Yes, it does seem that he may still want to save your marriage; let’s hope so.

Getting a spouse to forgive your mistakes or past transgressions can be very hard, it may be asking to rebuild trust, depending on the circumstances.

Show your love in simple, every day ways and do not smother him.

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An analogy that a man might understand:
Suppose you own a new Mustang GT, paid for. Likely you will be VERY happy. That is, until you start stopping by the Corvette, Camero or Lamborghini dealerships. Even though your Mustang is incredible, the grass is always greener, as they say, and nothing has the appeal of something (or someone) new.. until they aren’t new any longer either.

While I can only imagine your daily workload taking care of your children, try to always reserve time for your husband..just as he should reserve time for you.

What you can perhaps do is just simple acts of kindness toward him. Maybe make food he likes (or a treat like cookies). Fathers often find that they end up eating (or not eating) what their kids like (strange flavored ice cream instead of Rocky Road or whatever). They find ‘their’ stuff pushed to the back of the refrigerator.

Maybe the wife throws out his favorite recliner because it doesn’t “go with” the new furniture she wanted.

An overstressed husband can really appreciate a neck rub or other acknowledgement by his wife that his life is rough too. Some women think the man has it made because he gets to leave the problems of home and the kids every day go off to that fun office or work place. Again, the grass is always greener.

If you start doing the things you should do as a wife, you might find that eventually he starts doing what he should do as a husband. (Why Should I Be The First To Change is a good book)

Being separated is probably a bad idea, as you already know.

The best thing I can think of is to treat him the way you want to be treated, be patient – never nag (even if he deserves it) and do your best to let your love for him show through.

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Years ago a priest made the statement, “Don’t make one mistake just because of another”.

Not knowing more about your circumstances all I can do is ask what has changed since he loved you before, and did he really love you before.. or was it just physical attraction? Love that is fleeting may have never been love.

Try going back in your mind and seeing why he fell in love with you to begin with and whether there is something you can do to return to those circumstances.

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