This may make you upset, but it’s the truth. I can’t guarantee that you are going to get your ex boyfriend back, I just can’t. We are dealing with a male human being here and as much as I would love to be able to just make him get back with you I don’t have the mind control powers that so many others in this “how to get your ex boyfriend back” community seem to have.
Their next breakup was a result of Jaya’s post-grad confusion and an upcoming six-month solo trip around the world. After a few months alone, it became evident that her feelings for Matt weren’t disappearing.
If something makes you angry or upset, you should address it, but you should not do it the way you used to do. You should breathe, calm down and tell her clearly what makes you upset and what are your boundaries.
One guy I worked with told me how his ex-girlfriend had finished with him and how much he wanted her back. “She always told me how I had to be right all the time. How I could never admit I was wrong or apologize!” I suggested he apologize to her in writing and on the phone.
Hi Lauren, this couldn’t have come at a more perfect time for me. My boyfriend of 7 years, broke up with me a week ago. I have read most of the Mars Venus books and am currently reading Mars and Venus: Starting Over. I’m not ready to give up on the relationship, he is my everything. He claims, he’s afraid of commitment and that I can’t make him happy for the rest of his life, but also claimed I’m perfect and don’t need to change at all. Gave me the “it’s not you, it’s me” thing. I still have hope that if I give him his space he will change his mind and I’m not to the point where I can think about him not changing his mind, that is too hard. I have broken down and texted him a few times and told him how I was feeling. I stopped talking to him over the weekend and on day 4, I woke up to a text from him. It wasn’t anything about us, just a video of a silly dog. I guess I’m just trying to figure out if he still cares? Is it just the friendship he misses? He claims I’m still his best friend. I can’t be friends with him, I’m still in love with him. I know every situation is different and you ultimately can’t tell he what he is thinking, but I guess do you think if I give him his space, he might come back? …
Some of you probably noticed that I no longer answer emails and post them on this site. This is because I simply don’t have the time anymore with work and family obligations. Not to worry though as I’ve provided plenty of good places to turn if you need more help. Each one is trusted and risk-free. I never recommend anything unless it has a money back guarantee. There is too much going on your life now to be worrying about who to trust. You can also grab my mini-guide for more tips.
2nd Step: Now delete her from all messaging service such as WhatsApp, Viber etc. The only exception is don’t delete her from your Facebook but don’t view her profile. You can also temporary shutdown notification from her in your Facebook profile.
At this point we are better communicators and have matured, he has left the other girl, so I’m patient about meeting him in person to tell him how I feel, which takes a month. I go out of town and come back after he schedules a date that coincides with my trip and I cancel and cannot make it, mind you, he cancelled when I first scheduled it. Long story short, he calls me up for a business thing he thinks I will be interested in, I turn down being part of it, but offer to help if he needs help, he asks for my help when the day comes, which is really just my company at the event, we have a great time and talk as friends and I even get a chance to tell him I didn’t like his actions when he came back and how I felt betrayed he apologized and we moved on. During convo I find out his ex-fiancée that broke him wants him back. She was not willing to convince his family to like her or visit our country to see if she likes it and could live there, but she suddenly wants to come now and try, maybe cuz he stopped talking to her and started dating the other girl (rebound girl) for a while. I think she got jealous and this revelation comes at a point when I see great changes and maturity in both of us as we have healed from brokenness and I want us to give it a go as whole people. He says he is thinking about letting her come and visit. I am not thrilled but I believe they need to resolve whatever unfinished business they have, but not to wish anyone bad, I do not think it will work and I think old issues will creep up, I don’t see her living here as they can’t survive on love fantasies alone, not my business.
He is a very social man, has always been, I on the other have had troubles in the past making friends. But I wanted to make it work, to make the efforts, and I started really believing in a future with him, started making plans and projects with him I never thought of ( children, work…). We lived for months together there (10 in total)
You guys weren’t together for a long time so him moving on would be dependent on how meaningful the 2 months were. Typically someone blocking you would be his way of wanting to avoid you, and this could because you were acting needy by trying to change his mind. Continue with NC but spend this time to work on your issues, and at the end of it, if he has unblocked you, you could try initiating contact to see where he stands. Bear in mind that there is a small likelihood he has moved on already due to the length of the relationship, and may have blocked you as a way of ‘indicating’ those feelings.