All begging or using pity does is convince him that he made the right move. It sabotages your vibe and makes you seem needy and desperate, which forces him to recoil from you and push you away from his life.
My name is Laura I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 4 years everything was good he was so good and sweet to me we spent every second of everyday together till about a week and a half ago he said he’s not in love with me anymore he doesn’t feel the same way I told him we always get through it we can fix it but he didn’t want to. I begged and pleaded but nothing seems to work anymore I sent him our pictures our videos but he’s just acting very cold towards me. I really need your help my heart is breaking I don’t know what to do. I’ve tried the no contact rule but we study at the same collage and have all the same classes and he always sits next to me asks how I’m doing and does the class work with me. This happened once before but it only took him 3 days to come back to me since I was still in school and he did not see or hear from me for 3 days. he’s never been in love i was his first love he was a player before me and we were like family. he is not him at all he’s acting very strange and different i don’t know what to do. when he talked to me he told me he’s been feeling that way for 2 weeks he said that when we kiss and touch he doesn’t feel the same anymore. I’ve noticed him with this new girl this past week but i can tell he’s not in love with her. I’m just afraid he gets used to her and his new life away from me because he said he doesn’t feel happy with me anymore and he wants his life back. I’m really in love with him. i tried to tell him love will come and go i told him he was feeling that way because we’ve been fighting for 2 weeks and he kept saying he feels like were distant, but he kept insisting thats how he feels and the love isn’t coming back.
Some of us have our ability to love relatively intact, while others are dominated by fear. So much so that love itself triggers fear within deep, phylogenetic, primitive and unconscious areas of the brain.
In any relationship, you always have to be able to show that you know what you want. Do you have a vision for the future? If so, be clear and honest about it at all times. Let everything unfold as naturally as possible, but stand your ground when voicing what you would like to see the two of you doing in the future.
Well we broke up just 8 days ago.. actually he broke up with me anyway when i ask him to reason he said “I think it’s not gonna work. I always leave you alone and I know you have suffer about so I don’t wanna make you upset anymore” (for me it’s a stupid reason) normally he is an introverted person who doesn’t like to share his past and whatever happens he keeps smile that’s why I wanna be with him all the time. He got jealous when I changed my profile picture (I was with my friend) so he kept asking me that who is that person after we broke up. He also told me that “I can’t imagine my life without you in it” so he made me confused. I’m still inlove with him and I feel that he is still love me but Idk what should I do? T.T
Consistent gifts will have made her think you were trying too hard to win her approval. It sets a frame where you are demonstrating that it is YOU trying to win HER over, and thus she detects that she is superior to you.
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Remember, the no contact rule isn’t about him, it’s about you. You’re not cutting off contact to try to spite him, you’re giving yourself time and space to heal from the breakup – just like you’re giving him time and space to start missing you again.
My boyfriend left me last week, completely out of the blue. We were so happy, just begun living together, in lust still after a year. He told me he woke up the day he left and realised he couldn’t commit to me. That he wasn’t ready to put in the work and ups and downs that you had to put into a relationship. He said he only wanted to make himself happy and confined he no longer loved me. I walked out of the house and immediately began NC. I haven’t heard from him since, however he has blocked me on all social media, but made all accounts public deleting all of our photos and now putting up topless photos of himself for the world to see. With a holiday we had planned together coming up and bank accounts needing to be sorted out, I have done all of it. Very confused, hurt and embarrassed.
You don’t want him thinking that, even if it is true. In fact, what you really want is for your ex to think you have moved on with ease… Not that you are constantly battling “I want him back” thoughts. You want him to believe that getting over what you two had has really been no big deal at all.
I know you said it is better to extend the NC period than to shorten it. It was the 37 of 45 yesterday and I suddenly I had a feeling I have to text him about one event he might like because I didn’t want him to hear about it from anywhere else. It was all of a sudden..like 5 mins I got the idea..I created a text “Hi, There will be [this and this event] next month. I thought you might like going there. Tell your colleagues about it too. Hope all is well with you”. (because the event is something to do with his job and something he likes).
Hi, I was in a long distance relationship, for almost two years and for the second year of the relationship i moved to a city close to him but had to leave the country after a year due to my visa running out. We had ups and downs in the relationship mostly due to the stress and uncertainty of me being able to stay but We talked about marriage frequently in the future and always felt we were the ones for each other. In fact, my ex would repeatedly tell me that he felt so strongly that I was the one for him which he had never felt before in previous relationships and that’s why he continued to do the long distance although he had never believed in them before.
