Regardless of whether she contacts you or you contact her, you have to sneak in and present her your new, confidence and changed version. You will have to use your position as a friend to build attraction.
Hi guys, welcome to another video where I’ll be teaching you how to get back together with your ex. I’m Brad Browning, a relationship coach and best-selling author of The Ex Factor Guide. For more advice on reversing your breakup and starting over with your ex, visit my website at www.BreakupBrad.com.
This is the easiest circumstance in which to learn how to get an ex back – a situation where one of you moved to another area, and then the long distance made having a healthy relationship impossible.
Write all those things down and focus on them. That will help force your brain to realize that your relationship with him wasn’t all sunshine and happiness, and in fact there were a lot of reasons that you might not have been happy. Do that – and you’ll make huge strides in erasing his power over you.
Besides, if you feel like going back to your ex because it seems like an easy option, remember that nobody wants to be the person you settled for. It’s better to be temporarily alone and hurting in order to find your ideal partner later on, than it is to keep yourself stuck in the same old relationship that has no potential.
Chuck and Blaire, Ross and Rachel, Carrie and Big. Yes, there are cases when couples get back together and it works out. But you’re not a fictional TV character or (and I know this will be harder to accept) Carrie Bradshaw. Every relationship is different. Be realistic about yours and your expectations. Hate to break it to you, but in the real world, your ex is not going to chase you to Paris (unless Paris is Paris, OH).
2. You also need some space and time. You need to get a hold of yourself and gain some perspective. The fact is, you are a mess after the breakup. And you need to calm down and analyze your relationship thoroughly to realize whether or not being with your ex is in your best interest. It could be that you are just missing your ex. You need to learn to enjoy your life without your ex. You need to prove to yourself that you can be happy without your ex. You will eventually realize that you DON’T NEED YOUR EX to be happy. Maybe you’ll still WANT them, but there is a big difference between needing something and wanting something.
Why? Because clearly, to be together for so long, there had to be a real, emotional connection. On the other hand, even if you were not together for that long, if a deep emotional connection was established, you still have a shot at getting back together.
Women are submissive by nature and they want their man to be the polar opposite (dominant). Leaving decisions (could be about anything) to her, is submissive behavior by you, and it places her in the dominant role – a role that the female kind doesn’t take naturally to.
He is the kindest man I have ever met and I know he loves me, but there is also a part of me that doesn’t believe him and tries to sabotage everything- even without realising it sometimes. I don’t know if it’s because he is not for me, my body clock or my issues from past relationships. Anyway, I went round to his the other day to give each others stuff back. I had intended to keep it brief but we ended up talking for hours (not about the relationship) and had such a laugh and ended up having dinner together. We hugged a lot and I knew he wanted to kiss me but we didn’t and I went home. He then text me asking if I would have stayed over then again saying I didn’t have to answer that. I just thanked him for a lovely night. We text a couple of days later and I was honest and said that I had loved spending time with him again and he hasn’t replied. We love each other but there are doubts. I am so confused and heartbroken. I also feel like I have let myself be codependent with him instead of focusing on my life, which I am committed to doing now no matter what happens. I really want to make it work in the future though.
By “some time,” I don’t mean a few days or a week… I mean at least a month. I know that sounds like a long time, but here’s my reasoning: it’s normal to feel like you want your ex back immediately after a relationship ends. You haven’t even begun moving on yet! But if a month passes by and you still want to be with this person just as much as you did the day after the breakup, that means that maybe things just aren’t finished between you two yet. If you broke up, it was for a reason. You both need a good amount of time alone to figure things out on your own before deciding you want to get back together
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Here’s one piece of advice that will help you heal faster and in the process, or get him back (even though you probably won’t want him at that point). Drop all that yearning and pining now, and just move on.
Getting back on his feet involved reconnecting with old friends, and making contact with new ones as he pursued interests in activities he enjoyed. He joined a book group, found a place with religious services that he liked. He recalled the sports activities that in better times, he used to enjoy and returned to doing those activities again. Bit by bit, his spirits lifted.
But it was humiliating for me. That he never really fought for me. And after a time, i got tired. When i got tired in the first few times, he begged me to keep on, because he needs me, he does not want to lose me ! but as February came by, whenever he saw me being tired, he always offered the wonderful idea of breaking up .
Remember when she put you down in front of her friends? Or when she criticized you for having another beer? How about when she told you that you should probably spend more time in the gym? If she treats her friends better than she treated you, she does not value you for your worth. Don’t go thinking that if you drank less beer or lost some weight that things would change. She is still the same person.
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I’m really missing her and don’t know if i should ever get in touch with her .. its been 14 days… Should I try to get in touch soon and have a proper mature discussion about us breaking up? It just bothers me so much how we had something so good and it just crashed and burned. For some reason I keep thinking we should try again in the future as we do have a deep bond and according to 2 mutual friends, she is battling through some depression which caused her to reach out to her ex whenever she felt insecure with us doing distance. Does NOT justify it.. but I feel sorry for her in that she was battling that stuff…
Is getting back with your ex really the best course of action for both of you? Or are you just seeing your ex through rose-tinted spectacles because we always appreciate what we no longer have? Perhaps they were violent or stole or cheated or you behaved in any of these ways (forgive me for suggesting these things, but I don’t know you personally). Regardless of how you feel at the moment, now is an opportunity for you to take stock and do some serious thinking, rather than doing a Dustin Hoffman and ‘romantically’ barging in to demand your ex-partner be with you now and for always.
