While it is important to not pursue your ex for a month or so, it’s okay to be responsive if he or she pursues you. In other words, if you get a call, don’t hang up on your ex or refuse to talk. It is not necessary to try to play mind games or play hard to get, and doing so would have the potential to push him or her further away, which is the opposite of your goal at this point.[7]

Ok, so you sent out your text to remind them of the good ole days where the two of you were as thick as thieves but they haven’t responded yet. First off, it isn’t the end of the world. Sometimes people get busy and don’t have time to respond right away. Waite a few days before you jump to any conclusions.

Assess your growth. Now that you’re truly over your ex-girlfriend enough that you don’t look at everything through breakup-colored glasses, you’re probably beginning to notice other women again. This is the perfect time to think back on your past relationship one more time, and realize how you’ve grown.

If you don’t give her space, you’re not going to be able to give yourself space either. While you may be tempted to check up on her social media, resist the urge! Delete your text conversations and unfollow her from social media, at least for a while. If she’s ready to talk to you again after the break up, she’ll let you know! In the meantime, you both need the space in order to sort out your thoughts and feelings.

To most looking in, Rebecca Bunch has a great life: a high powered job as an attorney in a prestigious New York law firm, great future prospects in her chosen profession, looks, brains, and money. But she has always suffered from anxiety and depression, for which she is on a plethora of pills. Those maladies are largely from being pushed by her overbearing Jewish mother, which also led to Rebecca’s father abandoning the family when she was young. When on the streets of New York Rebecca runs into Josh Chan, her boyfriend from summer camp ten years ago when they were sixteen, she remembers back to that time as the happiest time in her life, happiness which eludes her. When Josh mentions that he is imminently moving back to his hometown of West Covina, California, Rebecca decides to pursue happiness in moving to West Covina herself, telling people it’s because she got a fabulous job there, where in reality it’s to rekindle a relationship with Josh, which she believes is what will make … Written by Huggo

This game plan is meant to be a long term game plan. In other words, the only men I want reading this are the ones that are very serious about establishing a long lasting relationship with their ex if they can get them back.

If your ex isn’t someone you could see yourself being friends with, either because you don’t get along, they did something unforgivable, or you’re too hung up on them to simply be “just friends,” your first priority after the breakup should be getting over them. There are a few different ways to achieve this, but ceasing contact with them — both in person and via your phone or computer — is of paramount importance.

What would you suggest for me now? I bombarded him with texts and calls yesterday and then this morning I text him apologising for what he said, and I also said I wouldn’t contact him again. It’s been two and a half months since he contacted me. I’m so depressed. How do I go about this now? I think he might have found someone new.

Peter realized that now, as an adult, he had more options than he had had as a child for finding solutions to his life challenges. Therein lay the hope for change, pointing the way toward healing. He could safely ask his therapist for attention.  His wife also did not intent to put him in a demeaning or emasculating position.  She just wanted change.

After Rebecca’s breakdown, in Crazy Ex-Girlfriend’s latest episode, the midseason finale, she says to her psychiatrist, “My whole life I’ve only known how to be like really good or really bad, but being human is living in that kind of in-between space.” I was struck by Rebecca’s burst of self-awareness because it reminded me of statements I had said before to psychiatrists and therapists, my mother and my friends. I have always been painfully aware of the internal and external factors that have come to form my illness. I can easily talk about my black-and-white thinking, my father’s abuse, my mother’s emotional manipulations, and my masochistic tendencies that make my episodes worse. I can tell you all about how I have defined myself far too much by my diagnosis. I can speak eloquently about how I have grown to long for depressive episodes because being well feels undeserved, even unnatural to me. I can tell you how the thrill of mania has a siren call that I all too easily respond to. What’s difficult is what comes next for women like Rebecca and myself: recovery. Cinematic history has never been interested in the recovery process for madwomen, only their downfalls. No matter how self-aware you may be, it’s an endlessly difficult process. There are no easy answers, no brightly lit musical numbers to lose yourself in — only the painful negotiation of letting go and rebuilding. That’s why I am so curious to see what happens next on Crazy Ex-Girlfriend. The series has always been intelligent about how it handles its characters’ issues with surprising pathos and dark hilarity. Its creators have discussed poring over books on borderline personality disorder and are aware that recovery is not a swift process. As co-creator and writer Aline Brosh McKenna told Vanity Fair, “It’s a very long struggle, and a lot of people pass through it, but it can take a very long time — and Rebecca’s issues are very deep-seated.”

I put a lot of work into this page (half a year to be exact.) Yup, I have been planning on helping men get their exes back for over half a year. I know that sounds a little insane but I am actually a pretty busy guy so it was all really a matter of finding the time to finally put this project in motion.

