Keep at it, realise your mistakes, change everything (better appearance, be more kind, a better listener, etc.) she is still in love with you and still wants you very much you just have to prove to her that you are a better person than before.
Start hanging out with him a bit. Start making your relationship a bit more friendly. Move on from the casual hello to a short conversation, and then even stick around and chat with him for ten or even twenty minutes. Make sure you always say goodbye first, though, and don’t make him linger longer than he wants to. This will make him even more sad to see you go. Then, wait for him to ask you to grab a coffee, or be bold and ask him for a drink.
If she reacts negatively to this suggestion, back off. The harder you push when she’s not receptive, the more you’ll hurt your own cause. Give it some more time and re-address the topic if she seems more receptive. If she still isn’t into it, start to reconcile yourself to the possibility that it may just not happen.
Something else to mention here. In most cases if you are ultimately able to get your ex back, it is most likely going to happen face to face. That’s because you can affect a girl’s emotions better face to face. Because remember, as a woman she makes her love-life decisions based on emotion – so that’s why any getting back together will most likely happen face to face.
That piece also led to me getting a relatively constant stream of emails and comments and requests to write the post I’d promised, provided there was enough interest, at the end of it – a post on how to get your girlfriend back.
I’m sorry that its been more than a month I haven’t tried to call or anything, because I just couldn’t think what to say, besides sorry. I just didn’t know how to say it or what to say, I guess I still don’t. I know I broke up with you when it wasn’t the best time for you and that was selfish of me, but I still needed to and it was hard for me. I’m really not happy with how I left things, and wish I could be friends with you still, and also just want to know how you’re doing. I understand if you’d rather not be friends, but I miss your friendship and I just really hope you’re doing well. I don’t know, get back to me if you want, whenever even if it’s a long time or not at all I understand..
You first have to understand if him saying that you’re unable to focus on your career is a legitimate worry he has or if it’s an excuse to end things. That would determine if you should contact him, because if it’s a real concern he has, and you are able to convince him that you can stay focused and still be with him, then you should try to fix things.
My girlfriend just broke up with me tonight and I have never felt worse. She is already seeing other people. I really want her back and had no idea what to do until I came here. I don’t think I want the slut back now. What am I saying hell yes I do. I feel so confused would making her jealous help or maybe the new guy needs a fist to the mouth even though that would not help. I might do it anyways.
#5 Up your game. You want her back? Show her you’ve changed. But don’t change for her, change for yourself. If you do this only for her, this won’t last. It has to be something you really want to do for you.
From a female perspective, i’m not going to sugar coat it: It sounds like she got tired of waiting around. This on & off again stuff can really hurt. Especially as a woman is maturing she wants some stability. Yeah she might have told you she loved you & meant it, but in the time you left while she was hurt it sounds like the other guy might have been there to comfort her, telling her how he’s better for her by telling her what she wants to hear. That she deserves a stable relationship where the guy she loves is going to treat her like a priority & be wirh
You and your ex girlfriend are texting. However, instead of following any of my advice you come right out and start getting down to the “emotional” stuff. This causes a snowball effect that eventually leads to a fight and you are right back at square one.
It will not be easy to get back together instantly. There are issues that would definitely need to be cleared up before you guys can go riding off into the sunset. Don’t be afraid to become friends first. It will give you time to start getting to know each other again.
The answer to your dilemma is that, very probably, neither of these women is right for you. When there is a choice between two people, it is not always a case that one of them must be right for you, if you could only work out which. It is more likely that you have two not-quite-right-for you people in front of you at the same time. I think the fact that you are feeling ready to “settle down” is making you look at your situation and evaluate – and that is good. Just don’t mistake availability for suitability.
I’ve been through a similar experience to Davide and agree wholeheartedly. In retrospect, getting divorced was one of the best things that ever happened to me (despite being something I was terrified of before) because the things I learned to cope with it (primarily Stoicism although not exclusively) have made me (I think) a much better person. The obstacle becomes the way… [otp_overlay]