Surely there must be an instant magic formula to get an ex back ASAP. I understand the need to go through certain steps and try to resolve problems, etc. etc. But I really need him back NOW. We have bills to pay together, and projects we were doing together that need completing, and really I miss …

Your wife must know that you understand her wounded condition and how you have contributed to it. Only after she senses that you have genuine compassion for the wounds you have caused, is it possible that she will open her heart back up to you. (Of course, apart from you, God may move upon her as well.)

That’s great to hear! Well to answer your question, respect is very subjective and the reason people start messing around with others isn’t so much out of the lack of respect in my opinion, but when a need or requirement in the relationship isn’t met, thus causing the person to seek it with someone else. It could either be physical needs, emotional needs, or others. If you want to avoid this happening in the future, you might need to ask yourself and think from her point of view and wonder why she cheated the first time around, and prevent it.

Right Me and my ex were together for six years lived with each other twice and engaged during this time towards the end of the first breakup I lost my Nan and as she raised me i didn’t handle it well at all she started a new relationship, I carried on sleeping with her and many others and she fell pregnant it wasn’t ideal but I did love her and we decided to give it another go we moved in together and 9 months later my beautiful daughter was born after that her Dad passed away i treated her awfully during this period I knew what I was doing but couldn’t stop I was severely depressed and eventually ended the relationship again, I Continued to be a good father and she pined after me for about a year after I shunned her I was in a dark place and a very different person I knew what I was doing but genuinely felt that I was no good for her unless I changed myself I never said this to her and instead just continued to push her away, with time we had a good relationship for our daughter, Anyways four years flew by and it was revealed to me that she had been seeing someone for the last three years I never knew about this and the only reason it came to light was when she arrived at my house at half four in the morning in tears she confided in me told me everything and the long and short of it is this guy has been sleeping with her and his ex partner the entire time but has now made a decision that he wants to be with her proposing one day and 24 hours later sleeping with his ex, this has gone on for the last 8 months and I’ve tried to be there she asked me honestly if I still had feelings for her and I realised I did truly still love her I told her this and it caused resentment her telling me she doesn’t love me she loves him I’ve done everything I can the last 8 months and she says she deeply cares for me but doesn’t love or feel attracted to me anymore but she knows I’d be good for her and our daughter and can see how much I’ve changed and knows that he is no good for her at all yet she stays in contact with him because I’ve changed maybe he can change too though his actions seem to prove otherwise anyways do I stick or twist I really do love her with all I have but don’t know what to do it kills me every time he breaks her heart and not being able to hold her or be with her again I think the fact she has told me her feelings are with someone else despite me changing tells me that it’s time to move on

You can also seduce your ex in a more traditional sense; by creating intimacy or by flirting and complimenting them. It should be very easy for you to convey attraction or to sexualize a conversation due to the fact that you have been together before. Ultimately, especially if you have been broken up for more than 2 years you will need a face to face meeting to seal the deal. If you have been talking via social media, email or phone for some time and you feel that you have re-established a connection, a face to face meeting is the only way to take the next step. Physical contact, grabbing his or her hand and even a kiss or an evening together can bring you even closer together and create that permanent need to be with one another. So don’t be afraid to ask your ex out on a date or to do a fun activity that you will both enjoy because it is the best way for you to finally meet your goal of getting back together after several years apart!

Again, showing her that she’s got you 100% by the balls like this will make her bored, which equates to reduced attraction that contributes to a break up. It’ll also indicate to her that you have no other viable dating options (because if you did have such options, why would you be so concerned with stressing your commitment?).

Ihave been in love with this one Man for 25 years we were not together for 9 yrs got back together married was together for 8 years now we are divorced be a yr in March he is with someone else we have secretly been together 3 times since the break up and I actually work part time for the same person that he works full time for ee dont actually run into each other every day maybe once a week I love and very much inlove with him we have conquered so much and overcame so much in our time together I love him very much in love with him Just need advice if you can help. Thank you

So I realized recently how much I want to get back with my ex. After reading this article I realize it was going well until I screwed it up. We were together 3 years, have been apart for 1 and have a son. He lives in another state too. He visits every month or two. He was here this weekend and we went out with our son and had a great time. He mentioned it was great. Then we went out to dinner just the two of us. We were having a good time and then I brought up us getting back together. His defenses went up and he completely rejected the idea of getting together. I continued to talk about it for much too long. How do I fix this? Also, do I need to invest a lot more time in building a connection since we live in different places, have a kid and reconnecting would be such a big deal? Thanks!

Wait 30 days?  See if time would heal the wounds?  I didn’t want to wait and sit around hoping and trying not to be depressed.    Give me a break! About to give up, I tried one more search and found a book called How To Get Your Love Back Now.  It said you could get your love back starting in as few as 7 minutes using something called Emotional Logic.  I was skeptical but there was a money back guarantee and I figured what the heck.

Step 2 of this Guide is called YOU simply because it is all about you.  This is the part where you can undo all the damage you might have already done by making the mistakes mentioned in Step 1. Even if you didn’t make any of those mistakes, you still MUST follow this step, because this is the most crucial step in getting back together.

