To keep it short, I randomly discovered his ex-wife’s FB, posting past wedding photos and still with the profile picture of them up. But he denied he’s got married before but only engaged. Then he broke up with me-a non breakup breakup actually. Few days later, I found his ex has blocked my faebook, but I know she hasn’t taken down the profile picture. Obviously they’re still in contact.

In psychology, Reactance Theory states that when a person feels their sense of control is being taken away, the person will immediately try to regain that control by doing the opposite of what they are asked.

I don’t think moving there is a good idea, unless it’s good for your career. Otherwise, you are just setting yourself up for heartbreak. Imagine how you’d feel if you moved all the way over there for him and he still rejects you. A better idea will be to enjoy your life while he is there and contact him once he returns. If it’s meant to be, it will be.

Not only we share the situation, we also share the name. My girlfriend and I agreed to break up on basically the same grounds, same EVERYTHING, so reading about your relationship is painful. Anyway, since you broke up about two weeks earlier than me, how did the getting back work? Did you quit? Still trying? Already together? Any tips? HELP ME!

You release dopamine and endorphins, two chemicals responsible to your emotional well-being, when you exercise. And you get hotter, too. Never underestimate the power of physical attraction to keep or attract a man again. Besides, whether or not you want to get your ex back, being physically fit and attractive is always a guaranteed self-esteem booster. You need lots of it after a breakup.  

However, my ex boyfriend is not currently at the table with me on this one since we are broken up. (He is not ignoring me or saying we will never be together again, but is making it very clear that our relationship is over.) I have been very clingy in the past and ‘convinced him’ to stay with me when there were problems. I think he is worried I will keep doing that so he keeps telling me that it is definitely over.

Social media is a very useful tool when it comes to how to get her back. I have some great strategies that have worked very well for lots of guys. What are these strategies? Again, it’s all in that video I keep talking about.

Consider how you want your new relationship with your ex to be. Before you take this step, you need to know exactly what needs to change between you guys. Before you talk to him, figure out what you want and what’s most important to you. Make a list if that helps. Don’t make these expectations too big, though (if they are, that’s a sign maybe you guys shouldn’t get back together). For example: maybe you want him to hang with your friends more or call you more often. Think about what would make you happy.

Don’t be too obvious about it. Don’t say, “Don’t you see how I’m no longer jealous when you talk to other girls?” Instead, just don’t look jealous when he talks to other girls, and he’ll figure out the rest.

i still want to go purely because it was a very expensive holiday.. i communicated back with him that out of respect i think it’s fair if he changes his flight and in return i can sort out moving him into a different hotel.. at first he was ok and now he’s asking if it’s necessary which i said yes it for the best.. he replied back if that’s the way it has to be he is fine with that.. deep down i am hurting that he sounds so cool about it all.. and yet i just want him to say sorry and work things out.. my friends reckon he will regret what he has done, i really do love him but i refuse to beg him to come back or even communicate with him.. i want him to miss me.. do you think there’s any chance between us?

Based on all these patterns and after compiling tons of data, I have identified these key signs that you will get back together. I will take you through the most important factors to consider and describe what kind of scenario generally leads to a couple rekindling a past relationship.

Hey so I was with my girlfriend/ fiance for 6 years, and i knew her for 8 years. We had our problems about being faithful after I cheated and then she did the same, but we were teens then and made sure I would never do that again. However I became insecure after she cheated and became verbally aggressive and controlling and eventually she broke up with me because I caught her talking to another guy. My worst fear. Now their relationship isn’t sexually at the point i found out but I still panick and began to beg and cry. the same day we broke up we had sex and said we would remain friends. Then we went like 4 days or so without speaking each other, I tried to get her back by being confident, like day six or seven. It didnt go well. It was suppose to be friends outing but I called it a date in front of her. Then I tried to have sex with her and she said no. Then I told her that I love her. Now I wondering if I start NC that I can healed up and eventually become a guy who she could re-attract her, or is it too late.

It seems like every time you talk to this friend, they’re complaining about something that’s gone wrong in their life, or telling you about a problem that’s not their fault, or unburdening their unhappiness onto you.

Most of the time getting your ex back is still possible if you have the right attitude and mindset; if you are willing to be patient and to put in the work! Our experience in the field will enable us to advise you based on what you are currently going through.

You could start with No contact and avoid making small talk with him for the time being. This article helps you deal with having to see your ex on a daily basis. Do that until you feel that you’re not as affected by things, and start with initiating a casual friendship to see if there’s still a spark, and whether the situation may be different this time compared to the previous relationship.

