4 Tips To Make Her Love You Again
When you get married, you do so because you intend to be together forever. However, sometimes things just don’t work out that way. Life is full of stresses, and if you are not handling those together as a couple, you may find that you are starting to grow apart. Sometimes, this may go so far that the love will gradually disappear.
If you feel you are in this situation, you may feel that everything is over. But if you are willing to work at it, there are things that you can do to make your wife love you again. So long as the love was there at some point, all you need to figure out is how to rekindle it again. Hopefully, the following hints and tips will help you to achieve that.
Don’t Try to Change Her Mind by Pointing Out Her Mistakes
Nobody likes to be wrong about anything. Proving your wife wrong is not what she wants to hear, even if it is the truth. You have to understand the position your wife is in right now, which is a position in which she is looking at how her life is going to be without you, so she needs to be treated in a certain way so that she will reconsider things.
This is not achieved by arguing a point.
It’s natural to feel hurt and even angry when your wife first breaks the news to you. It’s something really bad for you and you don’t want it to be that way. You may beg, promise, and argue. Hopefully, you will quickly realize those behaviors are not helping. If you continue them, she will soon demand space. And if you continue still, she will have nothing to do with you.
Instead of pointing out that she is wrong, try to demonstrate that her life with you will always be so much better than if she were to go at it alone. Show her that things will become better and be good on your word. Never make empty promises to anybody, least of all to a woman.
Love Your Wife
If you want your wife to love you again, you have to love her first. Women are strong, flexible and patient. They are more than willing to put themselves second (although they shouldn’t have to) if they believe the end result will be that they and those whom they care about, are happier.
But she will never do that for someone who she feels doesn’t appreciate what she is giving up. She needs to know that you love her before she will start to love you again.
Most men sacrifice their marriage for their careers or other interests. A wife’s love need is there every day.
Stop Trying to ‘Romance’ Her
Your wife is already your wife. While she wants to feel attractive and sexy, she doesn’t want to be solely the object of your lust. Many women feel that, when a man gets romantic, it is for one thing only. Not just that, women are incredibly clever.
They know that the romance period is nice but that it will not last. So she will be wary about accepting any shows of romance from your side, worrying that it will be short-lived anyway. Be romantic, yes, but don’t start romancing her.
This might mean being especially sweet and attentive around her or doing extra things for her but the problem with this sort of approach is that while being “nice” and doing “nice” things is fine if you’re a confident, masculine, sexually attractive alpha male, it will do nothing to make her feel sexual attraction for you if she sees you as a weak, wimpy, lower ranking male.
Similarly, you need to be very careful with presents. Women often complain that their men never get them flowers or gifts. Unfortunately, if you are at the point that you believe your woman doesn’t love you anymore, it is too late to start doing that. If anything, she will feel like you are trying to buy her love. A woman’s love is, under no circumstances, for sale.
Show Her You Care
What a woman wants is to be with someone who genuinely cares about her, both when times are good and when they are bad. Men, by their very nature, are fixers. If a woman has a problem, they want to do all they can to fix it. But what a woman really wants is someone who just understands without casting judgement.
Never is this more true than when the problem she is dealing with is actually you. While you do need to work together to come to a solution, she wants you to know how she feels and to accept her feelings as genuine. A simple hug is all it takes sometimes.
One of the keys to a woman’s heart is to be there for her, no matter what. A really close friend of mine once told me that there’s nothing more she wants at the end of a hard day, than a big hug from her husband with a heartfelt ‘I love you’. Sounds simple, right? But it really works- just give it a shot. Be understanding when she’s going through a rough patch. Don’t get all judgmental and impatient – everyone goes through tough times. Remember, she’d do the same for you in a heartbeat if things were the other way around.
Women want to feel secure. They want to stay with their husband forever, but if they feel as if they will be abandoned, they would rather do the leaving first. If you want your wife to love you again, you need to show here that she can trust in you and your commitment to your family unit.
This is a lot of work, because women are deeply emotional and complex beings, above and beyond what any man could ever be. However, if you truly love her and want her to be with you, then you should be more than willing to put a lot of work into it.