This time off will also help you to distinguish between normal grief after a breakup and a real desire to be with your ex again. Nearly everyone feels sad after a breakup, even if their ex was a jerk and they were truly incompatible. Time alone will help you sort out these feelings.[4]

Baby, I send you those morning texts because the nature of my job is dangerous and I never know if I’m making it back home. I sent them to you incase I didn’t make it home, and to make sure you knew that I love you and that the last thing you heard or read from me was that I love you with all my heart. I’m glad you think they’re gorgeous. When you haven’t replied to me, I haven’t thought anything of it as I believe you just got use to them and that’s fine!!! Any other girl would’ve said that it’s too much and to stop.

After the recovery period, we move on to the rekindling period. There are two parts to this. The first part is making your ex MISS you. Yes, part of this is NOT talking about her. Think about it… when you were with her, you were around her and talking to her like crazy. Now that you’ve taken that away from her, she’ll begin to miss you. This is one of the reasons why the ‘no contact’ thing works so well.

Money is one of the biggest stressors in a marriage. Couples worry and argue about it constantly. If you find you and your spouse are starting to badger each other over the bottom line, it’s time to have a penny-pinching powwow. “We are all guilty of something economists call ‘passive decision-making,’ which just means defaulting to the easy option,” says Jenny Anderson, coauthor of Spousonomics: Using Economics to Master Love, Marriage, and Dirty Dishes. “Couples need to make an active plan about how they will manage their money: Combine it? Separate it? Create a joint account and keep some separate? Whatever the decision, both people have to be part of the decision to do it and then figure out what needs to be done to keep the system humming.”

Work on yourself. Take some time to work out whatever problem may have ended your relationship, and just spend time enjoying your own company or hanging out with friends. Make a list of three flaws that you’d like to change about yourself, and slowly start to address them. It takes a lifetime to grow as a person, but even taking small steps to become your ideal steps can help your relationship.

Hi Kevin. Ive been dating this girl for 6months everything was moving perfect for us both. She fell pregnant and i proposed to her and we were engaged. She decided to have an abortion due to finacially we both wernt stable and ready. I was abit emotionally about the abortion as she was assell experiencing a life changing procedure. Things became abit difficult both of us dealing with our emotions and feelings at the time.I made the wrong regretful decision by ending it and i unfortunately didnt show her support an comfort. Its been extremely hard an difficult dealing with this whole situation. Its nearly been 2 months we nearly been separated for now.she says i need to fix my issues and become stable and she doesnt want no relationship at this stage.. which im coming to terms of and making positive changes in my life..its been just over 2 weeks i havnt contacted her until yesterday wishing her merry Christmas but no reply.. so ive just left it.. Deep down i sincerely love this girl with my entire heart and i would appreciate advice and guidience aswell as steps to reconnect with her.kind regards.

If that’s the case, forget the remainder of this Step and proceed on to the next step, because 3+ “yeses” by this point make it 100% clear to me that here we have a Category A situation. Most break ups in which the girl ended it, are this. Don’t panic, I made this site for this situation more than any other.

If you give her space, she’ll also be more likely to think about you. She’ll think, “I haven’t heard from [insert your name here] in a while. That must mean that he’s just fine without me…” This will intrigue her and make her wonder what you’re up to.

“Firstly I would like to thank you for guidance through this difficult period that we all face at some point or another in our lives. Your book gave me confidence, courage and a clear mind in dealing with my relationship trouble. The way in which it is written and it’s content are ideal and complementary in giving rise to the “correct” mindset.I got my ex back in 14 days. She broke down the first time after 5 days, but I told her we would speak about us when she comes to see me injanuary (as we are in a long distance relationship). Thank you for your support and great work.”

Keep things casual. If your first meetup goes well and you’re both amenable to meeting up again, aim for a similarly low-pressure situation. Make it clear that you’re interested in reconnecting as friends at this point and that you’re not expecting this to mean that you’re back together.

My experience is that some abusers are genuinely willing to learn and to apply what they learn so that they cease their controlling and abusive ways (note: the controlling stance as well as the explicit abuse must change for the future to look promising).

Im a lesbian and was with this girl for four years going 5 on july.she ask space for 3months no communication,no seeing each other so I gave her space but i broke my promise not to call,text and see her. I called her 12 times and ive been texting her also.and worst thing i did, iwent to her office so she saw me and ask what are you doing here, i told her i miss you i wanna see you.and i also ask her when she will come back and if she still love me. I keep on forcing her to answer until she pissed. So i went home and received text messages ftom her saying im not happy with what you did. I starting to hate you and you ask me if i still love you no i dont love you anymore. Now i dont know what to do? I dont wanna lose her.. pleasehelp me what to do not to lose her and to love me again..please

Hey Luke, it sounds like you’re on the right path. Just don’t put too much pressure on her to get back together with you or she may walk away. You can always tell her how you feel, but add that you respect her wish to focus on school and you’ll wait for her as a friend first or something.

Writing down his painful feelings helped to free Peter from continuously thinking of them. Writing and then talking with his therapist about his thoughts enabled him to let go of beating himself up in anger and also of drowning himself in self-pity. [otp_overlay]