In this case it really is the classic line “it’s not you, it’s me.” This one can be a little harder to come back from but trust me it can be done if you are smart about how you approach the situation.
Forgot to also ask, I ordered something online for myself and my ex. this was about 3 weeks ago now, its only just been delivered today, If she tries to contact me regarding it and tries to start a conversation is it best I just ignore her?
He doesn’t want you to confront his family. If he wanted his family to know, he would’ve told them himself. There’s still a part of him that wants to get back together. He was just saying it to make you feel bad about yourself.
I just need guidance. I’m worried this new guy is going propose a day it’ll be all over. I want her to be happy, but with me you know. I sound crazy, but isn’t that what love does to you? And so far she has expressed negative feelings about the guy she is with. I feel like it’s going in my favor, but I just want to know, what else I can do to win her back.
Of course, getting back together with an ex isn’t easy. You broke up for a reason—even if the details are hazy right now—and there’s a chance you could both fall back into old habits that just didn’t work when you were a couple.
Thank you for sharing your story. It takes a lot of strength to be in your situation with such a level head. If you’re looking into getting back with your ex after years apart, the way in which you reach out will be critical. It would be non-threatening, and serve to establish a platform of future contact. I’d think you’d benefit from reading our “70 Pro Tips To Get Back With Your Ex”, but if you’ve like a more tailored approach given the uniqueness of your situation, please feel free to reach and we’ll book a session.
I am sorry you are going through this. I am late to reply to your comment and I hope the meeting went well. I think you should do at least a month of no contact. I know you are afraid of her moving on, but not giving her space is just going to push her further away. By giving her space, you will make her miss you and second guess her decision. You need to heal, both emotionally, physically and mentally before you contact her again. If the breakup came out of the blue, then it was probably a loss of attraction and connection. You need to get her attracted to you again before you can start rebuilding a connection. And to attract her again, you need to be the best version of yourself. Read this article for a more detailed plan.
Mines too is really similar but he wants to be single for now..but after the 30 or 60 days no contact how could i introduce the subject subtly that we could maybe get back together because i know he still has something for me but not that strong anymore?
When using this tactic, you should be trying to communicate the point to the persons subconscious mind …rather than their conscious mind. If you communicate the point directly to a persons conscious mind that someone is happy about the breakup, the persons conscious minds triggers will be set off and they will see that you are just trying to manipulate them. And this will make what you are trying to do completely ineffective. So, how can you communicate the point to the persons subconscious mind rather than their conscious mind?
2nd – It will create ‘fear of loss’ in your ex girlfriend’s mind. Your girlfriend will start thinking why he is not contacting me. She may start giving second-guessing to her decision for not contacting you and once she gets these feelings you will get good chance to get her back.
Sometimes after a breakup, you realize you still have feelings for your ex and want to be with them again. Asking your ex to get back together can be scary, but if you take your time and learn from the past, there’s a chance they’ll say yes.
Moreover, She got a birthday coming next month . She made my birthday the most memorable and made it look like a festival with all my friends. I wished to do something special. (Making a birthday video as we can’t meet).
I’ll start with your last question. Yes, they matter a lot. And it will be very hard to come to a compromise if you have a lot of difference in values and beliefs. I know you feel like you cherish him more than your other interests right now, but don’t you think it’s just because you miss him right now. What if you don’t miss him? Don’t you think you will again start resenting him for his possessiveness and stopping you from doing what you love? In my opinion, breaking up was the right thing for both of you. If you want him back, I’ll suggest you do no contact for at least 90 days. At least till the time you feel you are happy in your life without him. I don’t think he will completely forget about you in that time. And you will still have a chance to get him back after 90 days. But at least, you will know for sure that you are making the right decision.
Basically, she is emotionally unstable …but do you feel like giving her a second chance in lets say 6 months or a year, is a bad idea? Apparently she is at ease now with us being over as it was draining her. But she was apparently very hurt by what I said, and is now moving on and is at peace.
A successful letter or conversation must NOT be about you and what you understand about yourself. It must NOT be full of appropriate sounding apologies or promises of repentance. It must be about your wife and her pain — pain that YOU have caused her.
No matter how tough the odds may seem after getting dumped, there are no rules that say you can’t get back with your ex. It always amazes me that the first piece of advice our friends offer after a breakup is “move on.” Really? This is the best solution our FRIENDS can come up with?
Prior to that though, ask yourself why she didn’t show respect, it probably has got to do with the way you acted around her. If you were too needy in the previous relationship with her, you invited her to walk all over you. If that was the case, you will have to work on your masculine qualities and remove the needy behavior and instead present her with a more confident version of yourself. You should have done this work on you during the NC period.
For a past relationship to work, each person has to have grown as an individual. Each person has to choose to work through the behaviors that led to the breakup. And enough time needs to have passed to allow distance and perspective from the old relationship. From here, a new partnership has the opportunity to emerge.