I find your page very interesting. Me and my 6 years bf broke up 2 days ago. He is 27 and so am I, we are planning to have a baby this year. We have a very beautiful relationship with some downs but we struggle and work things out. For the past 2 years, we had a very sweet relationship, everything is in place. Until last week, I found out that hes bee lying behind my back. My work is 8am-6pm and hes working 4pm-1am. Obviously, theres no time for us to see each other everyday. We can only see each other and spend quality time together every Saturday. Everytime he ends his job, he always txt me goodnight and always letting me know hes home already. Until I found out that hes not going home straight and eve not going home to their house for a couple of days. I was so mad, my friend even saw her with another girl eating outside around 2 am. I was so mad at him, I did not talk to him for a couple of days. He says sorry and beg for forgiveness. I even get to a point where I stalk him in his work place to see he has a girl, and as soon as I saw “them” walking towards his car, I confronted him. I asked him why. He said he just fell out of love since the time that I started working and no time to see each other, he even told me to just break it off with me because he dont want to hurt me anymore. He said that i deserve someone better. BTW, the girl is just his office mate and wanted to ride in his car WITH A GROUP. And I know my bf’s taste, the girl that I saw is impossible for my bf to like. He cried when I left him that night.

Me and my other half split up 5 weeks ago last sunday, he split with me 2 days after my 21st birthday. Yes he was my first love but I am completely smitten by him. When he broke it off with me he didnt give me much of a reason but gave me a kiss as he got out of my car. I got a text message saying “he doesnt want anything with me anymore, its a clean break and not just a break” but ive had no explination and im incredibly worried that he thinks the grass is greener. I made the mistake of texting him because i felt like i needed closure and he didnt give me that. After 2.5 years i deserve that right? He keeps telling people that hes “ignoring me to move on properly” and i just dont understand. 2 hours before breaking it off with me, he was telling me he loves me and misses me. And wrote in my birthday card “to my one and only” was this all a lie? Hes a very “led astray” person and his family like to drink and ever since this happened hes been drinking more, hes seen me once and not even made eye contact with me. He could never talk to me and convided in a mutual female friend who i now fear hes trying it on with. Hes getting on with his life whilst mines in the gutted. I really dont know if he loves me or has done for a while. Im so confused.

I was married for 10 years with my hs sweet heart. We broke up after a very toxic relationship no trust, drugs were involved we lost everything. I went to rehab & domestic violence counseling. I did it all alone. I moved on and stayed strong for myself and my kids. I started seeing this new guy but he won’t commit 5 months still not his gf. Met his mom & son. But said it’s a lot of pressure to meet my parents for a birthday dinner. I have always been in touch with my ex. Now he said he is a different man. He joined Jiu-Jitsu and I see he is different. Deep down he is the love of my life. But I like this new guy I feel like a different women around him. I feel like I’m at my best. What do I do???

Ah so you had a sneaking suspicion but were proven wrong. This is bad for you for a couple of reasons. First off, your boyfriend surely will feel worried about incurring your wrath whenever they want to do something. Secondly, it makes your ex feel like you never trusted them. Luckily, you can work on this and prove to him that you are no longer the person who suspects him every time he goes out (without you.)

For sure though, whatever their ultimate relationship decision, both Peter and Paulette feel out of their lifeboat and back on solid ground.  The panic of a devastating waterfall ahead has been replaced by anticipation of a safer and sunnier future, whether in fact they end up together or apart.

Now I want you to build the picture in your mind of scenarios from past relationship where you both have arguments with each other. List down a chain of events that you can change yourself which avoided arguments. By Implemented those changes how much it affected the outcome. How do you feel now?

Yet another example of the man in the relationship not taking the lead, and perhaps even behaving submissively. Nowhere is the male dominance/ female submissiveness dynamic more important than in the bedroom. Bucket loads of attraction gets lost this way.

The only way to truly gain the benefits of the no contact rule is to follow it all the way through. That means that if you broke the no contact rule, the only thing to be done is to start the no contact period over again.

Not only the guide but Brad himself was also very helpful I contact him multiple time about my personal problems and every time he guide me towards right direction and in the end I saw my ex crawling back to me and even I don’t have to beg her to take me back.

Give her time. You’re not going to be able to make moves on her right away. Trying to win back your ex wife when she’s still upset with you is utterly useless. Give her time to go through the motions. Let her anger and hate over the break up dissipate before you start your long climb back to her. It is important, however, that you don’t lose contact with her. Develop a friendship with her. Let her know that you’re still there for her.

Hi! Thank you for reply. Few days ago we had short conversation,he said again that he cant effort marriage and etc. I asked him directly without any rudeness,did you found someone else? He said ” no, I dont have GF and i dont want. Then I asked him I am not yours anymore? And he said ” I dont know its complicated and dont want discuss this topic again” He always do it, keep silence and when Im asking broke up or what?? He always cant tell exactly, sometimes I even think better if he will tell me YES we broke up, I will suffer but anyway I will let go to everything and will try to focus on my life, but I will never break up with him first, and its not about I can or cant, its because I will regret then all my life, dont want remorse later. I dont understand his logic, I know he has money issues now and job not good, but also his silence and ignoring annoying me! And when Im asking does he want to break up and I will not bother him , he just replying dont know …