First of all getting back together with your ex because you are lonely is not a good idea. What you are experiencing is just one of the symptoms of breakup. Everyone feels like this. And it doesn’t last forever. Secondly, acting like this is only going to make your ex less attracted to you. And even if they do feel pity for you, they are not going to get back together because of it.
Thank you so much…loved it…i didnt have to delete him from my fbook, he did it…i cant stop caring about him but from today i will be least bothered about him but i dont know how to delete our pictures and all his sms’s but i know i can do it.
My ex and I have kids I dont know I dont know if I should make him stay away from us or his kids sometimes u uses our kids to get to me and that lets be stuff i have love for him but i dont love him I’m just ready for this to be over its been almost aa year and a half we cant take anymore of his lies and deceiving ways and after he gets done playing house my kids and I suffer
The saying “absence makes the heart grow fonder” is true – and this is the time for you to put it to work. When you cut off contact with him he will remember all the good times you had together and the memories of the bad times will fade.
Your story is very similar to mine. He was dating another girl but i didnt know it. He came back to me several times but didnt want to work things out so i blocked him from social media. that was three months ago. He has been dating that girl for several months even when when he was trying to convince me that he still loved me and missed me but because of my shortcomings he couldnt be with me. Now they are a couple and he hasnt tried to reach out. i changed my number though.
So take full advantage of this time. Start chasing some dreams you have put on the back burner as of late. Get back to the gym. Splurge on a new wardrobe and a visit to your favorite hair stylist. Take care of you and focus on becoming the best version of yourself.
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Apologize if you hurt him. If you did anything at all to hurt your ex-boyfriend, whether you said something that offended him or you weren’t there for him in a time of need, it’s time to apologize. It takes great strength to offer a sincere apology, but it will go a long way in helping you repair your relationship.
You don’t want to ask him to go out with him, or meet him at some night club. That way he can interpret signals wrong. He will think you just want to hook up. Also, you two could have few drinks, one thing can lead to another, and tomorrow you may end up regretting your decision!
It was painful for me to wake up in morning after such a failure. I tried dating with new people to make him jealous and even I tried no contact but nothing works for me. As I desperately want to get my ex boyfriend that’s why I started looking for relationship experts advice over the internet.
I’ve been in this relationship on and off for 5 &1/2 years. I cheated when we first started dating when I was 15 years old and a bad bad person. I’ve changed so much but all he see is the person I use to be. He can’t forgive. I want to spend the rest of my life with him but he told me two days ago that he doesn’t want to ever be with me again but he wants to be “friends with benefits” which is not what I want. I would love to be only friends but I’m so in love with him it’s hard.
Then enumerate all of your good qualities, those qualities that make you special and worth a second shot in love. Make a list of your 100 best qualities. Don’t stop until you reach 100! Having these things written down will help you convince yourself that you’ve made the right decision.
I also do want to point out that once you start the steps that I outline on this page there is no going back. I like to look at it like this, only begin this page if you are sure that you DO NOT want your ex back. If you are ready to move on from that phase of your life then this page will pretty much do the trick for you. Of course, if there is still a doubt, a hungering that maybe you and your ex could work out in the end I recommend you read this site, post to post. It will give you ideas on exactly what you need to do to get him back.
At this point, he may feel confused, maybe even having lost interest in you. But he does not want to deal with the thoughts and emotions of it. That’s why he chooses to avoid this topic altogether whenever it is brought up, which may be reinforced by the fact that you do not pursue the matter whenever he says he isn’t sure. If you do not wish to walk away from this relationship, you should not allow him to give you further ‘I don’t know’s for an answer and ask him to tell you honestly how he feels.
Think about these questions. Don’t be too critical of either him or yourself. All this emotional bullshit, arguing and blaming each other for crap is one of the reasons you might have broken up in the first place.
Think about it this way: negative emotions and feelings are working against you, and will wind up pushing him away, while positive emotions and feelings will work for you, and magnetically draw him back to you.
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Do you think they want to breakup because they want you to beg them to take them back? Nobody wants to be with a needy person. And even if your begging worked, it’s going to lead to a relationship where you will end up being a doormat.
Since trying to get your ex back takes time and going through the no contact period is an everyday struggle, I’ve designed Part 5 of this guide to be an email series. I call this email series EBP Basics.
The key here is to use your advantages to win him over again. New relationships are tough. It’s not always easy to learn all there is to know about someone. Even feeling comfortable around a new someone can take some time. This being said, him making a move BACK to you is much, much easier. And a lot of men are lazy and generally opt to take the easiest path possible. All you have to do is make that path an option.
