The logical approach to get your ex back seems that you should tell them how much you care for them and how much you love them as soon as possible before it’s too late. But trust me it’s not a good idea.
I went out with my ex girlfriend for 9years an have 3 wonderful kids with her we had our ups an downs the last 2 years were mostly downs an a lot of fighting we really weren’t talking so she broke up with me for about 7-8 months I did the whole crying asking her for that one chance trying to keep my family together she is really my first love I know what I did wrong an I’m trying to change an understand what I’ve done wrong well we both move out of the place we lived together she went back with her mother an I got my own place I still love her but I just found out she started dating just dating an I’ve seen a couple of women but I still have strong feelings for her she won’t talk to me an when she does she gets angry quick she gets jealous when I say I’m with a friend an she turns around an try’s to make me jealous in return why would she do that I just wanna know if I still have a chance what can I do an if I don’t should I just move on please help
Hang in there. Continue to work on yourself and don’t linger in the past, if she moves on, so should you. And if your decision is to only come back if she contacts you, then it’s a good idea to move on in the mean time because you don’t know if it will ever happen or not.
Basically, the no contact period should be as long as it takes you to get yourself together and feel great about your life without your ex. In my experience, it can take up to 30 days. However, in extreme cases, it could range from anywhere from 2 months to 6 months.
Don’t fall back into old habits. Though you should enjoy your relationship as a new one, you should still remember the thing that led to the downfall of your relationship. If you find yourself fighting again, disappointing your girlfriend for the same reasons, or finding yourself feeling the same negative emotions you felt the first time around, remember to check yourself and to work on overcoming those troubling situations.
“Start talking again, and get your friendship back,” Phoenix writes. “Realize how much you’ve missed her! Not her in your arms, or her in your bed, but her as a person. She knows you so well, and vice versa.”
Aside from giving you more chances to get away from your solitude and be around others, it’s also a big ego boost to remind yourself that people like you even in the absence of your ex-girlfriend, and that you can still meet people and make friends without her there.
HER REPLY: “The thing is, is it’s not all of a sudden. It might be for you but it’s not for me. Why do you think I’ve been saying to you that you surely would have noticed. Even my mum has noticed for a long time, she even questioned me on going on the holiday with you. The first time I mentioned it to you was Barcelona, you could even go far back as the first time I broke up with you. And during those times the only convincing anyone has done is you trying to convince me this is just how a relationship goes and then myself trying to convince myself that I’m in love with you. Ivan I tell you I love you because I do love you. But to be honest I can’t actually recall saying to you that I want to spend the rest of my life with you, in fact that phrase coming from my mouth feels foreign. I respond to your gorgeous text everyday in that fashion because I would feel terrible if I didn’t, but I think I should want to do it first thing when I open my eyes, I should want to beat you to it, but instead I would’t even notice if you didn’t.
Make a game plan for addressing the problem. Once you figure out what went wrong in the relationship – which could be a combination of problems instead of just one – it’s time to think about how you can make things different next time. You don’t want to make your ex-boyfriend want you back if you’ll just run into the same problems and drama all over again.
At the same time, many, and quite possibly most, abusers, are not willing or able to apply themselves to learning better ways. The partner of an abusive individual must look realistically if their partner is one of the subgroup of abusers who does genuinely apply him/herself to making changes, or is of the larger group who are just going to keep returning to abusive and controlling behavior.
I dated my girlfriend for 8yrs. We broke up one year ago but kept trying to get back together. She just officially dumped me a couple of weeks ago. Her reasons were that I took too long to change my ways and that she didn’t know what she wanted right now. I still keep trying to show her that I love her more than anything. All she does all day long is work and go to college classes. I feel that there is still a small chance that it will work between us. Our past fights were always about my job, I was insensitive, too much partying, not paying attention to her needs and that she wanted me to better myself. Her birthday is coming up and I bought her a gift. Is that bad? I don’t know what I should do. I really need some help. I love this girl and I don’t want almost nine years to go down the toilet. I did change my ways by the way. I’m also applying for a good job. Hopefully I get it. We lived together and now I live with my sister for the time being. So I say again what advise do u give me.
Dear, all these mistakes are done by me… but now she doesn’t wanna talk to me and also doesn’t wanna meet me or give me a chance to rectify all things, please suggest something as soon as possible, cause this relation is at very critical stage…
Ok, so you sent out your text to remind them of the good ole days where the two of you were as thick as thieves but they haven’t responded yet. First off, it isn’t the end of the world. Sometimes people get busy and don’t have time to respond right away. Waite a few days before you jump to any conclusions.
Don’t worry if you’ve already made these mistakes. Like I said, they are very common and chances are that most of you reading this would have already made some of these mistakes. It’s still not too late. You still have a good chance of getting your ex back. I just ask you to not make any of these mistakes anymore. If need be; print this page out and keep it with you all the time so you don’t do any of these mistake again.
Make sure that she is still interested – Prior to starting to exert an effort to win back her heart, determine if she still wants to be with you. Make sure that she still loves you or still cares about you before exerting an effort. Knowing that she still cares is an essential clue that will help you identify whether you can still mend your relationship.
The first thing you have to do is to reframe your way of thinking. You cannot control the way things happens in your world, but you surely can control how these things affect your life and what you learn from them.
So now, I had decided to actually study in my home country in Europe. Finish school there and what not. I had this plan before but I just hadn’t acted on it until now. She took this other guy to prom, so when she told me she’s seeing this other guy because “she would rather I knew”, I realized what I had lost and started pouring my heart out to her and sending her roses etc etc etc. She tells me it wouldn’t be fair for her to not give the other guy a chance. She said maybe if I come back to Europe, we can get close again and see how it goes but for now, she will be seeing this other guy. After more begging and pleading, she finally just told me she’s going to be seeing him and that I took too long to make a decision. I told her she broke my heart and I realize I don’t have a shot anymore. That was the last thing I said to her.
