Hi guys. I would like to know how everyone has made it happen in terms where I haven’t made its been 5 years apart with my ex 2016 we spoke via email and he mentioned that he is happy with where he is and assumes I’m happy. After that email we met for dinner got another email later stating that while we had dinner he wondered how far we would have been if it wasnt the day I broke up with him and it brought an unpleasant feeling. I still like the person but I don’t know if I should close the chapter or email him a year later today as it’s his birthday…
I don’t want to let her slip away completely as I want that potential chance.. so should I call her in 2 weeks and want to talk about the breakup, and maybe getting back together once we get some stability back in our own lives… or should I just leave it all up to her to get in touch (which one friend says may be a very long time given how hurt she was and now she is trying to move on).
Don’t be too obvious about it. Don’t say, “Don’t you see how I’m no longer jealous when you talk to other girls?” Instead, just don’t look jealous when he talks to other girls, and he’ll figure out the rest.
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If you are still looking into how to get an ex back you’ll need to realize that it’s not about getting back together and more about seducing the one you love again. When you speak about getting back together you run the risk of subconsciously seeking to fall back into the same dynamics that led to a breakup in your first relationship.
Ive loved him for almost 20yrs. Since I was a kid. An he says “Im not takn you back.. you keep leaving!! accept it…” Seriously!? Leaving?!?!? as if I hadnt done alllll I could do.. an he cant jus step back for a sec an look at his actions. Who wants to be called names? degraded in front the kids sometimes or just condescending remarks. But get upset when I confront him. He’s emotionally abusive. Has no clue of his actions. His words. I had no parents. He did growing up. Like, its almost like he wants that classic “Im the man, your the woman type relationship.” I mess w/the kids an cook an do all drs appts an etc. While he jus wrks an watches ball games. I mean its so boring an.old fashioned its ridiculous.
There’s also knowing when not to try again. ‘It’s not wise if you’re simply trying to recreate the past or if you’re going back because of loneliness or despair or “I’ll settle for this relationship,”’ says Susan. Falling back onto a past relationship for the wrong reasons will never end well, but it’s hard to remember that when they’re such familiar territory. It’s comfortable, relaxed, you know each other inside out. But familiarity and history doesn’t equal a healthy relationship and it’s key to understand the reasons you are returning to somebody, and know that they’re valid.
It is natural to feel scared about going up to someone who has rejected you. You may be worried that he won’t talk to you, won’t be friendly and perhaps won’t answer any questions you may have. All of this is natural and normal. If you really want to approach him to ask him something, consider going with a friend you can rely on and perhaps having them doing some of the talking on your behalf. Choose somewhere neutral and calm, and have a good excuse to leave quickly if things seem too awkward for you, such as “Thanks for the quick chat, I have to get to an appointment now”. Most of all, realize that if you don’t get the answers or discussion you’d hoped for, that it’s not a reflection on you, as you’ve shown much courage, but is about your ex-boyfriend’s method of dealing with the situation in his own way and isn’t a slur on you.
Of course, this has to be taken together with the reason you broke up. It’s a good sign for your prospects at getting back together if you were together for a long time, but if you broke up because one of you cheated and the trust was gone then your chances are much worse.
People without opinions, or those who do everything to please others are BORING! Every good love story has conflict…ever heard that “opposites attract”? Don’t be afraid to stand up, express yourself, and pick the other side. You won’t attract your ex back by saying “yes” to everything.
So my ex boyfriend and I were together for a year and 4 months. Honestly he was obsessed and so was I but i became too comfortable. He was my world and I never thought he would leave me. He would always chase after me and showering me with love and it made me the happiest person alive. One day he got tired of fighting with me and he dumped. told me he didnt want me anymore. I looked like a fool, i begged i cried i ran after him but he just walked away with his head up. it was so painfully. he blocked me on everything so i dont have contact but if i text him he will usually unblock to read my messages. it hurts so bad and as messed up as it is i still want him. I want him back so badly it kills.