Me again – I am SO sorry. I just read the comment guidelines (I didn’t know that there was a such thing until after I submitted mine) and feel so silly for being so in depth and descriptive and making my comment turn into a novella. I can assure you that it won’t happen again, it was just nice to be able to tell someone whose opinion I trust the entire story – forgetting that you, again, have many others to serve. My apologies! Thank you again for your consideration and help. 🙂

Wrong. The truth is a girlfriend wants to be important to you but she also needs you to have other activities in your life that don’t include her. Because, if you’d made your life all about her, it’d be a case where she sees that she’s 100% won you over, and women get bored of men they’ve won over fully. Why? It makes them think maybe they could do better, and that’s the last thing you want your ex thinking.

Like I said in the above two scenarios. Insecurity, jealousy, control and manipulation are present in almost every unhealthy relationship. If your ex girlfriend didn’t feel attracted to you by the end of your relationship; there’s a good chance you exhibited these traits in the relationship.

My ex and I dated online for 4 months, because we are in different countries. We broke up 8 months ago after she was acting like crazy about little things and I was really distracted and busy with my PhD study. I could not tolerate anymore. Now I have feelings again for her, I contacted her on facebook to get back together again, she said its too late, where have you been all this months long. How to get her back again, I really have a cruch on her

Guys are attracted to a woman who has her own life, her own happiness, and feels whole outside of a relationship. In an ideal world, your relationship is just the icing on the cake – it’s not what makes your life good, but having it in your life makes your life better.

Hi thanks for the great advice! Also it’s hard with the NC rule due to we work together. Just today I talked with her for the first time in 4 days only because I have to at work. Although I said hello and merry Christmas, it was still strictly only work related . She was very dry with me even though it was only work related.

Your awareness level is the most underrated skill. Most people don’t spend any time working on it and developing it (video game lingo: spend XP points on it). But it can have a huge effect on your happiness, your confidence, your well-being and your relationships.

A first out-of-bounds behavior is one thing. If the mistake is corrected and not repeated ever again that is a positive development and can result in continuation of a better-than-ever marriage. Continued deal-breaker behaviors however, I agree, are invitations to divorce.

But I finally decided for my own well-being that I can’t keep up the friendship facade. It feels like I’m abandoning him, but I think it’s the right thing for me. I guess my question is, can I make this an exception to the no contact rule? I told him if he really needed to talk or wanted to check in on me, I would be ok with it, but that I wouldn’t be the one to contact him until I felt ready. I don’t know if he will contact me, but I felt like it was important for me to leave the door ajar since I’m the only important relationship in his life and he’s been pretty miserable for a while now.

With hindsight, Peter could see that the unpleasant situation he found himself in every day at work had left him depressed in the evenings. His response to depression had been to sink increasingly into “poor me” ruminations. “How can they treat me so unfairly? Why can’t my boss appreciate my talents?  I’m stuck in a job that’s not my thing. I hate having a job that doesn’t fit and a boss who’s chronically negative.”

Do you feel like you lost a piece of yourself? The reason is because you actually may have lost something very real. In 2010, the journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin found that a breakup often damages your sense of identity.

a. Learning from the affair: Peter wrote out the series of misteps that he had allowed himself to take down the road to sexual betrayal. He listed what had motivated each step — and also what would have been far better options for responding to his concerns at each point in the pathway. He identified the specific situational, thoughts and feeling cues that triggered each step, and the alternative action he would take in the future in response to each cue.

It would depend on the context of how the relationship had ended and the experiences you went through together. Bear in mind that a relationship with your best friend is very different from actually being friends with that person, and if the relationship was meaningful enough, there’s a likelihood that his new girlfriend may be a rebound. He just may not realize it yet, or has been subconsciously suppressing his doubts so far. If he still feels that he can’t face you in specific occasions, there is a possibility he isn’t over you, and that makes the new relationship seem even more like a rebound. However, just take note that many factors would come into play, and you could refer to them in this article.

If you want to win your ex girl back in your life then you have to show her that you don’t need her. Same push/pull technique applies here. You have big opportunity to get back into your life once again by updating yourself.

5th Step: Think about all negative things that your ex girlfriend did with you. After breakup your mind is in selective mode where you only getting positive memories you spend with your ex girlfriend. It will take few weeks but you have to switch off this selective mode and think all bad memories.

Once you’re done figuring things out on your own, you obviously need to have a conversation with your ex. An honest convo guys, not one where you’re both just like, “I miss you, I can’t live without you!” Talk about what you both want to change, what you want in the future and what’s been going on while you were together. Get everything out there now!