Finally, you need to work to build the desire in him to want to be with you again and see you in the same way he use to see you when things were exciting and new. You don’t want to leave anything to chance here. Sure he may still have feelings for you, but is that enough to stop him from wanting to experience other women while he is single??
Look, I know it’s tempting to reach out. Maybe you need more closure or maybe you saw something funny that reminded you of him, but don’t. Let it be. Let him go through his process and you go through yours. If there is a chance for it to work and there is unfinished business, he’ll realize it as well. But only if he has the space to do so.
Count your blessings – Break-ups are always hard, especially if you have been together with him for a long time already. With that in mind, make it a point to overcome by counting all your blessings. While things did not go the way you expected between you and your ex, there are still many things to be thankful for. Remind yourself of all the positive things that you have right now and be thankful for each one.
If your answer is that you want him bad enough that you will do anything you have to, then read on because I have some great advice, tips, and step-by-step guidance videos that will give you the absolute best shot at getting your ex boyfriend back and keeping him for good.
The main thing is to try not to reminisce too much on previous times, for this could make the breakup a lot more difficult. Instead, visit friends or family who can help you forget until you can completely forget about him all on your own. Life is much more than boys, it’s about you and your happiness.
Be sure however that one therapist works with both of you if you want to increase the odds that you will end up re-united as a couple. Two therapists, one for each partner, all but guarantees that the relationship will end.
The exercise for you is to think about and compare yourself with the one you were before the relationship and the person you are now. What things have changed in this period? Think back and find the reasons that attract your boyfriend and specific reasons that pushed your boyfriend away from you.
Apologize if you hurt him. If you did anything at all to hurt your ex-boyfriend, whether you said something that offended him or you weren’t there for him in a time of need, it’s time to apologize. It takes great strength to offer a sincere apology, but it will go a long way in helping you repair your relationship.
“A lot of singles can’t completely come to terms that it’s over,” Tebb says. “So you’re maybe holding to the idea that you can still fix it. You don’t want to let go because you’re focusing on the positive times [in the relationship] and you’re not really focused on where you went wrong and why the relationship ended.”
I work on myself everyday (some days I fail). Trying to extract my self-esteem, self-respect and dignity from what seems like the other side of the universe. I go to therapy every week. I stay in most nights, I’M starting to get out more. But most importantly, I DO NOT AND WILL NOT contact him in anyway shape or form. He doesn’t deserve contact from me.
Hey, Ryan. I was with my ex for almost three years. She broke it off five months ago. I was in a bad place at the time and was causing a lot of unnecessary discussions. I took care of my problems and I’ve been working on myself a lot since. I insisted on getting back together for the first two months, which didn’t work. We have kept in touch this time, but not in a flirty way. Plus she hasn’t agreed to go out with me. We saw each other twice on October, but she has declined to see me since. I tried no contact back in November and after 12 days she texted saying she missed her best friend (me). I started conversations and she said she was working on stuff of her own, but then started kind of ignoring me. For a while, I wished she would just shut the door on us so I could move on, and the fact that she refuses to do that makes me believe she still sees us together, though I don’t want to be seen like an option and that I’ll just run right back whenever she wants. I sent her flowers for Christmas, for which she thanked me and sent me a picture of them a week later out of the blue, but I didn’t make conversation. Early this year I asked if I could see her and she said no (actually says “not now”. Like I said, she always sort of evades being straightforward, and I don’t know what to make of that). I decided to get more serious with no contact. It’s been like 15 days and I’m getting the no contact “symptom” of thinking she doesn’t care/is trying to forget about me, etc. Is it too late to be doing no contact? What are your insights on her attitude of not giving clear answers? Thanks!
Here is the way to jump start the flow again. Sit down and write a letter to him from the heart. Then put it in an envelope and give it to him. This will open him back up to wanting to talk with you again.
My ex broke up with me after 2.5 years with a message, however he never actually let go of me until last few days he told me he slept with someone and this someone is pregnant. He still has my dog and must keep it until December because of practical issues I can’t take the dog with me yet as her documents are missing. We still talk like normal people and he still tells me I’m the love of his life and the happiness and love he felt for me he never felt before, and when he says those things I feel better but than I think how he got someone pregnant after we were still talking to eachother, and he was still telling me he wants to try to make this relationship work?after all this time together and all the efforts I did. I get crazy. I have lost around 5/6 kg as I cannot eat and stop thinking because I’m afraid of my reaction of when I see a picture of him with someone else or their baby and I know he is not happy with her at least not now…but how to get over all this?how to stop thinking about him and this stupid thing he did? Our lives where very different and maybe if we would have stayed together we would have broken up or ended up getting a divorce, that’s the main reason that he broke up, our different cultures, backgrounds and future. So he just found someone who can accept that he is poor, works crazy hours for little money, has never money, before married and not yet divorced and with 3 children, but I was always trying to improve him to make him get the divorce, to find a better job and I thought him how to save money and many other things. But I think how can a man do this to someone he wanted to marry and have a future. And how a woman can keep the baby of someone she just met?i just want to be happy again and take my dog and wish that he will get what he deserves and realizes of what he has lost
So far this page has really been about personal things that you can do to get your ex back if he has a new squeeze. Now, I want you to realize that I laid this page out that way on purpose. The fact of the matter is that a certain amount of this is out of your control. I mean, if you have found a way to mind control someone please let me know because I could put that skill to good use. However, in this section I am briefly going to discuss certain actions you can take to drastically improve your chances of getting your ex boyfriend back.