Hi I have dated my bf for 3 years he broke up with me this Saturday. And I’m heart broken. I love him so much, he broke up with me because there was drama going on between me and him and another guy there a guy that likes me and my bf think I liked him but I don’t and I keep on telling him that but he doesn’t believe me. But then the guy is trying to break us up so then he can have me but i keep on telling him I don’t like u in that way I love my boy and I never want to leave him. So now I’m really sad. Now he just got a new gf for now but Is there a way I can get him back in my life I want him back

Thanks. We did text yesterday he said he had a crazy week because his dog was stolen. I’m not sure how often we should text at this point in time? Obviously I want to rebuild connection, it’s a little hard because he isn’t much of a texter. What should I talk about to rebuild connection?

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That depends on how long you have been dating him. If he is new to relationships, he might move on quickly if the relationship was a short one, as he is still in the exploratory stage, in which case if you want him back, give a shorter period of cooling before talking to him.

I still don’t know what to do… I was with my ex for 5 months I know it’s not long but my friend had past away and I honestly thought I needed time to clear my head and it’s been over a week since she’s been gone and I miss my ex so bad he was there for me he was my shoulder to cry on and I regret so much breaking up with him so much I literally feel like I’m goin insane without him yea I know this sounds dumb but I need him back… I want him and only him before he goes into the army for 3 years someone please help me… what do I do

We’ve all been there. It is a post-breakup haze that can drown out all reasonability; a voice in your head telling you to text your ex at 3 in the morning to tell him how much you miss him, because surely that is how to win him back.

hi my ex broke up with me about a week ago, but she still lives with me, we help each other out financially until i get another job after christmas, shes going out meeting new guys now, how should i conduct the no contact rule in my situation? and what should i do whilst shes here?

Your story is very similar to mine. He was dating another girl but i didnt know it. He came back to me several times but didnt want to work things out so i blocked him from social media. that was three months ago. He has been dating that girl for several months even when when he was trying to convince me that he still loved me and missed me but because of my shortcomings he couldnt be with me. Now they are a couple and he hasnt tried to reach out. i changed my number though.

I just find it really interesting that you’ve put that you’re married to your ex (not sure if you had shared this before) but it puts a completely different spin on all your articles about “knowing that he was the one” and your insecurities with him based on the relationships and interactions that occurred after your first relationship with your ex boyfriend (now husband).

How do I tell him I don’t want to see him? Yes I do want him back exclusively as he is my one. Our relationship didn’t have any problems. I personally feel at 50.5 years old he’s going through a mid-life crisis.

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This is a very poignant and balanced understanding that you have expressed here. I am 7 months out of 10 year relationship which was both lovely and tumultuous. We were connected on very deep level…a level i never experienced before. We built and created so many things we loved together…things I have a hard time holding close or having as part of me now because they are still too painful or not the same without her. We had a lot of turmoil through our time together driven by each of our own early development damage…and that damage manifested in different ways for each of us. Some times we could hold each other in our damage and what we needed to learn from ourselves and each other, and other times we hurt each other. I think she in many ways loved more fearlessly than I did, but I’m beginning to see how much fear played(s) a role in each of our lives and our life together. She feared not being loved and I feared loving and what I had to lose not gain from really loving and giving love. But I know I learned to love with less fear through being with her…I wasnt always successful but I turned some big corners in what I am able to give and how much I actually embraced loving someone…that it wasnt taking away from me nor a weakness. The worst one can do is to see the time spent with that person as a waste…if we learn it is never a waste…it may hurt like crazy, maybe it will always hurt somehow…but its never a waste if we grow and learn. I know we both learned a lot and there was both pain and beauty in our time together. If there is a next time I know I will love differently and yes I think better…and it will be because of what I learned from 10 years with Melanie…there was a gift in it that I can choose to recognise or not. Only she can decide or see what gift she received. I think for the most part we are both honoring the gifts we gave and received. I know I, at least (although she she says she does too) still grieve immensely our partnership in life…the beautiful things we connected on and built as only the two of us could have built…the dreams we shared together. Those things belong to us and nobody else…they cant be recreated nor should they be…and it hurts terribly at times to have them only as memories. These things, which I mourn the loss of can however play a positive role in how I love in the future, what I embrace and am open to and enthusiastic about giving. I also try to be realistic and not in denial of the turmoil and the things that weren’t great with us…that were outright painful and hurtful…I don’t miss that, and its sometimes easy to forget the struggles and hurt. In the end we were only doing the best we could with who we were at any given time, and shame, blame or regret does not honor the gifts we gave each other…nor does getting stuck in sentimental attachment. Easier said than done?….of course all of this is. But what choice do we have…we either honor the gifts and the lessons and grow or we get stuck and have to learn them all over again. I know what I choose, or at least am trying to choose…even if it hurts and I feel lost and scared. There is no doubt I miss her like I could have never imagined missing anything or anyone….it’s just how it is right now. She was my Otter and there will never be another…she and what we connected on and built cannot be replaced but I am living breathing proof that we can find new lovely things to build and connect on with someone else if we don’t get stuck and choose love over fear.

