about all of the things that can go wrong, whether it’s in a new relationship or during your second go-around, you’ll quickly sabotage your chance at happiness.

I talked with lots of my friends and dating gurus before locating Michael Fiore regarding how to get an ex girlfriend back. “Come on… She was NOT for you.” said by one of my closest friend. Many friends suggested me to MOVE ON. At 29, I have no intentions to dating someone new because I knew I have deepest connection with my girlfriend that I can’t build with any new girl.

One day I’ve catched my girlfriend cheating. And then I decided to put her photos to my blog just to revenge her… Now I have a huge archive of EX girlfriends. You also have a chance to expose your wasted bitch here!

I cannot apologise enough for what’s happening now. And yes everything thing I read from you makes me feel guilty for doing it, but I’m afraid that’s as far as my emotions are going now. As time slowly passes the guilt lessons and I’m even more sure in my decision. I know these words will hurt but I can only sugar coat things so much. I’m sorry.”

You put your self-worth, your happiness, your dreams and your entire life on the back burner just so you could be with your ex. Sometimes, people do it just to hold on to the possibility of being with their ex in the future. It’s a direct consequence of begging and pleading. It makes your ex think “Well, if you are that desperate to be with me, then you must accept everything that I want.”

Avoid contact for the first month after the break-up. They will call you if they want to talk. If they don’t, nothing you say or wear will change that. Sometimes, ignoring your ex makes them feel like you are perfectly fine without them and are moving on, which is the exact opposite of what they want.

And the number one thing?  Build courage, confidence, and a philosophy of abundance by specifically working on your skills at attracting women outside of your social circle.  Yes, strangers.  The truth is, the fear that we don’t have control over our love lives is the greatest source of insecurity for most men.  I wrote The Anti-Pickup Line to chronicle how I overcame that and to teach other guys to do the same.  Read it.

The key to building good rapport (whether it be thorugh texting, calls, emails, or social media), it to make it attention getting. Don’t tell her about a happy hour you went to, she doesn’t care about that. If she really likes Disney Princesses, for example, find an article about the latest Disney movie and send it to her.

If it is not possible for you to go in depth with a woman, try out any random woman wherever you find. Tell her that I want to take a selfie with you and I want my ex-girlfriend to seriously think about me, so please make me hero in this one. It will surely do the trick.

For example, lets pretend that you and your ex girlfriend start talking on the phone and you encounter an awkward silence. Rather than sitting for a minute wracking your brain for something to talk about you could glance at your cheat sheet and know immediately.

Hi, I’m Les. My gf mentioned to break up due to another man and no more feeling with me, I’ve stopped this action taken as I can’t take it! We’ve been together around 5yrs. We never stay together. I was leaving the state around half year and she had ask me to stay but, I insist to leave due to good opportunity. I came back finally and she told me this. I nearly gone crazy as our relationship was quite stable. Never think this will happen. She keep saying no more feeling with girl, what can I do to get her back again coz I too love her. I’ve tried to make her think back how hard we start together and so on. I even pay more attention to her, Concentrate on her. Just feel like fall in love again. Feel like I can’t live without her now. I wanna die if breakup. Please help. PM me if possible. Thanks in advanced.

If you checked one or more of the above, I have some bad news for you. None — I repeat, none — of the above ploys will make your ex-girlfriend come back to you — no matter what the other so-called relationship “gurus,” books and courses tell you. 

When we finally said it aloud, I braced myself for devastating sadness. And I was sad (hence the crying), but it wasn’t the tortured, binge-on-chocolate breakup that Legally Blonde told me to expect. There was no explosive fight, or infidelity, or one-sided shift in feelings. We both just knew that we no longer loved each other romantically, while still knowing we’d always love one another as friends.

After a breakup, you feel depressed, angry confused, shattered, and are really hurting. At this moment, if your ex starts seeing someone else, it just tears you apart. You feel even more depressed and confused. And usually, when your ex is in this rebound relationship, they seem to become too intimate too fast, which makes it even worse for you, for example it took them 5 months to get physical with you and they are already sleeping with this new person who they are going with for only a week.

but now we broke up after 2 years and 3 months, 3 days ago. there wasnt a fight in the last conversation we had, the break up conversation. one of the things she told me is that she still love me she love me very very much and still cares, but shes just not inlove with me anymore. 2 days ago before the break up things were fine, but our relationship was a bit rocky in the past weeks i even gave her space. her aunt thats only year older then me and lives opposite me said that when she spoke to my ex she was excited for all the dates that was i taking her on, and then she just said that we should leave things but hope we can still be friends cause we were always good friends. i just agree to the things as broken as i was. her parents and family was all in shock of the news and said that i should maybe just give her some space and time just to get her head straight. some clothes of mine is still at her place and rings etc. she havent said or ask i must come fetch it yet, also on instagram photos of us is on there on her profile, havent removed it yet. and i admit that we did fight and alot the times it was my fault but i was things such as she smokes and stuff and what kind of boyfriends would let a beautifull girlfriend do that if he doesnt smoke. i havnt spoken to her since we decided to leave things.

The Doormat Syndrome in relationships is going out of your way, sacrificing your own happiness to please your partner. It means accepting everything that your partner wants you to do without having any demands of your own just to get back with them.

