So this is my story, I met a girl in college who is a couple years younger than me and throughout that year and the next we just had an unbelievable relationship. We would talk everyday and occasionally see each other on weekends. I knew she liked me through her friends and she knew I liked her, but we never were official boyfriend and girlfriend, but there were times when we both hinted at that outcome. I told her that I want her in my life and she wanted me to be in her life, but not in the same way. I texted her saying I couldn’t be just friends with her and that I’ll always have love for her because she was the first person I fell in love with in my life. 8 months ago I made a huge mistake and went over to her house back home unannounced and did it so no one would know I was there to drop off a handwritten letter after texting her; I went over to her house 3 times because the first two times I was afraid of what she would think if I did that when I hadn’t been over there before. This mistake backfired on me and she found out I had been stopping by her house a couple times before, and it creeped her out now she has blocked me on every social media accounts and I haven’t talked to her in 8 months. I’ve been thinking a lot about her like everyday morning, during, and at night before I go to sleep, and even dream about her. I know she isn’t my ex but in other peoples eyes she was definitely more than just a friend to me, and I want nothing more to have her back in my life, but I’m pretty sure she hates me and doesn’t want anything to do with me anymore. What should I do? I moved across country for work, but found out some family stuff is going on that I might have to move back home to where she and I both live, and I know that once I do I’ll be reminded of the fact that I lost the only girl I cared about and it is killing me inside. Asking for advise on what to do, and if there is anything I can do to make her trust me again and hopefully someday have her back in my life
There’s a likelihood that he may be affected by the break up as much as you, but won’t show it because he doesn’t want you to see him as being weak. If you said that the break up was just as difficult for him as it was for you, then he probably hasn’t moved on completely nor has he lost feelings for you. Also, the reason he gave you seems to come from a lack of self-esteem, and can’t accept the fact that he’s less into you than the other way around. Perhaps you could start off as being friends and letting him develop the feelings or take charge this time.
Actually, in my research I found that a lot of experts recommend calling (after the no contact period.) I have read multiple stories of women who have actually had some success with this method. However, I don’t like the phone for a lot of reasons. First off, it doesn’t give you time to think. The second your ex boyfriend picks up (if he even picks up) you have to be on your toes and there is a lot that can go wrong. Not to mention he still may be a little resentful about the break up.
Since it has been 6 months, he may have gotten used to the idea of life without you. That doesn’t mean however that he’s moved on. It isn’t hopeless but if you really do want him back, you would have to re-create the spark with him so that he would fall for you once more.
Hi there I need your help. My girlfriend broke up with me about two weeks ago. We pretty much argued a lot lately and she and I both had enough. I broke up with her in aug and we got back together. We pretty much argue about the same things. One major problem being her ex (child father) he would send her explicit things and we argued about that and the fact every chance he got he was hitting on her. To me she always made excuses for him saying take couldn’t block him or stop him because they had to communicate for child. To me seemed that she like him chasing her. She said I didn’t trust her but I’ve caught her in so many lies. Another large problem was she would sometimes lie about things..I couldn’t trust her which is one reason I didn’t want her communicating with oneone else. She said I was jealous and have a bad attitude. I felt she made me have one by not respecting our relationship and by entertaining other people. Anyways.. she broke up with me recently and says we will never work.. she said I didn’t care about her health or financial issues .. but lately she has me been pushing me away.. we work together so it’s hard to avoid her. I love her and want her back. We hit a bad patch and I’m willing to change. She has been flirting openly with another Co worker which I told her was disrespectful. Also same day we broke up I found out she slept with her ex. She denied it at first until I provided proof. I’m not innocent, I did flirt with someone else in her face while we were together to show her how it feels.. she hated but that was my point. I didn’t want her to break up with me..When we first broke up I didn’t everything this website said not to do. I even I friended her in Facebook which really pissed her off and she blocked my phone#. It’s only been 2 1/2 days since I’ve done the no contact things.. it’s driving me crazy and I can’t tell where her head is. I feel like I should be chasing her. Is this too far gone? Can I get her back?? So I leave it alone? It’s driving me crazy not being with her and not knowing what she is doing with other people
Hey,my long distance boyfriend just broke up with me after an ugly fight. He is working and I am a final year student. He thinks that I am not serious about my career and so instead of being with him, I should focus on that. But I am not able to get over him. I am working pretty well in my career but he doesn’t understand. Also, he always comes up with an excuse of not having time as he is busy with his office stuff. But as I said, I love him a lot. I am going to his city next week for an interview. Please suggest me if I should meet him and fix things or not.
With hindsight, Peter could see that the unpleasant situation he found himself in every day at work had left him depressed in the evenings. His response to depression had been to sink increasingly into “poor me” ruminations. “How can they treat me so unfairly? Why can’t my boss appreciate my talents? I’m stuck in a job that’s not my thing. I hate having a job that doesn’t fit and a boss who’s chronically negative.”