“After ending it with the boy I had been with for over a year, I was crushed. Everything I looked at and everywhere I went somehow always brought me back to him. So, finally one day I deleted his number from my phone, blocked him on AIM, deleted him on Facebook and MySpace, and got rid of all the pictures and teddy bears and everything that held a connection to him. By getting rid of everything that reminded me of him, it helped me to forget everything I didn’t want to remember.” –Melissa, 16
So this is all about understanding the basics of a relationship and then sacrificing your small things. Sacrificing your time out of daily schedule, sacrificing your ego in the name of relationship. Only then you may be able to withstand daily hardships and enjoy the love and passion of a true relationship.
He suggested we stay friends but I told him that would be too hard on me and he said I can contact him anytime. I know I came across needy over the last couple of months and am wondering if there’s anything I can do to get him back. Should I text him? Try to stay friends? Is there any hope of getting him back?
“If a girl wanted to get her ex back, she would definitely have to work hard. There must have been a reason for splitting in the first place. If the relationship ended because of bad habits she had (being very controlling or jealous, etc.), she should focus on changing her ways and tell him what she plans to do to fix the relationship.”
If you are searching for how to get your ex boyfriend back then you need to prepare yourself for some difficult time ahead. This is because if you want to raise your value in the eyes of your boyfriend then you have to end the contact with your boyfriend at all cost.
Apologize. Think deeply about anything you did or didn’t do that somehow contributed to the downfall of the relationship, and clean the slate by giving your ex a proper apology. Take full responsibility for the offense, without blaming your ex, giving excuses, or expecting an apology (or even forgiveness) in return. It may very well be that your ex contributed to the situation, but you cannot apologize for someone else; you can only apologize for yourself. Leave him or her out of it and odds are the apology will be reciprocated.
Don’t allow lingering negativity to get in the way when you do meet someone new.Remember that starting a new relationship doesn’t mean it will end like your last one did. Concentrating on how you feel you were wronged will make you appear bitter and unpleasant to be around. If you hold onto these feelings, you could miss the opportunity to meet someone amazing in the future.
Hi there, I would like to know if you think there is any hope. My bf of eight months broke up with me saying he wasn’t sure about the next step. Things had been pretty good up until then although we were going slow. I am the first girl he’s liked in five years and his history doesn’t seem very strong in relationships. He was engaged about twenty years ago (he’s 46 now) and he thinks that’s the one time he might’ve been in love. Before he went overseas he made an announcement that I was the total and complete package for him and I thought he was going to propose and instead he broke up with me a few days later saying he wasn’t ready for the next step. He confused me so much when he did that because he seemed totally devastated to do it and wouldn’t stop crying. Then he went overseas for six weeks to visit his dying father, then he came home and we had a few romantic nights. I lost it with him a few times because I couldn’t work out where his head was at and have said some nasty things to him. Nasty to the point where I’m surprised he still speaks to me. His father died a few weeks after he got home, he had to go away again and before he left we were in a good place friend-wise. He has two friends in the city we live in and I’m one of them. He had a pretty traumatic time overseas arranging the funeral etc and I only got one email in four weeks but I knew he had stuff to do so I didn’t worry. Anyway, he’s home now and we had one dinner and drinks date the other night which went well but at the end of it he told me he can’t ever see us back together. I cried of course and told him I couldn’t be friends with him because I want everything from him and friends would never be enough. I even told him I’d thought he was going to propose. He’s pretty upset that I don’t want to be friends and I asked him to pretty much pretend I don’t exist at work (we’re in different divisions so don’t need to speak for work and it’s a huge building). He’s pretty much used to me sending cute messages every couple of days so he knows he’s loved and cared for but I’ve started no contact on him and haven’t done anything at all. He’s seen me twice at work (and I promise I looked very hot!) and looked like he wanted to walk straight over to me but respected what I’d asked for and just smiled at me. When we last spoke he kept begging me to take some time and then maybe I’d be able to be friends with him so I know it’s not his get out of jail free card and he genuinely wants my friendship but I would never be able to do it. As a side note, he’s a hoarder, is pretty messed up emotionally (even more so after his father died) and even admitted that he hasn’t washed dishes or clothes in the two weeks since he’s been home so he clearly has depression. He sleeps all day on the weekends and doesn’t seem motivated to do anything. To my knowledge he isn’t being treated for any illnesses and has never come out and said there’s anything wrong with him, he has told me the other things and even that he has rats. I on the other hand am an A-list girl and can get anyone I want but now I can’t stop crying because HE’S all I want. My question is do you think it’s worth persevering, doing NC then reintroducing myself in a non friend way and seeing if he responds or is it a waste of time after he’s said he can’t see us back together?
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