Truth 3: Rebound relationships are relationships that usually form right after a breakup. Lucky for you rebound relationships don’t last forever. In fact, statistics show that 90% of rebound relationships are bound to fail. So, the odds are in your favor just make sure you keep your cool while he is dating his new girlfriend. Remember, if you freak out you are going to make a lot of mistakes and mistakes aren’t going to help get you two back together.

Write all those things down and focus on them. That will help force your brain to realize that your relationship with him wasn’t all sunshine and happiness, and in fact there were a lot of reasons that you might not have been happy. Do that – and you’ll make huge strides in erasing his power over you.

Delete all photos of them. Sell or give away anything they have given you. Unless it is very important or you just like the aesthetic of it, erase every photo, piece of jewelry, etc from your life. Take time for you. Laugh at your smile in the bathroom mirror, go on a date with yourself and fall in love with every piece of yourself. Don’t worry about finding someone new or getting that person back. Focus on you and someday you will be okay.

Then and there, don’t analyze, argue or talk about negative stuff. Turn the page. Keep walking in a new direction. It’s your ex-boyfriend that will become your new girlfriend, it’s you – his ex-girlfriend, that will become a new girlfriend. Give each other a clean slate. When you leave the place, don’t kiss. Give him a deep gaze, let your eyes, not your mouth say: I love you.

Always look your best. Wherever you go, look your best. Even if you only go to the grocery store or to the gym, make sure you are putting forward your best face. That doesn’t mean you have to wear your best, but look presentable and attractive. Ask yourself before leaving the house, “Would I want my ex to see me in this?”[7]

6. Wait, don’t carried away quite yet! Remind yourself of why things didn’t work out the first time around and look for clues to whether things would be any different now. If you broke up because he partied too hard, for instance, notice how much he drinks or how he talks about his nightlife. It would suck to get back together only to discover that the same problems are still haunting you. So take it slow and trust your gut.

Frankly, you are active and living the ug life..that means you just have to make ug choices when it comes to relationships.. You have to set standards and limits. It’s ok to try to build rapport, but you have to set a limit on until when you’re going to do that..especially that you know he has another girl on the side.. The more ug approach is to ignore the other girl and build rapport but when the time comes that he knows that you know he’s in a relationship, and you’re still there trying, you’re either going to be friendzoned or used.. Because he would why would you invest a lot of time with a guy who’s already in a relationship right? He would either think youre5 just being friendly or you want him even while he’s in a relationship..

Give yourself compliments! Congratulate yourself for a job well done! Treat yourself to a nice movie! Go out on a date with yourself! Tell yourself you’re absolutely wonderful and amazing! Thank yourself for being the best version of you!

No. You shouldn’t answer your ex’s call. The only exception to this is if you are close to ending your no contact and you are already feeling great about your life. If you think that talking to your ex will have you obsessing about them again, don’t answer their call.