Comments for Relationship Advice Help http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/blog Help, Advice & HOPE for Relationship and Marriage Issues Tue, 01 May 2012 13:53:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on How To Make Him Fall In Love With Me Again by Will Scott http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/blog/how-to-make-him-fall-in-love-with-me-again/comment-page-1/#comment-660 Will Scott Tue, 01 May 2012 13:53:04 +0000 http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/blog/?p=32#comment-660 The stress of a job, moving can certainly take a heavy toll. There could be more to it than that and you are right to be concerned. This also could be a classic situation of "Man pulling away". Don't push him, it doesn't sound like you are, but just make sure. Please watch the video (about 55 minutes, I think) <a href="http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/go/girl-gets-ring/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">"Why Men Pull Away and Won't Commit"</a>. There is a lot of really great info there just in the video. T Dub is promoting his new program, but the content of the video is free and well worth your time. Please let me know if that helps. Best, Will. The stress of a job, moving can certainly take a heavy toll.

There could be more to it than that and you are right to be concerned.

This also could be a classic situation of “Man pulling away”. Don’t push him, it doesn’t sound like you are, but just make sure.

Please watch the video (about 55 minutes, I think) “Why Men Pull Away and Won’t Commit”. There is a lot of really great info there just in the video. T Dub is promoting his new program, but the content of the video is free and well worth your time.

Please let me know if that helps.

Best,
Will.

]]> Comment on How To Make Him Fall In Love With Me Again by Em http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/blog/how-to-make-him-fall-in-love-with-me-again/comment-page-1/#comment-659 Em Tue, 01 May 2012 12:20:46 +0000 http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/blog/?p=32#comment-659 Or not miss me and realize that he was too immature for a relationship. I honestly believe he is just going through a phase like most guys do because he still says I love you once in a while even though we are not intimate and have not been for a couple of months. Does it sound like our relationship still has hope? Is there anything we can do together to help him fix his stress? I adjust overall confused because men are just so weird to me. Obviously he may regret acting the way he is right now someday. I just overall don't know what to do to make this work. Or not miss me and realize that he was too immature for a relationship. I honestly believe he is just going through a phase like most guys do because he still says I love you once in a while even though we are not intimate and have not been for a couple of months. Does it sound like our relationship still has hope? Is there anything we can do together to help him fix his stress? I adjust overall confused because men are just so weird to me. Obviously he may regret acting the way he is right now someday. I just overall don’t know what to do to make this work.

]]> Comment on How To Make Him Fall In Love With Me Again by Em http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/blog/how-to-make-him-fall-in-love-with-me-again/comment-page-1/#comment-658 Em Tue, 01 May 2012 12:15:01 +0000 http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/blog/?p=32#comment-658 I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years now and he has gotten into sort of a slump lately. He has been very stressed and depressed about his Career and says that he is his number one priority right now because his job is important. I understand jobs are important. We had talked about getting engaged for at least two years, he has given me his deceased mother's jewelry and has taken me to meet all of his friends and family who also have even started calling me Mrs. His last name. All of a sudden these past three months he has become distant and cold towards me and says it is not my fault but that he wants to live life just one day at a time now because he does not know what the future will bring. He also says that since he is moving out to a different town from me for his job (back to our home town) that he doesn't know how things will work out. He will be living with me foe 3 to 4 months until this happens. All of a sudden last night he tells me he needs a break and that he doesn't know how Long it will be so that he can figure things out. He also says, "Feel free to date other people and I might do the same because sometimes I think about it." After he said this he has been texting me every day this week so far, even though I am out of town visiting my parents. When he texts me first and I ask him questions about our relationship he will not reply but he will reply if I ask questions about anything else. Including our "daughter" which is our little black kitty cat. So far we have talked every day during our "taking a break" time and I have not been the one to initiate the conversation 85% of the time. Last night I had a pizza delivered to him as a thank you for watching the cat and to let him know I love him. He called but was answering my questions sounding like a teenager pissed off at his mother; you know that tone. I told him that maybe us taking a break would be a good thing because he would either miss me and realize how much I love him and how much he loves me, even if he goes on dates with other girls, I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years now and he has gotten into sort of a slump lately. He has been very stressed and depressed about his Career and says that he is his number one priority right now because his job is important. I understand jobs are important. We had talked about getting engaged for at least two years, he has given me his deceased mother’s jewelry and has taken me to meet all of his friends and family who also have even started calling me Mrs. His last name. All of a sudden these past three months he has become distant and cold towards me and says it is not my fault but that he wants to live life just one day at a time now because he does not know what the future will bring. He also says that since he is moving out to a different town from me for his job (back to our home town) that he doesn’t know how things will work out. He will be living with me foe 3 to 4 months until this happens. All of a sudden last night he tells me he needs a break and that he doesn’t know how Long it will be so that he can figure things out. He also says, “Feel free to date other people and I might do the same because sometimes I think about it.” After he said this he has been texting me every day this week so far, even though I am out of town visiting my parents. When he texts me first and I ask him questions about our relationship he will not reply but he will reply if I ask questions about anything else. Including our “daughter” which is our little black kitty cat. So far we have talked every day during our “taking a break” time and I have not been the one to initiate the conversation 85% of the time. Last night I had a pizza delivered to him as a thank you for watching the cat and to let him know I love him. He called but was answering my questions sounding like a teenager pissed off at his mother; you know that tone. I told him that maybe us taking a break would be a good thing because he would either miss me and realize how much I love him and how much he loves me, even if he goes on dates with other girls,

