This isn’t about “punishing” him, or being rude, or being intentionally cruel to him. It’s about giving both of you some much needed space to get perspective on the relationship and really identify the issues that drove you two apart.

A lot of times, your ex-girlfriend may have broken up with you because she does not feel a connection with you anymore. This is usually the case when you were together for a very long time (more than a year).

Interpret your emotions. In the pain and confusion of a breakup, it can be easy to confuse your emotions, interpreting feelings of loneliness and hurt as evidence that you need your ex back in your life. In fact, almost everyone who experiences a breakup initially feels remorse for the lost relationship, coupled with feelings of anxiety, guilt, depression, and loneliness. Generally, the more serious the relationship was, the more severe these feelings tend to be; couples who are married or cohabiting tend to have the worst breakups, whereas those who were casually dating tend to have an easier time in the aftermath of a breakup.[2] But the severity of your feelings does not automatically mean that you should get back together with your ex.

Denver clinical psychologist Susan Heitler, Ph.D, a graduate of Harvard and NYU, is author of Power of Two, a book, a workbook, and a website that teach the communication skills that save and sustain positive relationships.  

If I don’t do anything right now, they’ll fall in love with this new person and forget about me forever. I better go over there and do everything that this article has told me not to do. Including begging, using pity, telling them how much I love them, agreeing to all their conditions (be a doormat). And if they don’t open the door, I’ll just stand outside and call and text them all day. It will be even better to tell my ex how this new person is totally wrong for them and what a big mistake they are making by being in a relationship with this _______(INSERT DEROGATORY REMARK).

It seems like every time you talk to this friend, they’re complaining about something that’s gone wrong in their life, or telling you about a problem that’s not their fault, or unburdening their unhappiness onto you.

In the beginning we we’re happy but then I started to get jealous of her and her best friend that night I had a nightmare thay she left me for him now i cant fix the relationship because she doesnt believe me that i trust her and i dont want to lose her

There are many ways you can approach this conversation, but one safe way is to say something like, “I’ve been wanting to talk to you about our relationship and see how you have been.” Express regret things didn’t work out between you and ask if you can talk about it now that you have some perspective.

There are so many ways to contact a person these days, it’s almost ridiculous. You can call them, text them, facebook them, tweet them, and so much other stuff. And this comfortable technology leads to one of the worst mistakes people make after a breakup, texting their ex all the time (sometimes hundreds to thousands of texts a day).

I’m sure he was much serious about me to building a long-term relationship with me, but I’m very confused why he lied about his past marriage. There must be a reason behind, and I hope it’s not because he is a romance liar. The puzzle is lingering in my head that I can hardly move on.

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I cannot promise that all who read this article and follow its recommendations will see their family restored, but I do believe that it presents the best biblical recommendations for a man abandoned by his wife — particularly for men who feel they have been unjustly abandoned. Brothers, as you read, keep in mind that what is presented here is most effective for men who have given their wife no biblical grounds for divorce. Those men, who have been guilty of some kind of sexual sin or have been abusive, have wounded their wives very deeply, so have a more difficult path to walk. However, they will still find here great benefit.  

However, you CAN make moves and adjustments to speed up the process of winning your ex back. And the sooner you get started on these instant adjustments? The faster your ex will begin actually missing you.