How To Make Him Fall In Love With Me Again

If you are one of those women who are in a relationship but you feel unloved or have had your boyfriend or husband break up with you, then take heart, this is for you. You still love him and want to know how to make him fall in love with me again.

There can be a lot of reasons why your guy does not love you anymore; in fact, he may love you but just does not show it. Has he left you yet? If not, there is a good chance that – unless you are just making life too good for him – he is staying because he does still love you.

Start by evaluating your relationship with him. Is your love for him real or are you just scared of the alternative? Make sure you are asking how to make him fall in love with me again for the right, long term reasons. Fixing short term problems in our lives feels good for a while, but hurts more in the long run.

Your goal should be a healthy relationship based on mutual love, respect and admiration. If you have all of that for him, then let’s move forward and reignite his love for you.

How has your behavior been so far? Have you been begging, pleading, nagging at him to love you? I hope not, but if you have, that needs to stop right away. Even step back from the situation a little bit and let things cool off. If you are married, I am not saying to leave at all, but just make sure you give him some space and do not aggravate him further.

How to Make Him Fall In Love With Me Again

Is there anything in particular that you know of that could have put a dent in the relationship or somehow cooled his love for you? Did you have an affair, change your appearance, do something to anger him?

Often times there is no one set reason that causes a man’s love to fade for his wife or girlfriend. It is pretty common for people to just get used to things over time and forget to have and to show appreciation for what is most important in their lives – sometimes even loved ones.

Initially there was probably a strong physical attraction that quite naturally loses its draw over time. Boredom sets in even with a Ferrari, so you do not have to take it personally. But it does require extra effort in the relationship to keep the spark alive.

As you go through this process you want to make sure that you are taking care of yourself. You need to eat right, exercise and even do little things for yourself so that your energy levels are high, you do not slip into depression and that you are able to put a smile on your face each day.

Happy, positive people are enjoyable to be around. Everyone wants to be surrounded by people that pull them up and not drag them down. Even in the midst of life’s most complicated problems you want to do your best to look on the bright side, count your blessings and find something to smile about.

Keep moving forward with your own life, too. Take every opportunity to show affection and care for your man but do not have him thinking that you are just there as a doormat, waiting to serve him or waiting for him to make your life better. We are each responsible for our own happiness, do not be waiting for him to provide that for you.

Go Back to The Start

Think back about when you two first got together. What types of things were you attracted to and vice versa – what attracted him to you? If some of those things are not evident anymore, can they be resurrected? Maybe a sense of humor that has been crushed by the troubles of life.

Everyone “does” more things when first dating, and usually that is an expense of time and money that can not be carried on indefinitely. But are there some activities that you always used to love to do together that you have not done in a while?

Perhaps if you cannot do some of those things you could bring it up in conversation or bring out some photos of you two in those happy times. Remind your guy of the good times you had together and indicate your willingness to have good times once again.

You want to make sure you are taking care of his needs physically and emotionally, just without the appearance of a slave. Yet at the same time do not ignore yourself and your needs. Be the person you need to be and that should remind him of the reasons he fell in love with you.

Maintain your appearance like you did when first dating. There are times for grunge clothes, sweats, no makeup and rollers, but make sure you do all you can with your physical appearance often enough to keep him looking at you.

The additional benefit of this is that you will feel better about yourself and project a more positive image to everyone around you. You may be surprised at how much better you are treated not only at home but at work or even running errands.

This is not the entire story, by a long shot, but it should get you started and give you even more to think about.

If you are really serious about finding out “how to make him fall in love with me again“, then I highly recommend you take a look at a great resource. It’s called the Magic of Making Up and it has now sold over 50,000 copies and helped women like you the world over.

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Heather April 10, 2013 at 12:43 am

I too, like Jenni, have been in my relationship for 7 years this month. Although still in the dating phase, no signs of moving past that.
I love him, but love who he was in our earlier days. Now we feel more like roommates. It’s a two-sided fault though. If I’m home first, I still get up to greet him, not vice versa.
I don’t feel as confident in myself anymore, so I don’t feel as attracting to him. I miss the hand holding and when he would put his arm around my waist as we pass through a crowded area. We go for walks, but holding his hand, “messes up his rhythm.” I need those little things. … not only to feel about our relationship, but to feel good about myself. I feel better when I “feel lived.” His description of “feeling loved” is in the bedroom, and bc my esteem and sense of feeling desirable has dwindled, so has our activity in bed. So now he feels “less loved” and so do I. We both love each other and say it every day. But I want us to feel the love and the butterflies again.

Will Scott April 11, 2013 at 11:43 am


Thanks for writing; this is actually somewhat encouraging as most problems I deal with are a bad situation.

Not that yours is “good”, but I feel much more confident that it can be helped.

You know the problem, so now the issue is to help him know the problem. The question is, does he REALLY love you or does he just want to be “friends with benefits”?

On the one hand, the “new-ness” of love is hard to replicate life long. If I had a fix for that I’d be insanely rich!

Maybe you would get some ideas watching the (free) video over at Girl Gets Ring – you didn’t say directly that you wanted to progress to marriage, but “between the lines” that’s sort of what I’m hearing. Anyway the traffic light analogy will probably resonate with you.

Let me know if that helps.


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