Not sure melancholy is an innate trait. Sudden states of sadness may be the result of things outside of our control, but prolonged emotion always have a cognitive component, and can therefore be altered by cognitive analysis. That’s how CBT works.

The end of your relationship sounds messy and fragmented and this can sometimes make us want us to go back and fix it, or do things differently – better. There certainly seems to be an unwillingness to let go. Does your ex have good support for her bipolar disorder? Do you feel responsible for her?

Well, i tried adding her back on Facebook 5 days ago, but she hasn’t accepted. she told a mutual friend that she doesnt want to add me because she doesnt want me to think that there is something still between us. So she wouldnt be able to see any of my posts anyway. So basically she wouldnt be watching my facebook as you guys have suggested that she would. its been 11 days so far and no contact. I’ll continue to 45 days in total then. I’ve already lost all hope as she told that mutual friend of ours that she is done with me and our relationship even though she misses the way i loved her and the way i adored her.

If you recently split up with your girlfriend then you’re probably hurting REAL bad right now. You feel sick to your stomach, with no energy, you can’t be bothered to see anyone and you just want to be left alone.

It is because for relationships to reach that long, a real and emotional connection is necessary, and that might be present in your relationship if it took a long time before it finally ended. However, this does not necessarily mean that just because your relationship with her is short, you no longer have a chance to bring her back to your life. It is still possible provided the two of you established a deep emotional connection no matter how short your relationship lasted.

To re-attract your ex girlfriend you’re going to need your body language and general vibe to do a fair amount of the work for you. Up until now your body language has probably been submissive and weak, and that is likely a large amount of the reason she lost attraction for you and broke up with you in the first place.

My apologies, I must have missed that point. Yes, Dan is right. You shouldn’t let what she did in the time you guys were broken up affect you, because she was free to do whatever she wanted back then. The important thing is that now she’s with you, it doesn’t continue to happen. If it’s an issue that’s bothering you, sit down and have a talk with her to tell her how you feel, and find a way to compromise so that respect for one another can be earned. As Dan had also mentioned, her lack of respect for you was probably attributed to the past relationship and how you acted. Ideally, if you followed no contact rule, you should have worked on those issues by now, and made some significant changes in your life which would change the way she views you.

Learn to control you mind: Mind is the real source of most of the issues we face. It’s important to learn to control our mind so that we can stay focussed on our life ahead and not dwell on the past. I would suggest that you can try some meditation techniques to calm down the mind. The Hare Krishna Mantra meditation technique is something I found extremely useful. Here is a video about it: Meditation Technique

Or if you want him back because you feel jealous thinking of him with someone else, think again before you decide to try to get back together. Post-breakup jealousy is normal, and this, too, will pass.

i am an 18 year old male, i broke up with my ex girlfriend almost 3 months ago, we was together almost 5 years, we had a strong bond but we went through an unfortunate abortion, during this situation she got attached to the baby im her stomach but wasnt finacially stable to take care of a child, her anxiety got really bad and she pushed me away and wouldnt let me near her, after almost a month of this she broke up with me stating that she had lost feelings and doesnt want to be with me anymore, we have broken up and got back together alot in the past, but this time is different, i acted irrational and constantly begged and stated how upset and lonely i was without her, i irratated her to the point of she blocked me on afew social medias, but she left 1 line of communication open via instagram, i often message her but she doesnt reply but she reads the messages, if she doesnt look at the message fast enough i panic and irratate her with more, she then replies with “Go away, leave me alone, move on i want you to” i ask her why we broke up and all she says is ‘everything’ thats all she says, i truley believe there is a chance but she is being too stubon to admit it, im really confused and in a bad place, there was never any cheating, im so worried that the no contact rule will not work, although if it doesnt im still in the same place im in now so what can get worse… i read alot of these getting ex back websites but im never really satisfied with the information as every situation is very different, i really do want her back, and the relationship will be great if i get the chance to reconcile it, im really in need of some help im looking forward to your help and also the no contact daily email help as i need as much help as i can get.

Hi, oh okay. I’m somehow think that she has a new date now, but I can’t 100% confirm. Please advise what should I do now? I have not been sleeping well for the past few weeks already. I love her, and i will want her back. Thanks!

I spoke to independent friends who we used to see when we were out of an older generation who carnt understand why she didn’t see me, but did say that her ex the father of the children had been in prison beating someone up in the village, and she went quiet after he had been round.

Imagine for a moment that you smoke and are really obese. If I were to put you side by side by a man who doesn’t smoke and is not obese and gave a very beautiful woman the choice between the two of you which person do you think she will choose?

Being a bit of an asshole to your girl is generally pretty healthy for a relationship…you’ve probably heard before that girls like bad boys and that nice guys finish last. Well it’s true, but if a guy has been too much of a bad boy to his girl, she’ll feel like the connection has died.

Since we are dealing with ex girlfriends here I am going to assume that you are wondering what your ex is thinking rather than the general population of girls because trust me there is a difference between an ex ignoring you and just some girl you are “talking” to.

4. Do some meditation. Be aware of yourself. Know your weaknesses and strengths. Be proud of yourself. Accept yourself for who you are. That’s what confidence is all about. Neediness (which is very unattractive) comes from doubts within yourself. Whereas confidence comes from awareness and accepting yourself.