It was hard getting over my ex-boyfriend, because we dated for three years, then he broke up with me right after New Year’s. I started drowning myself in my schoolwork, and I became very focused on my career goals and other dreams. It’s still a little hard sometimes, because we were high school sweethearts; however, I realized that by keeping myself busy I don’t think about him as much. –Naomi, 23

The exercise for you is to think about and compare yourself with the one you were before the relationship and the person you are now. What things have changed in this period? Think back and find the reasons that attract your boyfriend and specific reasons that pushed your boyfriend away from you.

BIOLOGY: It’s the chemistry between the two of you. If it “felt right” it probably was right, as far as mother nature is concerned.The two of you share a strong connection, so it is probable that you can make “good” babies together. And your (and his) body picks up on that.

Again, your instincts are screwing with you. Trust me, no one takes their ex back out of pity. No one is attracted to someone who is miserable. And even if your ex came back because of this, do you really want your ex to be with you just because of pity? Or do you want them to respect and love you?

– You have low self-esteem and she made you see yourself through her much more positive perspective< – You are reluctant to give yourself any praise for a job well done and she would lavish you with praise and congratulations Getting back on his feet involved reconnecting with old friends, and making contact with new ones as he pursued interests in activities he enjoyed. He joined a book group, found a place with religious services that he liked. He recalled the sports activities that in better times, he used to enjoy and returned to doing those activities again. Bit by bit, his spirits lifted. What about evidence that my theories represent reality? If you’ve been using many of those behaviors I asked you about in the questions above, and you also got dumped, then the fact that both happened in your own life, and that I was able to call both out despite the fact I’ve never met you – that should be all the evidence you need. I didn’t care, though; I lived on 12th Street and he lived on St. Marks and a few days a week, I would just “happen” to stroll by his apartment in my most flattering jeans and blue eyeliner and green boots and blow-dried bangs hoping to bump into him. Alas, though, our “meeting” never seemed to happen, and aside from some fooling around here and there, he remained a distant mystery. “At first it was difficult because I was so crushed by the break-up,” Erin says. “Eventually, I knew I had to quit torturing and ‘testing’ myself to see how I was doing. I blocked my ex on Facebook, made a separate file in my computer for old photos of us, put reminders of him in a box under my bed and deleted his number from my phone. I didn't have the heart to throw all my memories away but I needed it all out of sight to help my heart heal.” However, if your boyfriend cheated on you with this girl, you may seriously want to rethink what you are getting yourself back into. If this is your case, trust me when I say it would be in your best interest to move on. Time heals a lot of things, and I can just about guarantee that if given enough time, you’ll come to realize that moving on was the right choice to make. Thank you for your reply, he has not blocked me just deleted me, I got the impression that it was out of anger but I’m not sure. He has not blocked my phone number so should I message when NC is over? “One of the great things about getting out of a relationship is all of the free time you have,” Scarborough says. “So, instead of just focusing on your ex, take some time to really focus on you and what you want. A break-up is the perfect chance to take a good look at your priorities, your goals and your dreams. Start thinking about what you want your life to be now and what you want your first solo adventure to look like.” Even if my life ahead and the journey remains single, it's a clear view, not a cloudy one. He was my last chance to have some semblance of a family life. (I am now 50+) It was the most painful relationship experience of my life, but I'd rather live authentically alone than living a lie just to have companionship. Take your time, do things you love. Connect with other people who will support you and help you get through it, know that it's normal to miss people who are no longer in your life. Talk to someone about it, talk to your ex about it if it's necessary. Don't blame yourself for whatever happened in the past, and maybe love yourself before you love others. Hi! I broked up with my boyfriend one month and a week ago, I broked up with him because he became distant with no reason, he was being very dry with me and I always asked him if I was being a good girlfriend and he always said that I was perfect. We didn't have any problems during our relationship of 3 months. So, I broked up with him through a text "I don't want to be with you anymore" and he replied that it was a good relationship but we were having many issues and that life made it complicated, so it was better to break up. I don't know if I want him back because he became distant out of the blue, he didn't call me or text me as much as before and he said "he was busy with his job" but I knew he had free time. I just want to know why he didn't want to be with me if things were going well between us, I don't know what my mistake was. I haven't talked to him since we broked up, I deleted him from social media that day because I didn't want him to talk to me. What did I do wrong in the relationship? Should I text him or should I let it go? Thank you, merry Christmas!! According to relationship expert, Randy Bennett, these three methods can create powerful mood states, get him thinking about you and make him desire you like no other woman. You can learn exactly how to do it here. Good day readers how are you doing? Am Dr Love and I make things possible. If you want your relationship to last forever, and you looking for love or you want your boyfriend or girlfriend back then reach me and I will make it possible for you. You can contact me with my phone number. +2348109717085 you will be happy when you try. [otp_overlay]