First impressions are key. But you probably already knew this, didn’t you? What you wear will say a lot about this interaction so plan on wearing something informal, but also something that makes him think hard about what he’s been missing out on. Guys are simple, physical, tangible creatures who like to look and touch things they find attractive. If you look good, he’s going to remember that for a long time even after you first meet up.
Prepare your words. The first thing that you say to your ex is extremely important. If you say the wrong words, you will lose the chance to get them back. You need to understand that even though you’re not together, there is a good chance they still harbor strong feelings for you.
Another fabulous tip on how to get over your ex boyfriend is to spend time with friends who make you feel good about yourself and don’t waste all that time talking about him! You may well need to get things off your chest sometimes, but get that over done with and then don’t mention your ex again. Your friends are the ones who will help you through this, so go out and have some fun with them and try to forget all about your ex for a while.
This is great Eric. I’ve struggled for a while with a guy that’s not really been putting in much effort, I think because I was always there waiting for him and over functioning. He’s just broken up with me and I realise how much of myself I had lost and how I wasn’t taking care of my own happiness. I kind of for drawn into his hot/cold behaviour and felt anxious uneasy. I’m going to take my life back and take care of myself and be gracious and honest with him. I shouldn’t pin all my hopes on another person but all my hopes on myself. I really hope for a big shift on perspective on the inside after this. Of course I am heartbroken but I realise I fall into the same pattern in every relationship so this breakup is a big sign to change.
Let’s just start with,I was dating a ex and we moved together, I always wanted to move smewere else so I did,we worked together n all.but it got rocky n ugly.his bbymama was a mess starter n so we broke up very.i hurted n was going thru a break up.I came across this gentlemen.. He was full of life,outgoing,working hard,n has a son.we got to talking gettn to know each others,I let him know I had not long got out a relationship n to take it slow,not fast.he understand he said so we just remained friends..he got me a valentines day gift,n I got him one.u know just smethng to smile about than bn sad from a breakup.alil of 2 weeks I met him in person n it was very nice.we talked in the car.he said I was everything he imagined,but he could see my smile was hidden my pain n hurt n in my eyes.I teared up.so on we texted,he sent prayer photos n texted every morning when he went to work n off checking on me n talking to me.I met his family which was nice n his mom.I think I made a mistake there.but it too my mind off the pain n hurt.soon I found myself spending time with him,he wiped my tears n all held me so much..I could do nun but thank him for all that.he took my mind off his depressing a break it was with my ex to someone who cares.but like I told him I didn’t wanna rush..on a few months I felt like I needed to get myself a Lil distance to see how far he would go for me,cause I bn thru relationships that bn a lie n I’m a caring n effort woman.always smiling n liftn people up.so I bk off some form him.it got Lil ugly.his jib laid him off to workn a day out week cause of no wood from sawmill.he just was drinking away more,but he kept reaching out to me begging me.wishing we could start over fresh n everything. I didn’t leave him,I just stepped away for a moment.I know I hurt him tho,he said I did cause he was ready to love me n so focus on making me happy n I wasn’t ready. I felt so bad.but later we started back talking but wasn’t the same as first,no txts in morning r nun that.he was down as well frm no money cause he wasn’t working the hrs much,n child support was taking him n his bbymama was giving him hell.she was so jealous of him having a girlfriend she stopped him from seeing his son so it too on him too.she did childish things on fb tryn get me to accept a request but I never did.he has her blocked he can’t stand her since she hit him with a frying pan on top his head n cut his skull open.that was way before my Time.so thru on I was there for him helpn him while he wasn’t working n I can say I admire the man he is cause he love to work for his own,not ask for no help, but I did.he came to my house plenty times activited with my 2 sons as well they got to know him some.I met his son as well which is 1 yes old.after SME weeks he text me told me he didn’t want b with me,which was a lie,but I didn’t say anything out the way I told him I accept his wishes n we stopped txtn n convo.its bn it was 2 in half months now, our birthdays was in September I did wish him happy bday,I was under surgery in sept had vowel blockage n cancer.I go under chemo some now but I done came along way.but All thru those months its bn a blessing.so on in weeks off sept Oct n some of Nov lol he bn asking his family mostly his cousin have she heard from me,n have I said anything bout him.lol he talks to her all the time cause him n his brother n her talk about everything. She told me he asks n she told him it has nothing do with him if she did talk to me.she stalls him good cause his family likes me n they hate we split up cause his pride n ways he had.but she said she told him text r call me.his rely u know that grl don’t want to talk to me..lol she says u never know u had a good woman n she say she walked