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He told his best friend’s girlfriend i smothered him which I was never home I worked, ran errands alone watched t.v alone at times and hung out with friend’s. He told his sister we bickered and that’s why…now I know I need to step away from his family, but I was told by his sister he is content, he misses me and is sad ,but he is OK with being alone. He just doesn’t want to be responsible for someone else right now…he told his sister not to tell him if I find anyone and he “says” he doesn’t want to date anyone for a while…all he has is his sister really his dad really just works and stays in his room.
Reason #2 – Creates Feeling of Loss: Another reason to use no contact is, it helps in developing the feelings of loss in your ex boyfriend’s mind. Your boyfriend will start thinking why she is not calling me. He will start getting second-guessing to his decision of breaking up with you. Once he starts getting these second-guessing thoughts it will be great helpful for you.
At the same time, in most abuse situations that I have worked with it is important for the partner also to learn to talk cooperatively. If the partner is sustaining needlessly provocative dialogue habits, that’s a big mistake.
“How long am I expected to live like this? The days are VERY lonely. It’s an unbelievably depressing feeling to wake up and immediately realize that I’m not home, and have no friends or family to talk with … I get up, I meditate, I swim, I go to work, I eat, I lift some weights, I meditate again and go to sleep. Wash, rinse, and repeat. I’m not enjoying work (which would normally be a decent distraction), but feel I can’t quit, as I have too many financial responsibilities I have to uphold. I’m amazed I haven’t gone mad yet.
While each situation might require different solutions, there are some universal truths when it comes to stopping and reversing a breakup. Learning the right (and wrong) things to do and say will help you map out a step-by-step blueprint for getting your exboyfriend back.
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So then I see a picture on insta of him & that girl & messaged him finding out they started dating less than a week after our last fight because “they just clicked” & right after finals he went to her house out of state & met her parents (she is rich & apparently has her own house). He said they really like each other but don’t love each other yet & isn’t even thinking about marriage. I told him it didn’t make sense why he’s with her & he said he had a change of heart/things happened fast. We had an ugly fight after that because I was so angry, it was the worst one & he said that’s why he left me. I made a lot of mistakes, really seeming needy but he’s blocked me on everything telling me he really likes her & I need to respect that. I said I did & just wanted to talk/be friends (which he said too) but he’s blocked me. I think it’s a rebound but he broke up with a girl like a month before meeting me & he says he completely shuts out exes. It doesn’t seem like they match but that he really likes her. I don’t know what to do but just really want him back since I’m committed to him but I feel like the more they’re together, they’ll fall in love & I’ve already made myself look like a fool. Help!
If you find yourself becoming obsessed with getting your ex back, relax and trust that things will work out for your greater good. If he doesn’t come back, understand that there may be someone else who is better for you. Let God, the Higher Power, the Universe (or whatever you believe in) bring you the man you’re supposed to be with.
Stop all contact. One way to make your ex jealous is to sever all contact between the two of you right after you split. Shoot for a decent length of time, like 3-4 weeks. This lack of contact may get your ex to think about what you are doing. Have you moved on? Are you dating other people? Are you over the break up already?
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Even Though there is no one that knows him as well as I do, it feels like I don’t know him at all. Being with these girls is super out of character for him but at the same time he is terrible at being alone. He is stabborn and narcissistic and I was always the one keeping things toget her between him and everyone around him, keeping his life stable in his own chaos.
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If you try to convince your ex that this new person is not right for them, it’s only going to make them want it more (think of telling someone to not press a button and they’ll definitely want to press it). They might even let the rebound relationship run longer just to prove you wrong.
Now you got breakup in your relationship and your mind is full of mix feelings about your ex. You may be thinking what to do next? Start dialing, emailing and texting your ex boyfriend to show you still love him?
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Have an open discussion. Unfortunately, there’s no surefire way to know if your ex-boyfriend wants to get back together with you without asking him. When you feel you’ve had enough time to show him the new and improved you, have an honest conversation with him, letting him know that you still have feelings for him.