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I have a big gigantic crush and he used to like me and then my BEST friend told everyone in my class that I have a crush on him and everyone told him and now he hates me… no body can replace him I have nothing to do!!! can any of you help???
You’ve been left with unfinished emotional business. That can be a powerful lure to go back and try to rewrite history. You can’t rewrite it so it’s better to learn a few lessons like not investing time in a man who makes you feel bad about yourself. Read the signs early on. If you’re anxious when first dating the next man either set your boundaries early with his behaviour or don’t accept any more dates.
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4. Do some meditation. Be aware of yourself. Know your weaknesses and strengths. Be proud of yourself. Accept yourself for who you are. That’s what confidence is all about. Neediness (which is very unattractive) comes from doubts within yourself. Whereas confidence comes from awareness and accepting yourself.
paragraph addressing half of the elephant in the room, that when he said he is overwhelmed, that respond overwhelmed me, and I didnt say those words but reacted in that way. I understand I am very scared of abandonment. I had a gut feeling of you backing out, hence I was walking on egg shells and did not even bring up the topic. Probably if I had, we would have had a different situation. That I have anxiety and I acted out of a place of fear when you said not to come without any explanation and to not call you too. Something to show my vulnerable side and how this time apart, I have thought about it. And it applies to us and that day’s conversation. Without putting nay blame on him. (I do think that knowing I have anxiety he should have handled it better, what he did is the nmber one trigger for me, but I do not want to go there, and I am going to chalk it off to us still exploring each other.)
My ex and i got back together a week ago. It was very rough. I didnt give him enough space and he said he didnt feel comfortable seeing me after i asked if i could. This was the second time i asked. The first was to just make ammends and be friends. And it was the hardest i could do but i knew id see him at an event we were both going to and i didnt want it to be awkward. He avoided me every which way at this event even purposefully walking away with his friends in front of me. Hurting me very much. I messaged him thay day explaining im sorry if i hurt you in anyway but when i said i want to be friends i didnt mean it its too hard and i still miss everything. After a week after this horrible event i messaged him to see me. Explaining i know i pushed you away but i would rly appreciate it. He replied saying sorry but we do not need a 3 part break up and last time i saw you i didnt hear you talking but your friend..im sorry i dnt feel comfortbale seeing you again. I then blew up his phone with messages saying im me im not my friend and i wrote a letter to him spilling my whole heart (he knows i write stuff out when i rly mean something) i just wanted to give him that letter and move on. I ended up going to his house announced that same day…:/..i know it was dumb. I had to just read it tho and move on. He opened the door i read it to him and he held my hand and let me in. We sat on his balcony for 6 hrs talking. He told me he isnt going to kick me out and he wants me to stay but that nothing is going to change. Later on we talked and talked and i told him i think its time for me to leave i got up but he pulled me to him and said he rly needs someone right now too. By some miracle he said we can make this work. We kissed and he said he has missed me so much and all these nice things…only to ask me to comeover 2 days later and break up with me..again. i was by then heartbroken. He said he messed up and isnt a good person that he was worried about me and he didnt know what to do and that i stressed him out. I said im sorry and couldnt move for a little. I cried a little having a near panic attack. He wouldnt even look at me. I left. Devastated. I wrote him a mean text saying you used me and dony ever do this to any girl u love ever again bye. Only regretting it after and 2 days later sending a message saying I do not beileve you used me…i know you loved me. I wish i wouldve said that i know you need to focus on yourself and your needs and same for me. I havent messaged him since. I didnt apologize i didnt blame but i didnt want my last word for him to think what i rly didnt mean. I know i am on and off and i promise i am not bipolar or a stalker…i was so hurt i let my emotions take over. I dnt expect him to reply. And i dnt want him too. I want to move on so badly…i am now now not contacting him. Period. I know i was alot too much and pushed him away even more…but will he ever…ever talk to me again?
(You want to give them something to chew on. They will be thinking about what’s happening in your life and will want to call or text you to talk about it. You are using curiosity to get your ex contact you. Of course, something must be happening in your life. That’s why creating a positive change in your life is absolutely important before contacting your ex.)