Make sure you take the time to self-reflect and take responsibility for your own personal role in the ups and downs of your on-again, off-again relationship. “Anybody who thinks ‘it was all my partner’s fault’ is certainly fooling themselves,” says Dr. Miller. “There is this human tendency to explain disappointments as someone else’s fault, but relationships are the combination of two people.” Think about what you need to work on to be a better partner. If you’re having trouble identifying your own shortcomings, ask a friend (or even your ex) to help you see what you could improve on. You both broke up for a reason and as much as you hate to admit it, that reason may be the person staring back at you in the mirror.
It means that your negative emotions are in control of you. The pain of heartbreak is in control of your mind (and driving you towards all sorts of bad instincts, described in Step 2), and if you don’t detox and get rid of that pain it will push him away from you for good.
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Against all odds: There are, of course, plenty of good arguments for staying away from your ex. A 2013 study from Kansas State University found that many couples who got back together assumed their partner had changed for the better, or that they would be better at communicating. Because of those assumptions, they tended to not discuss subsequent major life decisions, like moving in together or buying that shared pet they always wanted, which negatively affected the new relationship.
Thanks. It’s so hard. The rebound girl is even still in the mix, he says she’s hounding him. They’re both working hard at getting him back it seems. I’m still mad he even dated the other girl at all. Decided not to be the 3rd “desperado”, so I’m bowing out for a bit. I pray he comes back and stays. Not fair that guys find partners so easily and move on so easily, takes me years to meet a guy I’m really into then a thing like this happens, right after one heartbreak. Holding on to faith not to give up. Looking forward to my vacation, I need it. My dream is that he let’s them both go and joins me on my vacay. 🙂 For now I’ll just get bikini ready and work on self and business.
Been 1 year now since my gorgeous Ex left me we where together for 2 years strong but after the first year we wanted a family so we got pregnant and where going to have a daughter but 22 weeks we had a Miscarriage!!
I decided to chime in here quickly, according to Kris S the girl did not really “cheat” on him but rather “messed” with fellow guy he didn’t like, AFTER the break-up. That act he considered unloyal and therefore he’s feeling not respected. In this case, I would consider this as a rebound relationship in order to get over the relationship with you, Kris S, and you shouldn’t feel bad about it. Eventually she’s free to do what she wants apfter the break-up and it has nothing to do with you but with her.
While it is important to not pursue your ex for a month or so, it’s okay to be responsive if he or she pursues you. In other words, if you get a call, don’t hang up on your ex or refuse to talk. It is not necessary to try to play mind games or play hard to get, and doing so would have the potential to push him or her further away, which is the opposite of your goal at this point.
Whatever the old pattern or behaviour that you’re trying to correct, it takes intentionality from both sides to make a relationship run smoothly. Are you “kind of hoping” that things will work out better this time around, or are you being purposeful about how you show up in your relationship?
Over the past two months, I’ve made a lot of personal strides and feel better about myself and not nearly as sad as I once was. I still have moments where I break down because I truly loved the girl, and the breakup came out of nowhere. Jan. 30 is fast approaching, and that marks two years since we first met (I’m currently a senior in college, she’s a junior). February marks a lot of what would be two-year anniversaries and I know it’s going to be a tough month. I’ve received a lot of advice, had multiple deep conversations with my support group, but I truly want my ex back (different from needing her). How should I go about reaching out to her, as I was planning on it around the end of January. (I wrote her a handwritten letter at the end of September and the day after my birthday she sent me an email telling me she wanted to quit contact. I’ve had one outburst since then Halloween weekend.)
If you find yourself wanting to get back with them just to see if you are able to, this a recipe for disaster. Do you want to see if you are still worthy of them and their attention? Do you find yourself telling your friends that you think you can still “win” their heart?
I have been going through a lot of emotional worry and depression after I damaged up with my ex-boyfriend and then I followed the guide at www.saveabreakup.com as well as I am currently back together with him and I am very satisfied, I very recommend this.
There are no guarantees in life and love, but unless you’re getting back together for love and companionship, you’re doing it for the wrong reasons. But there are some tell-tale signs things may not work this time around: