Don’t let yourself forget all of the reasons why the relationship didn’t work. After a breakup we start missing people, forgeting the bad and remembering only the good. There is a reason why you are not together anymore. Also, it’s very important to keep yourself busy, do the things you like, surrownd yourself with friends and family and connect with people, learn new things, pamper yourself. Life can be fun and beautiful, we can try our best to make it 🙂
In that situation your girl will, in return, go cold on you too. Again, she ends up feeling disconnected from you, “he’s being distant”, and so she breaks up with you, leaving you needing to learn how to get your ex-girlfriend back fast.
Treating your life like it’s important and of value is attractive. So put yourself first and do what’s best for you. When your man comes back to you, don’t just pick up where the relationship left off. He’ll have more of an incentive to truly resolve the issues that led to the breakup because he wants you back.
You need to make him feel terrible for breaking up with you. He should feel like a dumbass for letting you go. That’s what you need to make him feel like if you want to get him back. You won’t get him back by spying and stalking him (stop checking his Facebook every 2 minutes), but by making him remember all the great times you had together, and making him imagine how nicer life could be if you were still together.
If you still actually want to be friends (and aren’t saying that to spare his feelings or come out as the “good guy”), you will need to be firm. You need to set clear boundaries with him, establish clear consequences (if you contact me more than X times a wk, ask X questions, etc. there will be no further contact EVER)and stick to them. If you truly do not want constant contact or to hang out, set those boundaries. If you do not want to answer certain questions (like about who you are dating/sleeping with), set those boundaries. If he disrespects those boundaries, cut off communication.
He stayed at my house after sex saying he cant get home that late so we were sleeping together. Then stayed for the weekend, cooked for me and left his stuff at me saying he dont want to bring it again. Then started to repair my boiler, ordered stuff and collected from the shop. I was terrified what he wants. After my marriage I lived alone with 2 kids and I was happy: I could decide about my things alone and it was like a fresh air after 20 year long marriage even if it was hard sometimes to arrange everything alone eg. moving, kids illness, arranging school for kids, repairing things, normal household duties, paying bills and also I had a fulltime job. But I felt happy and independent. But I was almost like a male and I have not sex with anyone. But after 2 years I started feeling unwell physically and menthally. I thought it was because of lack of sex. But since I did not want to lose my independence, I decided on this friends with benefits type of thing. This is the story behind it.
You need to show discipline and give him some space so he can take in everything. Even if he’s hitting you up, show a bit of self control before responding to his texts. Right now is not about convincing him to come back to you, it’s about him making the decision on his own to want to be with you again.
The way you communicate with her via text and in calls will need to change. Given that you’re in a break up you’ve probably been doing it completely wrong, replying instantly to her messages even though she takes hours to respond to you. This has to stop and you need to start doing it right, after the no contact period. That’s why I’m going to teach you how to get your ex-girlfriend back fast by text message, although be aware, texts are only part of it.
Since she has felt this way, you could slowly warm back up to her. However, I would suggest continuing with NC because it may be too soon for changes to have occurred in both your lives, so if you guys get back together, the same issue might eventually surface again.
I just to ask i need my boy friend back he is very nice actully he loves me a lot but i dont know why he left me alone i want him back at any cost cause my life means nothing without him he is my best friend i dont have any friend i had very bad past but he expect me as i am loves me like a baby care like a parent hold me like god he is my everything actully were living near a place but now am far from that place so when i start living in far place i did not get that much to talk that much so our missunderstanding are becoming more and more day by day one he said i m furstred with u and dont want to talk to u i said ok really l will not call you then at night i was very much anger and use abuse word to him that was why he is not talking to me please help me i am stupid mad u can any thing but i want him back i love him very much i really need him please help please
I wish that I could help, but I have too much to say to type it all out and not enough hands to type or hours in the day. I also do not know all of the details. This is why I cannot give specific advice in the comments.
To truly win him back you are going to have to win him over emotionally, intellectually and physically. Think about the things in those areas that you know he likes. Try to imagine what you have to offer as he would. Get inside his head a little and give him some of the flavor you know he craves and loves. You know him, use that inside knowledge as a tool.
Before you try to win your ex back, work on fixing any bad habits you have or mistakes you made that caused you to break up in the first place. Then, ask your ex to hang out as friends and take the opportunity to show them how you’ve changed for the better. Laugh, smile, and be positive when you’re around them. Wait until you’ve developed a friendship again before having a serious conversation with your ex about getting back together. For more help getting back with your ex, like what to do if they’re in a new relationship, read on!
These 4-steps can also be thought of as are the missing ingredients that cause men to either go “all in” with you. And without the BIG FOUR, men are wishy-washy. Either they go off and try to find another woman. Or they ghost you… not texting you back or calling you back for weeks or even months!
It could be that there were things he didn’t feel okay about but never shared with you, or it could have been completely for no reason and he started taking the relationship for granted (hence the lack of effort), which is common for many relationships that have gotten too comfortable. If you really want to know, I suggest speaking to him and asking him to be honest.
Let her or him go like i did. When my pain was so fresh i learnt how to forget i was on drugs but suddenly someone came to my life and everything has changed so all i can say is let them go and open your heart even its the hardest step
My ex and I broke up a month and a week ago. I have been doing the no contact rule for 38 days and still ongoing. I’m still doing it because I know he’s a stubborn person. I thought I was okay and already emotionally and mentally ready until my friends told me that they found him with someone else. It hurt me to the core. He was the one who broke up with me (had been cold for almost a month before that) and saying he wanted to be open and see other people. I asked him if there already was someone else and he denied. At first I tried saving the relationship but in the end, I gave him his freedom. I even gave him a closure message 2 days after the break up and he replied too. 1 week after the closure message, I texted him because I found out his grandpa died. When he replied so late still, that was when i realized and started the NC rule. And now, I’m so confused on what to do. I thought about still continuing the NC until 90 days just to make sure that I feel better emotionally and mentally again (and I’ve been working out on my physical too and had good results so far). If you have any idea on what I should do, please let me know.
It can also be helpful to get back into the dating world.4 This doesn’t necessarily mean jumping into a new relationship right away – it’s never good to rush love, and getting romantically involved with the wrong person can actually make you miss your ex more.5 But scouting out some new dating prospects, and maybe going on a fun date now and then, can really help to shift your romantic focus away from your ex and onto the new relationships that you can look forward to having when you’re ready for them.
Right now, I’m going through the exact same thing. My ex broke up with me after he lost his father. We were together 3 years and lived together for just over 2 years. I love the idea of your relationship is what it is right now regardless of a title because that’s exactly how it is for us right now and I see how my being happy and poaitive now has made a huge change in how we interact with one another. My plan is to go on the market and really be open to what life has to bring my way, even if it’s not my ex in the future.
So… I decided to turn my How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back Guide into a video presentation to make it easier for you. It’s not going to win any awards for its video effects (!) but I hope you find it useful…
You can’t make your girlfriend do anything, least of all could you ever force her to think or not think certain things. There is nothing you can do. Your girlfriend is an independent person who can’t be made to forget the people of her past.
There is a lot going on here and a lot of factors to consider. For one, you have already made a conscious choice to attempt to get over your ex. At the same time you want to be friends with your ex and an extended no contact rule could potentially harm your chances of making that happen. Also, what if there are kids involved? How does no contact factor in then?