I can understand how upset you are that you and your girl split up, but there is good news I want to share with you right now. It might not be as impossible as you thought to get your ex girl back. As a matter of fact there are a few simple things you can do starting right now, today, that may help to speed up the process a little bit.
The first thing is to make sure you are not making one of the most common mistakes.
If you’ve been calling, emailing or texting her night and day, then you must stop now. You are doing yourself more harm than good.
You have to give her time to miss you and to think about what her world is like when you are not in it.Pestering her day and night is like that salesman who follows you around the store trying to talk you into a sale when all you want to do is browse.
It makes you want to leave the store, doesn’t it?
She is never going to miss you if she is always on the phone with you listening to you whining and trying to make a sales pitch for yourself. She will start to think of you as a sure thing or a backup plan when all else fails. She can just string you along if she wants.
That is not the way you want her to think about you.
Instead just give her one quick call to say hi, and that you are thinking of her and that you still care, and then leave her be for a while.
In the meantime, you can find ways to improve the person you are, and you can start right now. Try to figure out what went wrong between the two of you, what you did wrong and what changes you can make.
You cannot make her accept responsibility for the problems she caused but you can accept your own faults in the relationship. If you don’t do this step the two of you will not be happy even if you do get back together at some point.
Instead, you will just keep making the same mistakes over and over again which only leads to more pain. Take some time to address the problems in your relationship from your end and try to make the changes you need to make so that things will work out for the two of you this next time around.
If you really want to get your ex girl back, you will have to learn to be patient and be willing to make changes so you can become a better man. Doesn’t she deserve a better man? She probably thinks so, and maybe why she left you.
If you want that “better man” to be you then you have to take it up a notch. Be the man you can be and the man she wants. Nothing phony here, because that will never last.
Give her some space while you work on who you are and you will have an excellent chance of being back with your ex girl in no time at all.
Note: Some of the advice contained above was adapted from The Magic Of Making Up, our most trusted relationship resource.
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