So, we did the interview and afterwards we got to talking about our likes and dislikes. Anyways, I happened to mention that I was a big fan of Buffy The Vampire Slayer and he stops everything he is doing and says this to me,

Once you snap out of the hermit-at-home phase, you are ready to be on the top of your game. Be the girl who’d light up a whole room when she walked into it, be the woman who was the life of the party, be the one who gets out with the girls every weekend and calls out the world with some martinis. Say ‘yes’ to life and love will follow.

It’s been tough. I’m the Dave a few posts down. Well I’ve moved in with family a few hours away from her. A few days after my last post I asked if there was any chance at reconciliation and she said no so I left the area. I still think about her a lot. I’m job hunting the last 3 weeks so that’s been overwhelming. We talked when I drove to where I am and she still loves and cares for me. I still feel like she’ll want me back but she’s not the reaching out type. I have finally… Read more »

Make sure you love yourself … like really love yourself. Do a self-esteem check-in and ask yourself these questions: Do you feel good about yourself? Do you feel good about your life? Are you happy overall?

Think about what went wrong. While you distance yourself from your boyfriend, you’ll be in a good position to reflect on the problems in the relationship. If you want to get your man back, then you have to figure out what it was that went wrong, so you don’t do it all over again. The problem could be simple, or it could take a bit longer to figure out. Here are some of the things that could have gone wrong:

Be willing to have an honest conversation with your ex-boyfriend and if possible, let him know about your lingering feelings for him. Make sure to ask him if he is still interested in you, though, before starting to gush about your desire to rekindle your relationship. If he says no, then I think it is really time to move on.

My family and i live in NY USA.It was after seven years i got to discover that my wife was unfaithful to me.I didn’t know what was going on at first but as she got deep in the affair with her new lover, i felt that our marriage was on the rocks.I notice that she no longer light up when i touch her or kiss her in her neck and her chest cos she really liked it when i did that, she also usually get naked in front of me but when she started seeing that guy she stopped it.I remember asking her if i have done anything that makes her feel irritated when i am around her then she gives silly excuses that she has been feeling stressed up and that she need space for a while.I know when you are been asked for space its usually because there is something fishy is going on.I hired a private investigator to help find out what was going on.And in a week time he brought me prove that my wife that i have lived with for seven straight year is cheating on me with her high school lover.I had picture of her walking out a of a restaurant with him and many other photo of them kissing in public like she will never be caught by someone that knows she is my wife.I asked myself, even when we had a daughter together she could this to me.That same night i showed her the pictures that i got from my private investigator.She didn’t look at it before saying, that she is seeing someone and she know that i just found out about it.Then she said that she is in love with him.At that moment, i didn’t know if to kill myself or to kill her but the button line is that if i was going to kill anyone it was going to be me cos i was so much in love with her to even think of thinking to hurt her.As time when on she asked for a divorce and got it and even got custody of our daughter and i was all alone by myself.For a year i tried all i could to get her back with the help of my seven year old daughter.Even at that all effect was in vain, i used the help of her friend but turned out all bad.I know most people don’t believe in spell casting but believe me this was my last option and the result i most say was impressive.And i know it difficult to believe but A SPELL CASTER Dr Ogun really made my life much better cos he gave me my family back.He didn’t ask me to pay for what he did for me all i was to do, was to provide the materials for the spell and believe that he had the power to help me.Like he said, he was going to do something that will make her reset her love and affection for me just as it has always been.My wife told me she woke up and realized that she should have never left me that i am all she needs.To make thing clear, her life with her high school lover was great before Dr ogun castled the spell they had no disagreement on anything.The guy said it himself that why she broke up with him is unexplainable.Only Dr.Ogun can do such a thing contact him to solve your problem with his email: ogunspirituretemple@yahoo.com .CONTACT HIM NOW FOR SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEMS. Dr. Ogun,is also specialized in the following works and services as follow

I have been dating a guy for the past 6 months, last week I did throw a surprise birthday party for him. everything was going good when all a sudden he started ignoring me for the past 3 days. I got the guts to go at his place today in order to talk to him. He said that he wants us to be best friends and we will still meet and be the same was we were the only difference is we are no longer dating. I know there was nothing serious between us but I’ve started loving him and he made a promise to me that he will not tell me to date someone till he doesn’t find someone. Somewhere somehow I still have a hope to be back with him. I don’t know how to win over him. Anyone can help me.

Since you guys shared a meaningful relationship, there would be a chance for you guys getting back together but you have to work on those issues first or the same problems would occur again. I suggest applying NC and spending time and focus on those issues like trust, insecurities and overthinking. Understand why you feel this way and try to change it. The best thing you can contribute in getting back together is to change yourself as that’s always the most effective.

My question is: what’s the best timing to send the e-mail? Isn’t it overwhelming around holiday time? Shall I just extend NC until he’s back in town? Maybe I could combine it with wishing him happy holidays and happy birthday?

My question is, how do I proceed with this? I won’t message him for again for a few days but I don’t want to go NC for too long because they will be in their honeymoon phase of the relationship and NC from me will surely just bring them closer together? She already has the advantage of proximity and being able to be with him 24 hours of the day.