The unlikely good news: If it was you fucking up, you have a far better chance of reuniting. Just be warned, there will be significant effort involved. Your first plan of action is acknowledging your mistakes, and expressing regret. Think (really contemplate!) how your behavior has affected her. Let her know you understand the role you played in the relationship’s demise, and express sincere, painful regret. 

Need some advice here, my ex girlfriend/ girlfriend just broke it off after a night at the bar. The night started out with a romantic dinner and then we met her friends out at the bar.. We both had a great night until after bar close when we were trying to decide on what we were going to all do the rest of the night.. We ended up getting in an argument about something, to be honest I don’t remember, and she just told me to go home. She proceeded to walk away with her and a few of her guy friends so naturally I got upset. I contemplated on what to do and them decided to walk to her place.. That was obviously not a good decision, when I got there I got upset and accused her of not wanting to be with me and she went on to say that I followed her he and was stalking her which was not my intent at all.. After going back and forth I just flat out asked if we were over and if she even wanted to be with me and she responded no I don’t want to be. I then immediately started to try and plead with her and ask her why and kept trying to get her to talk to me about it and all she did was tell me to leave and go home, which I did after waiting for a cab for an hour.. On the way home in the cab I was so damn upset and sent her a text message that she didn’t care about me and that I was easily replaced by by one of her guy friends that was at her place with everyone.. She responded with what r u talking about and I then responded with I know your sleeping with him I could tell how lit up your face was when you looked at him and then told her one more time that she was going to sleep with him.. She responded back by saying she wasn’t and that I’m crazy. About a half hour goes by and she text me back that she misses me and said that she was getting a cab to come over.. So she came over and apologized for being a brat and apologized for the night.. I then asked her why she got so mad and she said she didn’t remember.. So I let it be figured we would talk in the morning about it, so we had sex and went to bed. The next morning comes and I try to talk to her and she said she didn’t want to talk about it so I did what I shouldn’t have and prayed at her a little bit to get her to talk and she flipped out and said I just want to go home so asked her again do you even want to be with me and she said I don’t know. I brought her home and when I dropped her off I asked if I could have a kiss and we kissed and she said ill talk to you later.. She finally got back to me 14 hrs later and said that she didn’t feel good and had been sleeping all day which I guess I can understand after a full night of drinking.. I did send her a text and left her a voicemail saying how torn up and confused I am about everything but didn’t say it in a demanding way at all.. The next day I sent her another message in the afternoon asking her if she would have time to talk in person and she said yea.. Being absolutely heartbroken at this point I decided to make her a huge bouquet of flower along with a handwritten card apologizing for everything that happened.. I brought them over to her place and she was still sleeping saying she didn’t feel good so I just dropped th off and we agreed to talk tomarow about things.. I’m just so confused right now, I know we have only been seeing each other for 2 months but I don’t understand how things coul end like they did I have been in this 100%and treat her like an absolute queen.. What should I so here I don’t want to loose this girl she is absolutely one of a kind and I genuinely care for her

Thanks so much for that post. It helped me out in a bad place. But, if the person I spent 9 months with, and who told me she loved me and couldn’t imagine life without me, doesn’t miss me, then who will? That’s been an enormous source of self-deprecation for me.

You and your ex girlfriend are texting. However, instead of following any of my advice you come right out and start getting down to the “emotional” stuff. This causes a snowball effect that eventually leads to a fight and you are right back at square one.

If you’ve been answering yes to lots of questions above, then it’s likely that you will answer yes to this one too. Why? Because believing that your girlfriend is the best chick you can realistically get, creates a scarcity mindset which brings out all the desperate and try-hard (i.e. unattractive) behaviors that we discussed above.

Be proud of yourself. Look around your life – you’ve got a full schedule, interesting hobbies, good friends, and maybe even a long-term project to work on. You’ve taken time to keep yourself balanced and work out your emotions, and you’ve acted firmly but ethically in dealing with the ties that bound you and your ex-girlfriend together. In short, you’ve taken a jumbled pile of feelings, thoughts, and hopes, and built yourself something beautiful with it. Be proud.

If you haven’t heard anything from them yet and it has been past a couple of days then this could mean a couple of things. They are either extremely excited by the prospect of moving forward with things and they can sense that you are trying to move things along but this also makes them extremely nervous.

Let’s say you and your ex-girlfriend used to fight all the time regarding your possessiveness. Rate yourself; are you too possessive? If so, you should understand that it is not healthy for a relationship. If on the other hand, you saw your ex-girlfriend with another boy, one who is more outgoing than you, so you must change? No. You’re should never change, but you can improve yourself.

The No Contact Rule- No texting, talking or stalking your ex for a full month. That is 30 days of essentially cutting your man out of your life. Remember, don’t dig into his life and don’t Google + or Facebook him.

Again, this is risky since there is a higher chance of him saying no. However, if you two were really making a lot of progress via texting and you really think he is feeling the same way you are about your current relationship then the “I was in the neighborhood method” may do the trick for you. The obvious advantage is that you get an instant date/meet up!

Hi, I started no contact with my ex who left me 2 weeks back. I would have been 4 days into no contact today but my ex asked for some belongings back, so I felt rude not replying. It was kept short and sweet and nothing but the belongings were discussed. Does this mean I have to restart no contact?