Hi Lauren, i had recently bought the book men are from mars and women are from Venus, it has brought me to try and discover more wonderful information on your page. My boyfriend of three years had recently just left me about a month an a half ago, we had just moved in together and were only living at our apartment for 2 months before he decided to lay the break up on me. He says he needs to find himself and his happiness, this term is still so confusing for me when things for the past three years were going so well. and just 2 weeks before he broke up with me he had talked about marrying me wanting to spend the rest of his life with me. as soon as he left the apartment and packed his things he doesn’t want to see me or doesn’t really talk to me and whenever we do talk it always ends up in the both of breaking down crying because its so sad. he has told me that he still loves me deeply and cares about me but doesn’t want to be in a relationship right now. I have no idea really what to take from all this, i know that i may have smothered him to much in the relationship but at the time i did not know what i had been doing i do know that i some how contributed to this traumatic event. but he is making it seem like its totally over and he is just cutting things cold turkey. i never seen this break up coming and he said to me that it just happened and he didn’t even realize he was going to do it. after three years of being together hes acting as if he doesn’t even know me. i just need some advice of insight on what might be happening to him or me right now for this to take place? …
I have been wondering how to make him love me again, realise he made a mistake and give a second chance. It is even harder as he is in another country. Plus, I really don’t think the NC rule would work on him, because I have been the one who asks question in our relationship, who kept the conversation going when we lived apart for a few weeks. I believe if i implement it now, it will just give him the opportunity to move on, to forget me, because he has a lot going on otherwise (studies, friends, handball, parties…). Did i also ruin my chances by begging for it so much?
Hang in there. Continue to work on yourself and don’t linger in the past, if she moves on, so should you. And if your decision is to only come back if she contacts you, then it’s a good idea to move on in the mean time because you don’t know if it will ever happen or not.
Broke up with the love of my life after a huge fight. He said he would never take me back again after I ended things with him numerous times. I only realized that he was the love of my life after I lost him. I want him back but I also don’t want to hurt him again. Not sure how I can even get him back, seems like he is moving on with his life.
However, I have also seen a lot of situations where things just aren’t meant to be, whether it’s that the relationship was too toxic and dysfunctional to be fixed… or whether it was more of a rebound relationship or a physical relationship rather than a real, meaningful emotional connection.
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So, on tge 30th of nov my ex declared she hasn‘t been missing me as much when i‘m not around like she did a year ago when we were dating, and said she needed alone time to find out what that means. Until then we were ülanning to move to a different city, no warning there.
Aw I wanted to hear that it’s still possible….to bad now I’m left with this bitter, sweetness. Guess i’ll have to cherish the good memories as they’ll stay with me forever. Sorry if I sound depressed 😉
To better improve your chances at a fresh start, insist on couples therapy for both of you. “Pre-commitment therapy can help you find out the pitfalls and whether you’ve solved the old problems,” explains Tessina. She also suggests considering seeing a therapist on your own, to get expert help to decide if you’re dating for the right reasons.
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So, why don’t you just let it go? Just cut all contact with her and try to move on. I know you feel like that if you get an apology from her you might get closure or if you two end things on good terms, you will feel better. But trust me you won’t. It’s your mind’s way of NOT LETTING GO. Your mind is trying to hold on to someone that you loved and that is precious to you. And it’s manipulating you into thinking that if those things happen, only then you will be able to move on. But the truth is, even if those things happen, it won’t be any easier to move on. In fact, it might get harder. My recommendation is that you give up all hope of getting an apology from her, or getting her back, cut all contact with her and just try to move on.
A woman who leaves her husband doesn’t want to throw away her marriage, but she feels like someone deprived of oxygen. In desperation she escapes the marriage just so she won’t suffocate. In the separation she then feels like she can breath for the first time in years, and doesn’t want to return to a relationship that only robbed her of breath.
If your ex was in a meaningful relationship with you, then the breakup is as hard for them as it is for you, even if they were the one who broke up. And you are not going to stop communicating with them forever. You are just going to give you and your ex enough time for all the negativity of the breakup to fade away.
Listen, sure, finding some new dude may be okay for you as a bandade, but it won’t help you get your ex-boyfriend back. You should make him jealous in a smarter way. Like, he should see that there are guys mingling around you, but don’t let him see that you’ve actually found someone. Don’t post stupid, drunken-party pictures on Facebook of you making out with some random dude.
Most of the time getting your ex back is still possible if you have the right attitude and mindset; if you are willing to be patient and to put in the work! Our experience in the field will enable us to advise you based on what you are currently going through.
Hi, what about people who have mood problems or other issues? I’ve ADHD and this can affect my mood and I go through depression as well. ADHD affects my impulses. Though it seems odd, I do consider myself fairly laid back and amiable, it’s just sometimes my brain does things.