My ex and I broke up. I successfully did no contact for one month immediately after the break up and sent a follow-up text. In the initial first text I asked him in the message if he’d like to catch up for coffee, he said he it was too soon as he was struggling to find normality. I said I understood and we had a really good catch up chat via text. We have been texting almost everyday, good chats about friends, work, movies etc. I then asked him about a week or two later if he’d like to catch up for a drink he said he’s not ready to just hang out and it might be a while and he was sorry, but wants to stay in touch. He isn’t much of a texter even in our two year relationship. So I was a bit confused when he said no but I acted cool about it and said I understood and I’m happy to keep chatting (texting). We continued texting for about two weeks about random things and I got a fine in the mail I approached him about it cause I didn’t believe it was me driving (the fine was from a few months ago) and he said in a long message he remembered that day because I come over cooked for him and we had coffee in the park, he also joked in the message about a lunch we had made that’s still in his fridge and looks a bit dangerous lol. We sent a few more texts about our pet fishes and what not, seemed to be good. He said the suburb I was livin in now suited me 🙂 and then I said you should check it out sometime and he said yeah that would be nice :). So then a few days after that I said what is he up to this weekend and would he like to come check out my place/pool (he seemed to respond better to that then the coffee idea hence why I asked). But then he took two days to reply and said sorry he had a busy week and probably not this weekend and that he needs a pool at this place. Honestly at this point I felt confused so I replied saying ok when were you thinking to catch up as I will be away most of January? And he said he’s not in a huge rush, it’d be nice to see me but he feels he needs to find his own feet first and maybe closer to Xmas/New Years but he doesn’t know and not too rush it. I said it does suck but I understand and hope I catch you before I go :). That was our last text about 3-4 days ago and I’m not sure what to do now since I’ve asked to catch up a few times. I’m confused, I feel he’s definitely shown some positive signs, especially sending me some money for the fine even though he didn’t think it was him. My friends said I should just let him text me and not text him so I haven’t and it’s been a few days now. He was never much of a texter anyway but I’m not too sure what to do from here. Thanks 🙂
Clean up any skin problems you have- If you have excessive acne or any unwanted moles you can get those taken care of. I know it may be uncomfortable to talk about but in this case you need to suck it up and get the proper treatment if you don’t want them.
You have to figure out whether his intentions are out of concern as a friend, or he actually likes you still, or just wants the benefits (hookup). Regardless, it would best for you to give him some space, considering you don’t know what his intentions are, and he may not know either. Apply the No Contact Rule and focus on yourself in the meantime. If he likes you, he will come back.
You could ask him towards the end of January instead since it might have given him more time to find his own feet, and at least some time has passed into 2018, giving you the excuse to ask him out to find out how things have been going so far this new year.
A few days later she got in contact with me and I arranged another date. Breakfast was all I could do due to me leaving for home. It went well. So well, that she wanted to see me once more before I left. On this date she mentioned that she would be in my city in April, and that we should get drinks when she’s there. Once again, no signs that she wanted to be kissed during this date either. She even said “I know you want to kiss me, but it’s not going to happen” and I was kind of bummed. I followed her to the interstate and before I got on it I decided to try my luck and I told her to pull over. She said “No, I know you want to kiss me and it’s not happening” so I kept my cool. On the way home, she called me and I mentioned to her that she could come out to my place to visit me next weekend. As soon as I said this, she got very angry and told me that the dates were just to “keep our friendship” and that we aren’t dating anymore. She went on to tell me she had already slept with another guy. I kept my composure as best as I could but needless to say this really confused me. Where did I go wrong?
3rd broke up(while improving on myself(not doing enough), we were chatting about things i did in the past, cant exactly remember if i confess everything in a proper manner to her, being not wanting to hide anything from her, i gave her a recap and told her everything, the very next day, she left)
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Break ups are tough. Trying to figure out what a guy may be thinking AFTER the break up…well, sometimes that can be even tougher. Hopefully, this quiz can give you a better understanding on whether or not your ex-boyfriend really wants you back
After being together for just shy of 7 years my boyfriend decided to end our relationship. I knew things hadn’t been right for a couple of weeks leading up to this, he had become pretty distant, wasn’t showing me any affection but we weren’t arguing and everything else in the relationship was good. I eventually confronted him, and we had a conversation that lead to him admitting that whilst he still loved me his feelings towards me had changed and he needed his own space to work on himself. I moved out utterly heartbroken as I couldn’t believe that after 7 years it would be that easy to end everything!
A hand written letter is a great way to contact your ex right after you’ve finished no contact. A hand written letter stands out in this age of digital technology. Of course, you can use an email as well.
Your ex boyfriend is thinking “I wasn’t at Sherlocks last night.” This is perfect because now he is going to read between the lines and see that you were checking out another guy that wasn’t him. Also in a way you are complimenting him. Jealousy text messages are interesting aren’t they?
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I had a girlfriend of 4 years that started right before we both attended college. The sex was great, relationship was awesome, we both were givers. We even made it work while she attended school 7 1/2 hours away for an entire year. I recently moved 4 hours away for a job and as soon as I did, the relationship took a turn. It was a pain to get her to come visit me, and whenever I went and visited her I always had to hang with her and her friends. No alone time. We kept getting in fights and eventually she ended it by saying she wasn’t in love with me anymore. I went nuts for a few weeks until I found your work and initiated NC. She got back in touch with me after a few weeks and I arranged a date.