How To Make Her Fall In Love With Me Again

how-to-make-her-fall-in-loveMany guys have lost a wife or girlfriends love, maybe even break up or divorce, yet still have strong feelings for her. They want desperately to know how to make her fall in love with me again. If she has not left yet, they want to prevent it; get her back if she has.

So if you are in that category you are not alone. There is help and it can be possible to get her back or keep her from leaving you. The question is how committed are you to doing that?

Anytime we are in a situation where emotions run high we risk making hasty and not so well thought out decisions. Sometimes it is best to be able to step away from the situation, avoid any rash or angry behavior and just let the situation cool off.

That could mean that stepping away from the situation for a while is called for. If you are married that may be less appropriate, but you do need to make sure you do not act inappropriately or in any way even lose dignity over the situation.

No matter how she may be acting, you want to make sure that you are not doing something that will count against you and reduce your chance to make her fall in love with you again. Women do not want to be attached to a loser and you certainly do not want to end up before a judge over your actions.

How to Make Her Fall In Love With Me Again

What happened in the relationship, do you know why she no longer loves you? Perhaps she told you or gave you a clue; many women will not.

But as you know people tend to get bored with something, even something terrific, after a period of time. Just watch kids with toys after Christmas; what the child cannot put down on Christmas day might be forgotten in a closet by Spring.

Or even that adorable puppy that brings initial excitement. After a few months of taking care of it the puppy is not near so fawned over as when it first came into the house.

That happens with relationships, too. That does not mean we need to change out partners, it just means that the relationship moves to a different level. Unfortunately, that level often brings with it a tendency to take each other for granted and not show some of the common courtesies that we did when first dating.

Do not think of yourself as a victim, nor as a loser just because she does not seem to love you currently. On the contrary, continue to take care of yourself: workout, eat right, get enough sleep, hang out with friends that will cheer you up.

Try to get up each morning and think about positive things that will make you smile, put you in a good mood and make people want to be around you. Avoid moping and complaining, that gets old quick, friends will abandon you and strangers shun you.

You do not want your wife or girlfriend thinking you are just waiting around for them; you are not. You want to make them love you again and sometimes people want what they cannot have – or in this case, what is not immediately available to them.

Any time your paths cross, be sincere with a smile and be polite. You do not need to bring up the relationship right away, that can come later. Let’s get her to like you again first. If you are married and living together, make sure you not only do your household chores – the right way! – but see if you can help her out too.

Think back about the things you did and talked about when you were dating and what you were like then. I know life might suck now with the job, bills and problems with the kids perhaps, but concentrate on your blessings, however corny that might sound it really does work.

Turn your thinking around and think about others. Most people really feel best when concentrating on helping others instead of their own problems. Eliminate any time wasters in your life and put the time to more productive use. Maybe that means turning off the TV and playing basketball with the kids.

We are doing two important things here:

  1. We are getting you out of a depression “hole” if you are in one
  2. By focusing on others we are keeping you out of that “hole”

Consider this for a minute. Who do you know in life that is:

  • Clean and well kept
  • Always ready with a smile
  • Always helping others
  • Never moping or complaining
  • Spends time with their kids, if they have them

Anyone come to mind? Chances are, they are a popular person. And probably popular with the opposite sex too, regardless of how good looking they are.

Now if you work toward that, and you are a happier person because of it, isn’t it worth the extra effort?

How about your girlfriend or wife, how will she view you? Will you still be coming here looking for answers on “how to make her fall in love with me again”? Probably not (but you are welcome here anyway!).

This is not the whole story, it is really just a primer to get you started.

If you are really serious about finding out “how to make her fall in love with me again“, then I highly recommend you take a look at a great resource. It’s called the Magic of Making Up and it has now sold over 50,000 copies.

It can change your life, save your marriage or get your girlfriend back. I highly recommend it.

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Will Scott February 8, 2013 at 9:39 am

Javier,

Some people are willing to wait forever for the right one so 4-5 years may not be the “end” (In the Bible check out Genesis 29:20, “So Jacob served seven years for Rachel, and they seemed only a few days to him because of the love he had for her”); however you can’t wait and find out she didn’t!

Long distance is tough and I really don’t recommend text or email for “discussions” as it’s just TOO EASY TO MISUNDERSTAND, not to mention the autocorrect problem in texts. Voice inflections say so much and are not present in text or email.

I don’t know what your situation is, but I have known lots of people who commute 2 hours per day EACH WAY, so I’m not sure why you can’t trade off driving and see each other more often.

Bottom line is that if she is not committed to you the way you are committed to her then it won’t work.

For most of the people who leave a comment here I feel that breakup is probably best, however in your case it does seem that since things are SO good when you are together perhaps you are the exception. Why not take a look at The Magic of Making Up – at least watch the free video and see if it looks like it might offer you some help.

Please post back and let us know how this came out.

