If you’re determined to figure out the problems that you and your wife had before and are hoping to get your wife back, then I think maybe we can help. While I don’t pretend to know everything about your marriage, I do know that in a lot of cases reconciling with your ex isn’t really as hard or as impossible as it may seem at first.
The most important thing is to know which things you should do… and which things you should never do. And I can definitely help with that!
At the top of the ‘Don’t Do This’ list is to constantly call your ex. Men tend to be a little more aggressive when it comes to getting something that they want and that might be great when you’re playing softball with your buddies or going after a promotion at work, but it’s not so great when you’re dealing with your ex or estranged wife.
In most cases she’ll be either angry or scared (or both) if you come on too strong. Giver her some space. You have to find the strength to leave her alone for a little while and give her a chance to get her bearings. This can also be a good opportunity for it to really sink in that she may have lost you for good and she may start to really miss you.
During this ‘cool down’ period it is OK for you to contact her, once or twice only, just to say hello and let her know that you’re thinking of her and that you still care. We don’t want her to think you are alienating her. You can only do this, though, if you’re sure you won’t try to talk her into coming back to you, this is just to keep you on her mind, that’s it.
After a while, time where you’ve spent addressing the issues you may have personally that led or contributed to the marriage falling apart, you can contact her and let her know you’ve made some changes and see if she would like to meet and talk. No pressure, just an opportunity.
If she says ‘yes’ then just be calm and meet with her and let her know that you’d like to leave the door open to work things out, gradually. If she says ‘no’ then you have no choice but to walk away gracefully and show her that you really have changed and find a way to move on with your life.
Hopefully she is willing to leave the door open to future reconciliation. If you would like to know what to do given the opportunity to save your marriage and get your wife back then I suggest you may want to listen some expert advice from T. W. Jackson. Known as T dub and a very laid back southern kind of guy, his advice has helped tens of thousands of couples all over the world get back together and live happier than ever.
If you think that sound interesting then why not watch an intro video he has at his Magic Of Making Up website.
