My situation is a little different than most, we’ve been together for 5 years and he’s currently in the military now, he just ended things, with multiple reasoning but the last one was him saying he didn’t have time for a girlfriend nor did he want one. It’s been a week since we broke up and also a week of NC, I haven’t reached out, but is this going to work, is he really going to miss me even with us being so far away and his schedule being so hectic?? Please someone give me some advice…

I promise you one thing, this isn’t going to be easy. There are going to be times where you will be tempted to contact your ex during your year long no contact. In fact, I have had a lot of women contact me and tell me that going through something as short as a 30 day no contact period is like going through withdrawal (and they are only doing it for 30 days, you have to do it for a year.)

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Every time you resist feeling an emotion it goes down to the basement to lift weights. So if you ignore the frustration, anger, resentment, hurt, or pain that is present in your body, it will only get stronger and come back louder than before until you listen to the signals.

Answering the question of how to get your ex boyfriend back. This question provides a foundation from which to build up your plan. Remember, the problem is not the person themselves but the situation and issues which they found themselves surrounded with. It is also important to answer who broke up with who? If you did the breaking up, of course then you know the exact reasons you broke up with the person and can move on from there. If he broke up with you, determine if he explained the exact reasons why he was breaking up with you.

Hi, we were engaged,she called off our engagement, she is very egoist lying and stubborn and i was abusive (verbally), controlling, jelous, insecure, over possessive. I loved her from the best i have but her ego and stubbornness made me behave wrong to her, i pleaded begged and cried but she didn’t changed her decision, it was me who always use to go to her after every fight where she used to stop talking to me for several days, after broke up i re approached her but she wanted to be friends firstly i said yes but she was so casual and seemed moved on so i started no contact, its been three months i didn’t heard anything from her, she is completely moved on now she seems happy and outgoing and enjoying her life, and here i am so obsessed and crying and dying for her even though i have decided i wont ever contact her or give any signal to contact me, if she wants to workout again then she has to contact me, otherwise its over for me, i am down, i am low but ill get up and ill make it large.

You will understand what romantic love is all about one day. Come back and revisit your comment in about another 5 years and you will have an appreciation of people saying you are infatuated or it being puppy love. You should be about 19 now and still to young to fully understand.

This is important. You can’t approach the process of winning him back lightly. If you’re not 100% committed and truly know you want him back, then none of the words on this page will carry you across the finish line. You’re going to have to both emotionally and intellectually commit to this plan for it to have its proven results. Plan it out. Use your due diligence and know what to say, when to say it.

Have an open discussion. Unfortunately, there’s no surefire way to know if your ex-boyfriend wants to get back together with you without asking him. When you feel you’ve had enough time to show him the new and improved you, have an honest conversation with him, letting him know that you still have feelings for him.

I’m definitely NOT saying you should have been looking to have a kid with her recently – not at all. I’m just saying that the relationship should have been very gradually progressing into more and more serious territory. Women need to notice this kind of progress because it shows them that eventually the relationship could lead to them delivering what nature intended – kids.

I have manifested him in the past and I will manifest him again. I know despite of all the ups & downs HE IS MY SOULMATE. I was once told that when something really good is about to come to your life, Satan tries to throw a lot of obstacles your way. This is the test of my faith my patience and I have 200% faith in my Universe and my love and that my love will be back and we are getting married next year on the same date as planned! “EVERYTHING is possible to him who believes-Jesus”.

“There was a lot of physical chemistry between me and this guy I was seeing for a couple of months, but he was about to be divorced and wasn’t looking for anything serious. During our relationship, I was constantly worried about what he was really doing when we weren’t together. After two months, I decided to stop stressing about him and focus on myself. I started hitting the gym more frequently and I dated a lot. I ended up meeting my current boyfriend about a week after the last time I saw my ex and never thought about him again.”  —Kristina M.

So take full advantage of this time. Start chasing some dreams you have put on the back burner as of late. Get back to the gym. Splurge on a new wardrobe and a visit to your favorite hair stylist. Take care of you and focus on becoming the best version of yourself.

Some people say that time heals all…or if not all, at least calms folks down so that they have a shot of enjoying pleasant interactions again. If you’ve been apart only two weeks, it might be a good idea to relax and rejuvenate for a while before you try to reconnect.

After two years of living together me and my bf decided to have a break. I had some mental problems Which made me depressed and he was working on his projects every minute of the day. I wanted to spend time because I needed emotional support but his projects “were bigger then us”. Promising me I’m the love of his life and I needed to be happy for a while without him. “Taking a step back so we can move forward again”

I loved her, it was after her coming back for the 2nd time which triggered me to do all the critical thinking, and rebuild what im supposed to be doing. 6 months on, that little conversation, in addition to me still playing games(cut down alot, also been saving up,no infidelity) made her left me for the 3rd time.

This is why it’s important to learn what to do after the breakup is reversed. Starting with a clean slate is always the best way to move forward, but before that can happen many people often feel the need to air their original grievances. Understand when and how each of you should do that, and why it should never be allowed to interfere with your happiness once it’s done. Also learn the secrets to keeping your man happy, feeling great about you, and how to avoid any future break ups due to the same old issues.

My vibe was affected by stress of school and radiated out into other areas of my life without my realizing…granted my ex never communicated how I was making him feel, but the breakup made me realize what had happened and how i can get those stress levels down and vibe up…I am prepared it is too late…he will never be able to share those vibes. But if he doesn’t hes also missing out because I feel good, a little sad it didn’t work out, but good overall.

Naturally you may be worried your ex boyfriend will soon forget about you, or be snapped up by another girl. But that’s not quite how it works. I mean.. sure, it happens. But it’s always more complicated than that.