My ex ended things 2 weeks ago. Initially he said he didn’t know if he wanted a relationship anymore and needed to think about things but didn’t want to end things completely. At first he was lovely, reassuring me he still cared about me it was just a case of timing and wanted to stay in contact whilst he figured things out. But I pressured him into making a decision the more I text the more annoyed he got and ended things completely. Initially I made the mistake of trying to change his mind, he reluctantly replied at first but the stopped responding completely. I started NC 2 weeks ago and then today he deleted me off all social media. I panicked and messaged him asking how his Christmas was, he read and didn’t respond. I don’t know what him deleting me means and what I should do about it? Should I re start no contact or is this his way of saying he’s moved on? We are both in our 20’s and were together for 2 months.

Open up a blank document and stare at it until your eyes feel funny and you’re ready to do something that will help keep your heart on the fast-track toward healing. Then write down all rude comments your ex made to you while dating, and every disappointing choice they made that emphasized your incompatibility. I have about three documents filled with direct quotes from exes saved on my desktop, and every single time my mind tricks me into believing that I messed up the relationship or I start to remember them too fondly because I’m all sorts of lonely, I pop one of those bad boys open and scroll through it.

Looking for answers on the internet…we’ve all been there. I just want you to know you don’t have to figure this out on your own. I know this might not be something you want to discuss with your friends or family, but if you join this site you can get free, anonymous support from trained listeners and a huge support community. Nobody is here to judge.

So, find out what messed up your relationship and work on it. Were you too cranky, moody, jealous, demanding, insane, nagging-all-day, not giving him his space and freedom, disrespectful, got fat, made out with another guy, or you just sucked in bed? Whichever it was – fix it. He needs to see that, after a month or so of breaking up, you are progressing; suddenly you became a different person. But do it for you, not for him. Once he sees how much different you became he’ll wish you never broke up in the first place, he’ll want to give the whole thing another chance too.

“It took me a long time to get over the guilt of breaking up with my last ex. When I told him it was over, he was surprised, very hurt, and angry. I felt horrible for making him so upset. Over the course of two years, I tried to stay friendly with him to ease his pain, but when I heard he had a girlfriend, I felt totally relieved and completely over him.” —Jessica B.

Thanks. We did text yesterday he said he had a crazy week because his dog was stolen. I’m not sure how often we should text at this point in time? Obviously I want to rebuild connection, it’s a little hard because he isn’t much of a texter. What should I talk about to rebuild connection?

I googled this and found zero! My ex-husband continues to reach out to befriend by ex-boyfriends. I know it has no impact on my life, but me and my children find it to be very odd, especially because when I was dating my boyfriend(s), he talked bad about them. ?? Someone please explain…

Never forget… after the rain, the sun always comes out. It may be raining now, so take out your umbrella, keep walking, and sooner than you know, the sun will shine brighter, and will bring a smile on your face.

At this point, he may feel confused, maybe even having lost interest in you. But he does not want to deal with the thoughts and emotions of it. That’s why he chooses to avoid this topic altogether whenever it is brought up, which may be reinforced by the fact that you do not pursue the matter whenever he says he isn’t sure. If you do not wish to walk away from this relationship, you should not allow him to give you further ‘I don’t know’s for an answer and ask him to tell you honestly how he feels.

.. That Just Shook Me Like I Was Half Dead… But Then I asked Him That If Career Is The Reason.. This Is Not A Valid Reason For A Break Up.. But I Understood What It Was.. It Was The Things I Reminded Him Of Past & That Made Him Upset But Due To His Job He Didnt Replied Me Much On My Msgs about the past.. So Right Now He Is Totally Out Of My World, Love For ame & etc.. but my main prob is also that one of my friend when i was crying Took his no. From my cellphone and messaged him about why was he firm fr the break up and why didnt he think of me.. so here my friend didnt know a single bit of our story ..(still dnt knw) .. she just msged a long lecture kind of paragraph to make him realise how much i loved him.. and she also wrote that a guy shouldnt play game or shouldnt use a girl like this..  just a relationship of 3 months is not done.. so he is now upset with me for this thing that y my friend said so when nothing such happened between us.. as it was long distanced.. and thus.. since then arguments ended.. and now i am in the ‘no contact’ with him right now.. 

Joe (you remember me telling you about Joe) damn near killed me when he ended our relationship. I thought for sure my heart would shatter into a million pieces and I’d never love again. Even now, seeing a picture of him makes me cringe a little inside. If I looked at his picture every day, every memory we ever made together would come flooding back and I’d never heal.

I remember, years ago, when I was extremely unhappy with my job and a few other areas of my life. I was dating a woman who really was a great girlfriend, but I was totally not in the right place to be in a relationship.

Throw a pillow against the wall. Fill the tub with your favorite bath salts and immerse your body until the water cools down. Stay home and cry it out, but only for a certain amount of time, according to Cosmopolitan’s website. Whether you’ve chosen one day or three, get it out of your system so that, when your time limit is up, you’ll be sick of crying or hearing that song you’ve been playing nonstop.

It’s amazing how all this “stuff” seems to pile up when you are in a relationship with someone. While this “stuff” may seem innocent the truth is that anything and I mean ANYTHING that reminds you of your ex boyfriend needs to go. So, if he has your stuff make sure you call him to get it back and likewise, if you have his stuff make sure you give it back. [otp_overlay]