off,n he looks askn fareal she ain’t mention me lol this was a few weeks ago at a gathering for his brother birthday party.also a convo between him n guys at her house she told me he was talking abt me,they were outside having a discussion on women n she was doing her curtains n they were sitting under her car port but her walls thin,u can here everything said she wasn’t bn noisy but she heard him talkn of me.n later one the guys came in her house n said ur cousin was really in love with me,n he told him just to own up to his mistakes cause we all do.that was last month.we haven’t bn talkn r communicating at all.but just Friday night I got a inbox text from his brother inbox.it was hilarious, I thought it was his brother,cause it was from his page inbox n asked was I’m in his town,n he seen me over his aunty house.I text said i do brothers n he should b ashamed cause he got a woman he with.and I’m done in boxing,so he tct back said holla at you later u getting ghost.few mins later he text my phone from his number asking me were I’m at.I new it was him on his brother phone cause he blocks me from his page.he used the inbox as excuse to see will I reply.so finally he text me after few months.even text me pass Saturday to.say he working on his self n don’t want to hurt anybody.I told him I respect it like I did before. I just don’t know if he really into me like that but then I thank he is just scared he b hurt again r something.he didn’t want his family in our bidnes say they noisey n he didn’t want me really around some of them,must b a conflict with SME if them.can u give SME advice? I’m not rushing nothing I’m just tryn get myself healthy n recovery but I do miss him but he don’t need know that from txtn cause he reached out to me lol I never text him first n it was 2 months we stopped all communication. I think it’s worth saving.plze give me feed bk
“At first, do no harm” is actually an old Hippocratic Oath that applies mostly to doctors, but I think it’s a good metaphor to use after a breakup as well…especially if your end goal is to get back with your ex boyfriend. The absolute first step to take is to make sure you don’t do anything stupid and make things worse than they already are.
Keep the conversation light and natural. Treat your ex like an acquaintance. Ask surface questions, not questions about who your ex is dating. If asked how you are doing, say you are doing well. Make sure not to oversell it. You don’t want your ex to think you are faking.
Hit up your most supportive BFFs and have a no-holds barred venting session. Research reveals that putting feelings into words makes sadness and anger less intense. But do it over pedis or tapasgoing on a total bender will only make you weepyand likely to give into the temptation to text him at 3am.
On the almost the end of 3rd year after the break up, I graduated and now working. And after that I slowly started to want to have him again. I expressed to him that if we can give it another try since we are more grown up now.It took quite sometime for him to agree because he said that the past hurts and trauma have not resolved within him but he agrees for 2nd chance because he knows that we came far in life. It was all well for the first 2 months ofthe 2nd chance relationship. I completely fell for him and it has bee topic on and off of how he is feeling for me. on the following month, he disappointed me and kept changing decisions on some matters and that frustrates me. I have expressed to him but it still happens until one day I kept bombarding him on text messages although we were in the same car going to church. I kept expressing him my disappointments and that he is unreliable. And that I am not giving up but it bothers me. Now he is hurt for the second time from me. That contributed to our 2nd break up now. And I am all yearning to have him back because I wasnt expecting break up butinstead I was expecting for us to work together in going through all odds and finally have a happy ending. Now, I could not stop texting him and telling him how I feel. And that frustrates him and he have been scolding me non stop when I am already hurt.
The step by step advice and help found on this website is a fantastic start toward winning back your boyfriend. You’ll dissect the important components of your break up, and gain initimate knowledge of how everything looks through the eyes of a man. As you read each article, you’ll learn the best ways (and the worst ways) to make your ex want you back. And if you’re serious about getting back together, you’ll also read The Magic of Making Up.
Change one thing about the past and the two of you might not be together. Change one thing about the past and she might not be the person you love. Our lives depend on the most slender threads, and even the smallest things can have huge impacts.
However, don’t go overboard in pushing them. Like ”Come on. Just go out with me once. Please. Pretty please.” Or “You broke up with me and broke my heart. The least you can do is go out with me one time.”
Check out his Facebook or try to find out if he’s seeing someone from mutual friends without being too obvious about it. He may be seeing someone else and is just talking to you to be nice or because he wants to be friends.
What It Is: Getting rid of old reminders of your ex can seem heartbreaking—like if you throw away that shirt your ex left in your closet, you also risk throwing away all the good memories. But hoarding too many souvenirs can just keep you tied to the bad feelings you have, and trashing them tells you that it’s okay to start forgetting and forge ahead with your life.