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If you do this successfully she might came around well mine did, told her kindly to fark off , was already seeing another woman.. And if SHE ever stumbles across is post she can get farked once more….
2 months ago she decides that she’s not happy anymore and calls it quits! We were a couple of weeks away from moving into a new house together. We sorta kept talking and texting up until a week ago. She kept saying that we’re on or off, and ever time I said we’re on, she would say no. Two weekends ago, I go and see her and we have a coffee and then go for a drive to a local lake, she keeps telling me that she’s never coming back to me again, because she wasn’t happy. Anyway fast forward 1/2hr and we’re kissing passionately! She then says to me, “oh, that must mean that we’re on again”?! I told her that I didn’t want to rekindle the relationship we had, because there was obviously a reason for the break up. I said it would be better if we took it easy and hung out, and see what happens?! She didn’t like that and rang me later that night to tell me to never call her again, because she had made up her mind. The following morning, I received a text asking if we’re still talking? I said yes, but by this time, I was a bit confused by what had happened the day and night before. A couple of days ago, she sent me a text saying, “so is this final”? To which I didn’t reply, and then she rang me 6 times in a row, which I didn’t answer. Later that night she rang me to see if I was ok? I told her to leave me alone, and stop playing games. She immediately deleted and blocked me on Facebook and changed her mobile number, so I can’t contact her. She then emailed me the following day to say sorry that she had been with another man, guess it wasn’t meant to be!? Now, I don’t believe that she’s been with anyone else, because she certainly wouldn’t tell me, but the fact that she could say that, sort of tells me something! Even still, I love this woman totally and unconditionally, but I can’t work out what to do? My only way of contact is through email, which is ridiculous, but if she’s gone to that extreme, I guess there’s nothing I can do to change the situation, or is there? As a side note, the week we split, I picked up her engagement ring, that she sort of knows about but didn’t know I picked it up. Am I being silly, thinking that a woman that could do all those things would seriously have ever wanted to marry me, or still does? I’m interested to hear any advice or opinions?! Thanks!
She could be confused still, unable to let go of the past, or perhaps she wants to start off as friends first and is trying to see how she still feels about you. There could also be the last option that she really just wants to maintain a friendship with you and is over you already. I suggest you take things at face value for now since it would be easier compared to second guessing at every turn. Just continue to build up a friendship and bond, before seeing how things go from there. Don’t be too impatient or you would push her away completely.
Take responsibility for your own mistakes, and own up to them openly. Don’t try to minimize or deny things you did wrong; instead, show that you recognize what you did wrong and want to avoid similar mistakes in the future. For example, you might say something like, “I know I wasn’t a good listener and that’s my fault. I was too busy worrying about work (or school or whatever) and I didn’t give you the attention you deserved. I’m sorry and I want to change that.”
Clean up any skin problems you have- If you have excessive acne or any unwanted moles you can get those taken care of. I know it may be uncomfortable to talk about but in this case you need to suck it up and get the proper treatment if you don’t want them.
If you are on the edge of your seat for every text, response or call then you aren’t going to do well because you don’t want to rush this thing. Instead, you kind of want things to unfold naturally (more on this later.)
I’ve been around the block more than a few times myself, and I’ve noticed that when I’m in a relationship, other people seem more drawn to me, compared to when I’m feeling lonely and sad. I always think I’m doing my best to be friendly, but people can instinctively tell the difference, even if they don’t realize what it is.
It’s time to set some bad memories on fire. Literally. Sometimes hanging on to those “Do you remember the time you did such and such?” moments are the things that lead to relationship sabotage. Instead of carrying grudges around forever, torch them. “Write them all down on a piece of paper. Then set a timer for a certain amount of time. It might be 10 minutes. It might be 30. It might be the whole day. The point is: Give yourself as long as you need to really wallow in the misery of these grudges. Savor them. Get angry about them. Mutter about them. Do whatever you need to do to get sick and tired of them,” says Bowman. “Once you are done, say, ‘I will not think about these anymore. These grudges have lost their usefulness.'” Then take a match and burn them.
First impressions are everything. You need to remember that. How you approach this first contact message is almost as important as the text messages later in this process. Why? Because, if you screw this part up you can kiss your chances of getting your boyfriend back goodbye. No pressure though.
But I cannot stress the bottom line enough: The No Contact period is the most important stage of this process. If you don’t do the serious work there, you won’t see a lot of progress with your ex. And even if for some reason you do nothing in No Contact and you DO get your ex back, I’m 95% sure it won’t last. Sorry.
The best way to get your boyfriend or girlfriend to kiss you is to enhance your intimacy by leaning against your partner, making eye contact, and touching their face. Bring their attention to your mouth by eating something sweet or gently biting your bottom lip. Send flirty signals by whispering in their ear or giving them a compliment. At the end of a date or outing, give your partner a sense that you want a kiss by lingering or leaning in! Read on for more advice from our reviewer on how to set the right mood and be confident!
Wrong. The truth is a girlfriend wants to be important to you but she also needs you to have other activities in your life that don’t include her. Because, if you’d made your life all about her, it’d be a case where she sees that she’s 100% won you over, and women get bored of men they’ve won over fully. Why? It makes them think maybe they could do better, and that’s the last thing you want your ex thinking.
The big takeaway that I want you to get from this is that you have to look like you take care of yourself. The second that you stop looking that way is the second you appear less attractive than you really can be.
Be that man your ex-girlfriend fell in love with – Think about the first time when both of you got together. What are the things about you that she specifically likes? Is it your sense of humor or sense of style? No matter what it is, bring back the love and passion in your relationship by letting your ex-girlfriend see the man that he fell in love with before.
Is she dating someone else? If so, did you know that you can make her realize she’d rather be with you? See page 96 for all the details (then sit back as she kicks him to the curb and comes running back to you).
By going out on a few dates you are changing your situation in several positive ways; you are getting over your neediness, you are increasing your confidence, and you are getting out of any depression. These are all VERY attractive things.
The bad news is that no matter what a breakup is going to hurt your chances of going on a date again. Usually bad things are said during a breakup that can hurt any “positive points” you may have build up for a date.