I so wanna do this nc thing but when i do say 2 days, he will text me little questions like “do you remember where i put my …” And i have never never ignored him at all. Yes he has signs of a narcissist. And he comes from a broken family. We worked at the same place and thats hard for me. You know people would talk and all. I have been laughed at for being the provider. From money to time to chauffeuring him. And that hurts because i did all that in the name of love. But he didn’t appreciate me. In fact he treats me like kids treating a mom. No calls the whole day, busy with everyone. Only finds me when he needs something. He cheats on me too.
Thank you that article was great but I didn’t find it helpful. My ex and I are in contact after 33 years. We were first loves and his obligation to the military and me being so young is why were are apart. We never treated each other badly, it was just the opposite. Every time we looked for and found each other the timing was all wrong. I still love him and he loves me even though we are both in relationships. How do we move past and have a healthy friendship?
I’ve experienced this and sometimes you just need more time. There are things you can do to make it easier such as spending more time with friends and family, cutting contact with the person, etc. Ultimately, there is no right timeline for getting over someone that you’ve loved. Be kind to yourself and take the time that you need. I suggest focusing on yourself and realizing that no other person can fill the holes in your life. Find happiness in yourself and then you can seek to share a life with someone else.
I love the no contact rule blog post!! And it really showed me some insights, thanks so much for that. Two weeks ago I broke up. I have to deal with the fact that he’s biking through my street to work every morning and evening. One time he was biking by and we saw each other and he waved, well i just crashed.. the other day we bumped into each other. This doesn’t really help me in my process to be honoust. Can I text him and ask if he could take another way to work maybe or what should I do about this?
Tracing strong reactions to current life events back to their origin in earlier experiences can enable a person to identify what felt the same then and now. The healing question then is to find what in the present situation is different.
When I got home I reflected on how much fun that I had actually had and that this was the happiest I had been since the breakup. I realized that wow, I really don’t need him to have a good time. That’s when I had completely let go of him.
Great posting! Breakups are hard. They hurt. I give myself 7 days. Seven days to mourn, daydream, rant, kick, scream, regret, toss out old stuff, sell the valuable stuff and drown myself in wine. After the 7th day, I’m not allowed to talk about “it’ or “him” anymore. Then I jump right back into the dating pool and fill up my social calendar.
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Avoid Depression – Feeling depressed after the breakup is common for many people but you have to make sure to avoid depression as much as possible. Sleeping all day, staying in the dark room, talking about breakup with your friends only trigger depression and it is enemy for you if you want to win your ex boyfriend back. There is no magic button that you can use to remove all negative memories from your mind but you can keep yourself around happy people to avoid feeling alone.
In my career, many girls keep on mentioning either one of above issues to explain the reason for their breakup. It is very important to keep in mind that your relationship doesn’t come to an end just because you said certain words or did something that lead to breakup. If your relationship with your ex boyfriend was base on solid foundation then few words or actions can’t come over the long work you did before.
Truth 1: Not contacting your ex is a must. Not only should you have implemented the No Contact Rule but you need to stay strong. Getting mad, breaking down and texting your ex a hateful message about his new girlfriend isn’t going to help your ultimate goal is it? Instead, be cool and don’t worry, every dog has it’s day.
I know it’s really difficult when a relationship ends, but that’s exactly why it’s time to focus on yourself and build the lifestyle you really want. Build your confidence back up, socialize, make new friends, pick up a cool new hobby, join a Meetup group, or take a trip. Do whatever you need to get yourself back out there.
Here is the way to jump start the flow again. Sit down and write a letter to him from the heart. Then put it in an envelope and give it to him. This will open him back up to wanting to talk with you again.
Take some time to focus on yourself, your happiness and your future instead of dwelling on the past! Break-ups can be hard to get through, I know, but if you surround yourself with friends and good environments it’ll be a bit easier for you.