My boyfriend and I broke up a couple of days ago because he decided that we were not suitable for each other. It’s true our personalities are really very different. We do not have any common interests or hobbies (I am adventurous and like to travel but he rathers stay home most of the time) and we also differ a lot in our values and beliefs. He is also overly possessive and many of my friends think so too, and I happen to be a freedom-loving girl. Hence, we quarreled constantly, esp in the last 6 months. We were together for one year. I blame myself for hurting him a lot over the past months because I really started to get really sick of his possessiveness (I was not to stay out past midnight, I was not to hang out with my other male friends) and began to blatantly ignore his ‘rules’. So one day he decided he cannot take this anymore and broke up with me.
There may not have been a huge catalyst that led to your break up, but there were probably a few big issues that factored into your decision to split. Although these problems may have seemed insurmountable at the time, with some space removed from your relationship, you may find yourself coming up with some simple solutions to these issues.
You have to remain calm all the time. Try your best to don’t get angry and depressed. Best way to keep anger away from you is avoid getting in arguments and disagreements. Most of the time arguments and disagreements come in conversation because of previous relationship.
Hi, my ex and I (both 18) broke up in October and were together from June to September. He broke up with me because I wasn’t reciprocating the love he was giving me and he now feels like since he put his all in the relationship and I didn’t, he can no longer give me a relationship. After the breakup, I was very needy and constantly begged him to get back together. Since then, I have recognized my mistakes and am fully in the mindset to changing them but I’m not sure how to prove that I’ve changed. He’s recently got back with his previous ex about a week ago and I’m scared that he might not want me back. I personally think it’s a rebound relationship since he did try to have sex with me while they were together but he swears he loves her and is serious with her. He still acts as if he has feelings for me but denies them. We never went through a no contact stage either. So, would it be best to do the no contact stage even if it’s been 3 months since we’ve broken up? Is there a good chance that I can gain his love and trust back if I do this? Is it not too late?
Note: Brad has provided complete steps on how to follow this 60-days no contact technique. In this technique Brad will show you how you can take full advantage of these no contact days so when you meet with your ex she will see completely new person.
“First, it’s to get control of yourself and get some perspective on the relationship.” – this is a great point..hope all women try this instead of jumping into getting back into the relationship at once
“Forgiveness takes places when you honestly feel good for someone else. It takes place when you restore your relationship instead of avoiding it. Forgiveness takes place when no past actions hold a present bearing. Forgiveness becomes real when hate replaces love.”
Think about it guys — if a playful dog bit you every time you went in the yard with him, would you want to risk returning to the yard again? If a nearsighted dentist accidentally cut your gums or cracked a tooth each time you went in for a cleaning, would you want to entrust your mouth to him again? For you to trust him, wouldn’t you need to know that he knew exactly what he had been doing and had a plan to buy glasses? For a woman, it is not entirely about hearing from her husband that he regrets what he has done or has a plan to change. Since it was her heart that was injured by the very one she expected to protect it, she must sense that he fully understands how she feels, and that he has become safe. My session Unraveling the Mysteries of the Female Mind will help you grasp that.
For people who feel lingering emotions for their ex after a break up, they may feel like there were things left unsaid or that they could have tried harder to make it work. “People who experience a great deal of hurt at the time of break-up tend to be those who go back to the relationship,” says Dr. Leder-Elder. “Some people want to test the waters to see that they haven’t left anything else on the table.” You must figure out if you have exhausted all your options to make it work or are prolonging the inevitable pain of heartbreak. The only two who get to decide when a relationship has come to an end are you and your partner. If you decided it’s time to move on, here’s how to get over your ex and move on for good.
“Hi, I’ve been seeing guys and dumping guys for, like, the last 5 years… Frustrating as it seems like it’s the same thing over and over… They get the wandering eye and it annoys me to the point of saying ‘you know what, you want to look at other women, then fine go be with another woman’. And that’s…
Typically men don’t like to hurt your feelings. Thus, it is entirely possible that whatever reason they gave you for the breakup may not be completely true. I’ll admit that we men sometimes don’t even know why we want out of a relationship we just do.
I don’t want to talk about common mistakes that ended your relationship. If I start writing I can point out more than hundred mistakes that men do in their relationship however I don’t want to talk about these mistakes because all of these mistakes come to one BIG REASON and that is ‘loss of attraction’.
Perhaps you are just feeling like you made a mistake because you are going through the “bargaining phase” of a breakup. Maybe if you do get her back, you’ll again feel like it’s not worth it. No contact is going to help you make a better decision. So don’t rush into reconciliation.
I am in to helping women who want a lasting relationship with their boyfriends. This may sound goofy but I like those women who so strongly believe that they are going to be together with their exes for good that they are willing to try anything.