Make Him Love A Better You
Maybe this is fall back in love week, but we get so many questions about how to make her fall in love, how to make him fall in love that we wanted to continue on with this general topic and today give the girls something to work from.
Relationships often go in cycles. Sometimes things are up and it all seems like smooth sailing. At other times, you drift apart and the waters are choppy and sharks seem to be circling. Sometimes you break up. Other times your relationship simply limps along.
That loving feeling you used to have together feels like it’s gone for good. But, what if you could get it back? What steps do you need to take to make him fall back in love with YOU?
Well, for a start…
Treat Yourself Like the Lady You Are
Sometimes you forget to treat yourself like a lady, and let’s face it, society doesn’t want you to. The “new” cultural norms want to blur the lines between men and women and our country is suffering for it.
It’s easy to forget that you need a little pampering now and then. You need to feed your soul. More importantly, you need to take care of yourself — physically.
You need to eat right, exercise, take care of your skin, get a new hair cut, etc. You need to feel good about the reflection you see in the mirror. We are not suggesting you lie to yourself, and don’t ever ask your man the infamous losing question “does this make me look fat?” We’re talking about real care for a real woman, YOU!
You need to do all the things a lady does to feel like someone who deserves to have doors opened for her (yes, some real men still do that) as well as other acts of chivalry. Once you start treating yourself like a lady, chances are he’s going to notice and start treating you like a lady too.
Remember, if you don’t treat yourself like you are intelligent, why should others?
If you don’t treat yourself like you are beautiful, why should others?
If you don’t treat yourself (and act) like a real lady, why should others?
Remember that this is about making you happy. Make changes that matter to you — that will help you feel better about yourself and more confident. Some of the changes you might consider include:
- Diet/Weight loss
- Wardrobe update
- Spa treatment
- New hair style
- Teeth whitening
Now, as a side note, don’t break the budget on these items, you may have to go slow, find low cost alternatives and creative ways of paying for them – see this post about spending.
The changes do not have to be drastic in order to have a drastic impact on your self-confidence and outlook on the world around you. Nor, do they need to be major overhauls to get him to take notice.
The main take away from this, however, is not that he won’t love you if you are not perfect. It is that it is easier for him to fall back in love with you if you aren’t busy tearing yourself down for perceived flaws instead. Please make careful note of this important distinction!
Fall in Love with the Woman You Are
While it’s always good to strive for improvement, it’s also important that you love yourself for the woman you are. He will find it much easier to love you all over again if you love yourself as well. I’m not suggesting that you become a woman who is self absorbed or self obsessed. Lord knows we have way to many of those floating around.
Only that you accept yourself for who you are and find peace with that. Embrace your strengths. Work to change your weaknesses, but don’t punish yourself for being human. All of us are, including your man. Once you learn to love yourself, you’ll be a much happier person who he is likely to find irresistible.
You don’t have to move mountains or make miracles to win back his love. Love may ebb and flow over time but it takes a while to go away completely. The odds are in your favor that if he’s loved you before, you can easily win back his love once you learn to love yourself too.
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