It seems that relationships become completely different things over time. An initial relationship has completely different values from a ‘vintage’ relationship. Furthermore a relationship has different values depending on your age. When relationships being, both partners have a distorted impression of each other. They are high on emotion and are in the attraction stage thus those annoying little ticks that drive you insane are unnoticeable under all of the excitement. The middle stage is withdrawal. The chemicals start to ebb after about 2 years and this is where the rationalization arguments begin. Where you argue because you are irritated and project your withdrawal on to your partner because they are no longer on the pedestal that you yourself put them. Now this where most people say good bye, or sometimes through some sense of duty and loyalty they never resolve the problems they just endure them and the unhappy relationship continues. Some others they reach another plane of a relationship. Where that person becomes a part of you. You have gone through the withdrawal and now you are life partners you are one body. In this throw away world, not enough people have enough humility or self awareness to reach this level. They are too busy trying to find their next fix after during the withdrawal phase. Sad…
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Be sure however that one therapist works with both of you if you want to increase the odds that you will end up re-united as a couple. Two therapists, one for each partner, all but guarantees that the relationship will end.
I’ve been with my children’s father for 7 years. I broke up with him 4 months ago because he is not doing what he need to do for his children and for me. I’ve spoke to him about these issues tons of times and he still did not try to fix anything. He claims he loves us but he is not showing us. We don’t go out ,he don’t come visit the kids or even ask to take them. When he has free time he don’t bother to let me know so he can spend time with us. I feel like for your family theres always time, your kids come first and he doesnt understand that. At this point I felt worthless, weak and I’m beyond hurt because at least give your children your time. I’m doing everything that I can for my children and I try to stay strong because of them. I love him and want him to realize he have something good and it seems like he doesn’t care. Even though I broke up with him,I still want him, he’s the only guy I want in my life and I know he can be better because he wasn’t this person that he is now. idk who he is, but he’s not the guy that I fell in love with. I try so hard to move on though. I’ve even ignored his texts, have not came around, even acted like idc just so he knows how it would feel to lose his family and it didn’t work at all. I feel it’s hard to move on because I have children with him,but I just need to find a way to move on. Any suggestions?
Given the circumstances, even if he moves on and dates someone else, he would not be happy and the same issues would occur. If he is genuinely depressed that it’s affecting his happiness and daily life, you should strongly recommend he seeks help and go through therapy to recover as ‘being there’ alone would not be enough.
It feels exceptionally terrible to be losing the love of your life, especially when you are about to propose to her, mentally and financially ready for her, and also on a festive season. Im lost, i really want her back and wished that i can still work things out, but i know, the ball is no longer in my court. I can only keep improving, keep working and praying.
Thanks. We did text yesterday he said he had a crazy week because his dog was stolen. I’m not sure how often we should text at this point in time? Obviously I want to rebuild connection, it’s a little hard because he isn’t much of a texter. What should I talk about to rebuild connection?
I know it may sound a little goofy but trust me this goofy stuff works. How do I know? Let’s put it this way. I still remember TO THIS DAY when a girl who sat in front of me in my high school class turned around and said “you have beautiful eyes.”
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I absolutely connect with a lot of what you said in the article about working through your feelings and trying to actually make positive changes that will help you in the long run, no matter what happens.
Ok, so you sent out your text to remind them of the good ole days where the two of you were as thick as thieves but they haven’t responded yet. First off, it isn’t the end of the world. Sometimes people get busy and don’t have time to respond right away. Waite a few days before you jump to any conclusions.
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Given the circumstances, he may either be currently unsure on how he feels about you and is trying to figure things out, or he may be pushing you away because something happened, in which case you’ll have to figure which of the 2 it is. It’s also surprising that he said yes to being exclusive but retracts it the very next day, stating that he has issues he wants to sort out first and not telling you about these things before hand.
Peter realized that now, as an adult, he had more options than he had had as a child for finding solutions to his life challenges. Therein lay the hope for change, pointing the way toward healing. He could safely ask his therapist for attention. His wife also did not intent to put him in a demeaning or emasculating position. She just wanted change.
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1. Give yourself some time to grieve. I know how hard it is to be happy after a breakup. I remember I was a complete mess for at least two weeks. I didn’t sleep properly, didn’t eat properly, and I was just thinking about my ex all day. In a way, this period is necessary for you. You give yourself some time to grieve everyday. If you want to feel sad and sorry for yourself, go ahead and do it. But make sure you also do something everyday to make yourself feel good about yourself.
Since you work together, it would be good to show him how well you’re doing and how happy you are whenever he sees you. This is similar to displaying it on social media during the no contact period of the changes you’ve made to yourself except in real life.
Truth is that our bodies and heads tell us to act in a certain way after a break up, we act on impulse and our emotions. This is not a good idea as you may already know. It is common to be tearful and erratic, not knowing where to turn, sometimes we can blurt things out to our ex boyfriends that we regret later. Everybody does it, it is human nature to do so, but the thing that you have to remember is that you have to fight against these urges if you are to be successful in making him see you positively and want you back again.
She left it got very messy on account emotions were running high. She always said I deserved to be happy and that I wasn’t happy with her. She always referenced an ex she thought I was more in love with. Shes even told people that me and that ex have gotten back together. She said this made her miserable and why she always fought with me. She hasn’t deleted me off of her facebook but she is making it very hard on me in general. She messages me when she seems to need something, and attaches other things to those messages about being happy for me that I’m happy…etc. She tells everyone she is happier now that she is gone. Why stay in contact every now and then, and why keep my photos up on FB if she was not still thinking in some way. I’m giving her space and not contacting her. I did well enough to let her know how I feel and I’m working on me and doing things that make me happy. I want her to realize I can be the man she needs and that I was happy the whole time, with her.
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