If at least the one who committed a totally out of bounds act does a thorough rethinking and relearning the result the result can be betterment and continuation of the marriage, provided s/he becomes totally clear that s/he will not repeat the behavior. If not, the marriage is in big trouble. At the same time, odds for successful resumption of a better marriage zoom up if both partners engage in learning.

Pick ONE friend that you trust or better yet, stop yapping to your friends. Comment on here. You never know which “friend” will go tell the wrong “friend” of his that you’re struggling. No dramatic, long, drawn out depression and good-byes. Let him wonder what in the hell you are avoiding him for.

And then he jumped into another relationship 6 days later after we broke up. But I didn’t know until I changed my mind gave up the work oppotunity and back from oversea. I was pretty upset and stop talking to him. Nearly two months later, he messaged me asked me how have I been and we had a short personal conversation. And then he contacted me pretty much every month while he still in the new relationship. I stalked his instagram and noticed he broke up with his new girlfriend at the beginning of September but I didn’t react to it.Two weeks later, his band annouced they have a gig soon. I wanted to go but I couldn’t decide go or not. A few days later he messaged me again , we had a short conversation and I asked him can I go to the gig or not. he said yes. Two days before the gig he messaged me said he could send me home after the gig although it was late but I rejected. I end up stayed at his house. I have feelings for him again so I messaged him for hungout again two weeks later and we spend the whole weekend together.

Getting over someone does not have a time scale and it does not depend on how long you have been together, time does not define the love you have for someone. Time is a great healer and it will get better. Try and get rid of all of the negativity that you have around you that will remind you or your ex partner and get some new things to help start your new beginning. Go out and have some time with friends and family and distract your mind from the thoughts of your ex. It will get better and it will get easier.

That was 19days ago. We had a little argument and I stopped talking immediately. I have been going out and posting lots of fun pics and videos for my ex to see. He hasnt contacted me in 19days and neither have I.

my bf left me for another girl.he keeps telling me that i am nothing to him.he wants to b with the other girl.he has no feeling for me anymore.this has started more than one year ago.by this time he also speak to me but not on his own mood or to rebuild our relationship.he does so becz i request him to be with me at least for some hours or some minute… we talk only 2 or 3 days per a week…but I can’t stay without him I want him back.plzz help me…if this is possible for me to get him back as my bf again??

If you wish to avoid this Monotony of Relationship then you have to increase your value higher than the level you had before your previous relationship. You can surely increase your value with some actions that you will find later in this website but for now I want you to consider becoming the girl that you were before getting into your previous relationship.

Turn on the water works. Studies show that you really will feel better after a good cry. Emotional tears contain toxic biochemical byproducts, so ridding your body of them relieves stress and removes these substances.[4]Even the physical feeling you get from shedding a few tears allows you to release your pain and begin the mending process.

Act nice. When you see your ex, act nice. By talking to him, smiling, and asking how he is doing, you show that you are moving on and getting over it. This can help make him jealous. He may even think about how nice and great you are afterwards.

In case you want to get your ex-boyfriend back, are you willing to compromise by making some changes in your work habits? If yes, then bringing back the two of you together is worth the shot as there is a chance that it will work this time.

What rubbish! In this article it says your ex-boyfriend needs space to realise he made a mistake and then he will contact you and he’ll be feeling lonely and blah, blah, blah. It’s giving girls the impression that they need to wait around if guys break up with them and giving them false hope that a guy will contact them. Depending on how long you were seeing the guy. Girls please don’t wait around for your ex to call you back in the hope that he feels lonely like this article suggests. Go out, have fun, meet new people. If the guy calls you back then great. Maybe you can work out the issues, but don’t go putting all your hopes up that he will.

Open up a blank document and stare at it until your eyes feel funny and you’re ready to do something that will help keep your heart on the fast-track toward healing. Then write down all rude comments your ex made to you while dating, and every disappointing choice they made that emphasized your incompatibility. I have about three documents filled with direct quotes from exes saved on my desktop, and every single time my mind tricks me into believing that I messed up the relationship or I start to remember them too fondly because I’m all sorts of lonely, I pop one of those bad boys open and scroll through it.

My injury was a back injury which has gone. The main reasons I became depressed were because of my girlfriend bringing home the bread, living in her family home without working and of course being 23 with a back injury… I was terrified that was it for me, and that when telling people I had to leave because of my back… Sounds a bit like bs. I’ve heard of people using this as an excuse to claim disability because the back is difficult to tell whether there is or isn’t anything wrong. So of course I felt people were looking down on me for this. Very insecure I became.

Reading your blog makes me feel so much stronger to survive each day and to heal after being in a emotionally hot-and-cold relationship with a person (who was clearly a narcissist!) and has hurt me so much. Love this, your words have truly healed a traumatic year xx

Sorry that you’re “so sick of this type of advice”… go seek out advice that tells you what you want to hear… see how it works out for you. I don’t care whether or not you like what I have to say… I care if what I say is effective in the real world and gives people the result they want.