Best,
Will

Javier February 8, 2013 at 8:20 pm

The situation was difficult I do admit. We’re both in college and going down everyday is very very difficult task mostly because we still don’t drive or/and have a car. Buying a ticket would be expensive and if I were to go up her mom would have to pick me up because she lived bit far from the station. Relying on her mom was something we both didn’t like since she would work late sometimes. I was actually working on the driving. She broke up with me not because she wasn’t committed but because when we we’re apart she felt it wasn’t fair for her to treat me differently then when we were together. It was hard for both of us. She told me she wanted to move on because the pain of not being together was hurtful since it was out of our control. We’re still friends but as you know it’s not the same anymore after you date them. We talked about maybe in the future but we both agree that maybe just maybe it could happen, when she lives in the city. Holding on to her is probably not the best idea yes I want to recover her but if she doesn’t want me back then I would be hurt. To me it’s about seeing if she was the one and if she is then so be it if not then continue searching. The thing is our break up was probably the most peaceful discussion one could have heard. It’s probably more of the hope now the feeling that bothers me the most is that it was just cut in the middle leaving us both in question of what could have happened.

Will Scott February 8, 2013 at 10:50 pm

Javier,

Whatever you do, don’t make any rash decisions or rush into anything.

Take things slowly, concentrate on your school and let things settle down.

Hopefully, both of you will come to feel the right decision in your heart, without forcing anything one way or the other.

We will hope the best for you both.

Will

EDDIE June 20, 2013 at 11:39 am

ME AND MY EX WORK TOGETHER IT WAS A BAD BREAK UP AND SHE IS SOMEONE ELSE. ME AND HER FAMILY ARE VERY CLOSE AND HER MOM LOVES ME LIKE A SON.WE CANT BE FRIENDS B.C THERES STILL FEELINGS THERE BUT SHE DOSE NOT WANT TO BE WITH ME. I MADE THE CHOICE TO CUT ALL TIES DUE TO THE FACT THAT I DONT WANNA CAUSE PROBLEMS WITH HER NEW MAN NOR HER FAMILY BUT ITS HARD WE WORK TOGTHER AND I DO ALL I CAN NOT TO SEE HER. I STILL LOVE HER AND ID RATHER SEE HER HAPPY WITH SOMEONE ELSE SINSE I SEEM NOT TO HAVE MADE HER HAPPY. IV TYRED ALL TO GET HER BACK BUT I DONT KNOW WHAT ELSE TODO DID I MAKE THE WRITE CHOICE BY CUTING ALL TIES OR WILL THAT MAKE MY CHANCES OF LOOSEING HER GREATER

Will Scott June 25, 2013 at 8:28 pm

Eddie,

(Please don’t type in ALL CAPS – it’s hard to read and is usually designed to express SHOUTING)

Cutting off all contact would not necessarily be required if everyone can act like an adult. If there are unresolvable behavior problems, sometimes getting out of the picture is easier.

If you hope to win her back, just be the all around great guy that you are and treat her with respect and courtesy.

This is your chance to show that you are a person of great character and can handle anything.

Hope that helps,
Will

Dan Clark September 6, 2013 at 8:06 am

This ones a little complicated but here goes. My Ex Amy and I met and we hit it off great and even engaged. She said she never loved any more more then me. i feel the same. Now due to the fact im still going through a divorce may of been the reason for the break up. ALthough she has a friend that didnt like me at all. would control her and all. Amy has said to me a part of her likes to get back with me but cant right now. She gives up and to say it never happen probably. Now her friend, likes to interfere and get her not to talk to me, or around me. Although amy said the other night she needed me there and want me around. she tries to please her friend and still keep me there. she ask me for things to have a excuse to see me. recently she asked me to come spend time with her while her friend and others were there. i did. they acted nice but then after i left talked about me. Amy my ex she asked again for me to come, but a little later said nevermind. now it has been a whole day and she never said anything to me at all. idk what to think. she has told me she missed me and everything i just wonder what can be done here. im afriad to lose her completely and never get another chance again.

Will Scott September 6, 2013 at 9:04 am

You both have an issue to deal with.

How can you become engaged while still married? Do you think it’s a good idea to make a new commitment that quickly?

She must choose between you and the friend. Not that she can’t have friends, but not friends who insist on controlling her and who she insists on pleasing. She needs to be pleasing her man, not her friend.

I see no good prognosis until BOTH issues are CLEARLY worked out, ties cut.

Best,
Will

Cesar December 20, 2013 at 8:27 am

Ok to make things short.
I been with my this girl for 4\5 years.
a week after engagement she broke things off. Yes it was hard.
but she told me to make her love me again cuz she has lost those feeling due to me
working and perhaps taking her for granted.
so I’m guessing the relationship has hope if she said this correct?
also how can I show her I trust her with out being in a relationship?

Will Scott December 20, 2013 at 9:09 am

Well, a few ways to think about this (based on limited info).

Almost 5 years is quite a while for a girl to wait for a proposal, she may have been growing frustrated.

Yes, she is giving you permission to go back to square 1 and court her again. The question is, is this a case of a girl who doesn’t appreciate the hard work you do or a case of you mis-allocating your time and attention?

That is something you will have to evaluate, because if you do win her love again and nothing else changes, you will be back in this same position in a year or two, perhaps married with a child…

Maybe you should take some time to yourself to really think this through carefully. If you decide to proceed and make her love you again, you will likely find the Magic of Making Up to be quite helpful. If not, a man who works hard to provide for his family is greatly appreciated by the right woman, though finding her is not always easy.

Best,
Will

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