You’re probably now feeling very defeated. Many of your tactics for keeping your girl sweet have unfortunately worked against you, and this leaves you asking, “So what the f*** do I do?! How can I get my ex-girlfriend back?”
The next thing that you need to do has nothing to do with your ex directly. You need to work on yourself. Get to the gym, start running, find something new. Get new friends, and change up your life. You have to do this, so that the point where her friends chime in to see how you’re doing, they’ll relay to her that you’re actually not sweating the break up. Also, you’re going to actually help yourself, and perhaps find a way to your next relationship. You’ll be surprised by this completely.
“You were right too about how much I coddled my children’s mother. The reality is that I was afraid of her. Just like when we were married I was always trying to keep her from getting mad at me. When I was depressed I had no spine for anything. That era is over as well. Now when she calls, I get the facts of who to pick up when and where, and that’s it.”
Anyone who is suffering from relationship break-up knows how painful of an event it is. However, breakups do not have to be the permanent end of a relationship. There are many couples that get together after multiple breakups. That is why if you have breakup with your girlfriend there is still a chance to get her back.
If you focus your attention on spending time with your friends or pursuing a new hobby, you will have less time to miss your ex-boyfriend, which can help you avoid the pitfalls of getting back together just because you’re lonely.
Find out if the timing is already right this time. Do you feel like both of you can already devote time, heart, and energy to make the relationship work? If yes, then your relationship is definitely worth the second chance. Just make sure that the feelings of love are still there.
Pick up new hobbies. If there’s something you’ve always wanted to try, now is the time to do it! You can even take that trip you’ve been thinking about, or that vacation you’ve been craving. You’re going to find that a lot of your spare time is spent thinking about your ex. Whenever you seem to find your mind wandering in her direction, do something else to keep your mind busy.
One thing to think about is whether someone is playing a power game to manipulate a return from the ex, or whether their process is one based on soul-searching and skill-building aimed at real personal growth.
I guess first off, you’re right about her actions. During one of our past break ups, she’s even gone so far as to tell me to go to hell. And yet a month or two later, she decided to come back?! This time feels different though, she sent me this email the other day….
Well, since January would have been some time since your last contact with her, you could always drop her a casual text to ask her how her New Year has been and see how she responds from there. If she doesn’t respond positively, it might really do you justice and a big favor to walk away from this, and focus on moving on.
The most important step of how to get your ex girlfriend back is the no contact. This is double-edged sword my friend. If you use it carefully you will definitely increase your chances of getting ex girlfriend back but if you cheat it then you are the only one who will get hurt from it. There are many men who won their ex girlfriend because of no contact technique and people who don’t get their ex girlfriend because they didn’t do no contact or make mistakes.
The same can be applied to the first text message you send after the no contact period. Rather than going for it all I would actually recommend that you make the entire interaction very brief and end the conversation first.
There are a hundred reasons why you can’t maintain a post-breakup friendship. Jealousy, bitterness, the fear of your ex getting a new boyfriend… these are only some of the pitfalls of staying friends after breaking up.
Only then can the no contact plan work because it is no longer a plan, you are having no contact because you know there is no point to it and have moved on that’s usually the only way it will work for you because you are over the relationship and no longer care if they miss you or not.
You have accepted the fact that even if you don’t get your ex back, you will be fine since there are endless opportunities in the world to find love and happiness.(Read more about having the right mindset after no contact is over)
Let the conversation naturally progress. If your ex is doing great and reports that he or she is seeing other people, you might decide not to waste your time trying to convince him or her to get back together. But if your ex seems to harbor feelings for you, you can gradually bring up the possibility of giving things another try.
I will txt or call you not as a couple. Like a friendship. and she told me ‘ok’. Since that day… I have felt like living in the hell. Only crying. No eating. No work out. My recent life is full of missing her.