Think very carefully about what ended the relationship. This step is important for two key reasons: one, because you should think very carefully about why you want to get back together, and two, because the relationship ended for a reason, and if you want to get back together, you need to be prepared to address that reason.
Or if you want him back because you feel jealous thinking of him with someone else, think again before you decide to try to get back together. Post-breakup jealousy is normal, and this, too, will pass.
Why most women attract to jerks? It is all because they value themselves. This doesn’t mean you also have to become jerk. You don’t have to become jerk instead you should adopt qualities of jerks that attract women.
SIDE NOTE: One thing I want you to see here is that to your ex or any other girl, your DMV/ perceived superiority is as high as your behavior makes it, and is only partially related to your job, income, looks etc. This is why no guy reading this has any excuse for not being able to become the kind of guy his ex wants for a relationship.
Would you want your ex constantly checking up on you, sending you messages and blasting notifications to your social media? Probably not. So, make sure you do your ex girlfriend the same courtesy. The best way to get over her and stop missing her is to make sure that you’re not constantly trying to get her attention.
I’m sorry that its been more than a month I haven’t tried to call or anything, because I just couldn’t think what to say, besides sorry. I just didn’t know how to say it or what to say, I guess I still don’t. I know I broke up with you when it wasn’t the best time for you and that was selfish of me, but I still needed to and it was hard for me. I’m really not happy with how I left things, and wish I could be friends with you still, and also just want to know how you’re doing. I understand if you’d rather not be friends, but I miss your friendship and I just really hope you’re doing well. I don’t know, get back to me if you want, whenever even if it’s a long time or not at all I understand..
When you feel things are going wrong, you should be the one who says “lets just be friends, it’s not working out”. This will immediately put you in control of the whole situation and spark feelings of loss on her side.
I am concerned that he might got scared or started to keep distance because in the last 2 conversation I started to try to build up attraction. As he knows all my lady charm tricks, I think he figured out what I am trying to do… I feel the need of a break, so I have decided to give myself 2 weeks of free time, as I don’t want to end up again desperate and needy, and I feel like these 2 weeks would be enough time for him to finish the exams and to get used again to the school life.
a lack of respect on either side. If you or your ex call each other names, belittle each other’s accomplishments, or say disparaging things about one another to your family or friends, then there is no respect in that relationship. These are all features of an emotionally abusive relationship. Find someone who shows you the respect you deserve, and commit to treating him or her with respect as well.
Basically, by not “pushing” at all for a month they have no reason to keep “pulling back.” In fact, by not being around them at all the gap that was created by all the pushing and pulling that happened in the past may start to close.
He finished the exams but not writing anymore… I tried to text him, but he acted cold and careless, he also stopped to send or reply on snaps. I don’t want to push him but also don’t know what should I do? In April I am visiting in his town, but haven’t told him about it as he acts like an ice-prince. Any advice what should I do now? I don’t want to seem desperate and needy in front of him…
The answer to your dilemma is that, very probably, neither of these women is right for you. When there is a choice between two people, it is not always a case that one of them must be right for you, if you could only work out which. It is more likely that you have two not-quite-right-for you people in front of you at the same time. I think the fact that you are feeling ready to “settle down” is making you look at your situation and evaluate – and that is good. Just don’t mistake availability for suitability.
My Super Ex-Girlfriend is a terrible film with a unique idea that could’ve been terrific. I feel that the film could have been much better if there was better talent involved. The cast didn’t do anything for me, and I felt that jokes were stale, and most of the time, unfunny. The concept of the story is interesting, but the actors here are mediocre and don’t do anything unique. I laughed a few times, but once the film was over, I felt like I wasted my time overall. Ivan Reitman has had a great career, but with this film, it makes it to his forgettable films list. There’s not much going on here, except for bad acting and forced jokes that aren’t funny most of time. I love comedies, but My Super Ex-Girlfriend is a failed attempt at creating something very funny. Instead My Super Ex-Girlfriend is a disappointment and is a film thats easily forgettable. There’s nothing going on in this film, and the end result is pretty pointless. A comedy that simply doesn’t work, My Super Ex-Girlfriend is simply a bad film that you realize could have been better with a better cast and a better script. The idea is good, but theres nothing really good here to be entertained. A pointless, boring and most of the time, unfunny film.
Finally she contacted back after NC. She said she is fine and she will be back but still need a bit more time for herself to recover. Her name is aparna and i love her. Thanks for your help AMOR. Couldn’t do it without you.
Most guys make the mistake of seeing a short text from a girl and automatically assuming that she isn’t interested. While that may be the case (as I am about to explain) it could also be that she is using it as a way to test you to see just how interested you are in her.
After the recovery period, we move on to the rekindling period. There are two parts to this. The first part is making your ex MISS you. Yes, part of this is NOT talking about her. Think about it… when you were with her, you were around her and talking to her like crazy. Now that you’ve taken that away from her, she’ll begin to miss you. This is one of the reasons why the ‘no contact’ thing works so well.
Once four weeks of No Contact is complete you can now contact her at this point. In the majority of cases, she will contact but if she doesn’t then it is safe to call her now. However, make sure you have waited for minimum four weeks. Sometimes you have to wait longer than this depending on how needy and desperate you behave during your breakup.
Hopefully, if everything goes as planned, your ex will not be able to resist you and will start to warm up to you again. After that it should only be a matter of time until they are back in your life.