The way back is to truly leave and regain your identity as a person without her by your side. I took the time to give other women chances and to improve my own value in connecting with someone who could be my soulmate. My ex had glimpses of my growth and I did my best to avoid and not to give her the impression I was stalking or stuck on her. Yes, it was an act and Yoon tremendous discipline but that “act” slowly becomes reality and she suddenly faced the prospect of losing me forever. She saw how people responded to me and she knew that the vested time we had together was too valuable to throw away despite a momentary infatuation (no I don’t blame her as I was a fairly negligent BF near the end)
You have spent a month not contacting your ex. You spent that entire time working on yourself becoming more and more confident as the days past. Everything seemed to be going fine until you hit your first road block with a negative response. Make no mistake about it, negative responses are never good. However, they don’t EVER mean that you should give up right away. It just means you have to be smarter about how you approach things. Lets take a look at a negative response example (from my past) this is a true story.
Pimp up your Facebook profile – Your Facebook page is a constant message that your closest friends and acquaintances are reading. It’s crucial that they see the guy you want to be seen as… which is a confident, independent, happy and outgoing guy. This means you need to upload pictures of you partying with other pretty girls, smiling, traveling, doing things that you NEVER did whilst in your relationship with your ex.
Instead if you do something opposite, and act indifferent to their new relationship and just concentrate on your own life (career, hobbies etc.), it will get them thinking. And their rebound relationship will end soon like all other rebound relationships.
The bad news is that no matter what a breakup is going to hurt your chances of going on a date again. Usually bad things are said during a breakup that can hurt any “positive points” you may have build up for a date.
Learn to control you mind: Mind is the real source of most of the issues we face. It’s important to learn to control our mind so that we can stay focussed on our life ahead and not dwell on the past. I would suggest that you can try some meditation techniques to calm down the mind. The Hare Krishna Mantra meditation technique is something I found extremely useful. Here is a video about it: Meditation Technique
Hi! I broked up with my boyfriend one month and a week ago, I broked up with him because he became distant with no reason, he was being very dry with me and I always asked him if I was being a good girlfriend and he always said that I was perfect. We didn’t have any problems during our relationship of 3 months. So, I broked up with him through a text “I don’t want to be with you anymore” and he replied that it was a good relationship but we were having many issues and that life made it complicated, so it was better to break up. I don’t know if I want him back because he became distant out of the blue, he didn’t call me or text me as much as before and he said “he was busy with his job” but I knew he had free time. I just want to know why he didn’t want to be with me if things were going well between us, I don’t know what my mistake was. I haven’t talked to him since we broked up, I deleted him from social media that day because I didn’t want him to talk to me. What did I do wrong in the relationship? Should I text him or should I let it go? Thank you, merry Christmas!!
This may make you upset, but it’s the truth. I can’t guarantee that you are going to get your ex boyfriend back, I just can’t. We are dealing with a male human being here and as much as I would love to be able to just make him get back with you I don’t have the mind control powers that so many others in this “how to get your ex boyfriend back” community seem to have.
Dating again to re-kindle the spark immediately after the breakup doesn’t usually work well, because not enough time has passed since then for real changes to have been made for fresh feelings to develop. Additionally, old habits would still remain, and it could easily turn into a situation where you face all the problems of a relationship, but not the full benefits of it since you guys are only ‘dating’. I suggest taking some time off to actually focus on yourself since he is doing the same, and gauge the situation again later on.
If you want to win your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend back then you have to understand that your breakup doesn’t happen from no where. There is solid reasons behind it and now you have opportunity to focus on your old relationship and look where it is not perfect.
About 8 months ago, my girlfriend (17 years old) had to move to Toronto because her dad got a job there. I was heart broken, and so I convinced my parents to let me go with them, as long as I was going to college up there. So I’ve been attending college, while living with my girlfriend and her parents. We fight a lot, but it’s mostly over silly things, based on our insecurities, but I’ve always been willing to work on our problems, and have never thought of leaving her. But about 2 months ago, she broke up with me. And she has been trying to force me to move out. Her parents know this, but they haven’t really told me to get out, because they’re nice people and probably understand the difficulties I’m faced with.
Sure, it may feel tempting to just hang around inside all night rather than going out, but you have to get back on the proverbial horse at some point. Don’t be afraid to go out, meet new people and start to move on. Filling your day to day life with new people and new experiences will make it easier to stop focusing on how much you wish one particular person were still in your life.