]]> Comment on How To Make Him Fall In Love With Me Again by Will Scott http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/blog/how-to-make-him-fall-in-love-with-me-again/comment-page-1/#comment-650 Will Scott Tue, 01 May 2012 00:54:56 +0000 http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/blog/?p=32#comment-650 Taylor, First, what I can say is that you need to be yourself, be the person he fell in love with. You can have compassion for friends without taking on their problems. That _could_ be part of it. Maybe he is even a little immature? Making petty excuses is a child's game. One thing I might recommend if you have the time is to watch the free video about why men won't commit (among other things). The video is kind of long (almost an hour) but I think you might pick up some good info. (There is a sales pitch at the end, but you can ignore that and STILL benefit from the content of the video, it's VERY GOOD). <a href="http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/go/girl-gets-ring/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">Why Men Pull Away and Won't Commit - free video</a> Hope that helps. Best, Will Taylor,

First, what I can say is that you need to be yourself, be the person he fell in love with. You can have compassion for friends without taking on their problems. That _could_ be part of it.

Maybe he is even a little immature? Making petty excuses is a child’s game.

One thing I might recommend if you have the time is to watch the free video about why men won’t commit (among other things). The video is kind of long (almost an hour) but I think you might pick up some good info.

(There is a sales pitch at the end, but you can ignore that and STILL benefit from the content of the video, it’s VERY GOOD).

Why Men Pull Away and Won’t Commit – free video

Hope that helps.

Best,
Will

]]> Comment on How To Make Her Fall In Love With Me Again by Will Scott http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/blog/how-to-make-her-fall-in-love-with-me-again/comment-page-1/#comment-649 Will Scott Tue, 01 May 2012 00:48:39 +0000 http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/blog/?p=13#comment-649 Please get help for the suicide inclinations. She is not worth that! Your are worth more than you realize and it sounds as if she is not worth you. She broke up with a text and Facebook. Yes, today is a different generation. But someone you love? Please! She's in love with Facebook, look for someone who is in love with YOU. Please get help - you are worth it. Will Please get help for the suicide inclinations.

She is not worth that!

Your are worth more than you realize and it sounds as if she is not worth you.

She broke up with a text and Facebook. Yes, today is a different generation. But someone you love? Please!

She’s in love with Facebook, look for someone who is in love with YOU.

Please get help – you are worth it.

Will

]]> Comment on How To Make Him Fall In Love With Me Again by Taylor http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/blog/how-to-make-him-fall-in-love-with-me-again/comment-page-1/#comment-648 Taylor Tue, 01 May 2012 00:36:57 +0000 http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/blog/?p=32#comment-648 I have been dating my boyfriend for almost two years now. In the beginning it seemed as if we were the happiest people on the planet, and as we got to know eachother better we fell more and more in love. We never fought, everytime we saw each other we couldnt help but smile. He is my support system, and I am his as well. We became serious and talked about our future together and imagining the future made us even closer. But it seemed as if over time, we started to drift apart. We've been through so much together; through my best friend being diagnosed with cancer, and my other suicidal friend. I had become depressed, feeling as if I had taken on their problems to try and fix and ignoring my own. And he understood. He was there for me through all of it, telling me he loved me and how much of an amazing beautiful person I am for being there for these people. Since then, he has become quiet. He is not willing to spend time with me unless I ask first. He always makes up excuses on why we cant go on dates, and is always with his friends. I am always the one to say "I love you" first. He never compliments me anymore, and is not open about his feelings with me anymore. We seem to fight more and more and I feel as if he do not feel the same way about me as he used to. I feel as if I am no longer important in his life, and that maybe he no longer loves me the way that I love him. I guess I'm just very confused and I want to know what I have to do to fix it. He is the love of my life, and my bestfriend. I dont know what I would do without him, (yet he has only mentioned breaking up once, and that was a few months ago). I'm scare, confused, and don't know what to do. Thank you, Taylor. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost two years now. In the beginning it seemed as if we were the happiest people on the planet, and as we got to know eachother better we fell more and more in love. We never fought, everytime we saw each other we couldnt help but smile. He is my support system, and I am his as well. We became serious and talked about our future together and imagining the future made us even closer. But it seemed as if over time, we started to drift apart. We’ve been through so much together; through my best friend being diagnosed with cancer, and my other suicidal friend. I had become depressed, feeling as if I had taken on their problems to try and fix and ignoring my own. And he understood. He was there for me through all of it, telling me he loved me and how much of an amazing beautiful person I am for being there for these people. Since then, he has become quiet. He is not willing to spend time with me unless I ask first. He always makes up excuses on why we cant go on dates, and is always with his friends. I am always the one to say “I love you” first. He never compliments me anymore, and is not open about his feelings with me anymore. We seem to fight more and more and I feel as if he do not feel the same way about me as he used to. I feel as if I am no longer important in his life, and that maybe he no longer loves me the way that I love him. I guess I’m just very confused and I want to know what I have to do to fix it. He is the love of my life, and my bestfriend. I dont know what I would do without him, (yet he has only mentioned breaking up once, and that was a few months ago). I’m scare, confused, and don’t know what to do.
Thank you, Taylor.

]]> Comment on How To Make Her Fall In Love With Me Again by Riley http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/blog/how-to-make-her-fall-in-love-with-me-again/comment-page-1/#comment-624 Riley Fri, 27 Apr 2012 04:29:59 +0000 http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/blog/?p=13#comment-624 My girlfriend broke up with me after thirteen months together. She did it over a text, and Facebook, claiming that I couldn't see that she was hurting. I could, but I just couldn't do anything about it, seeing as the previous two weeks that I've seen it, and tried to help, she simply either ignored my help or just shunned me and ignored me to go on Facebook to talk with other men. So I decided to give her some space, and it seemed to be working for a few days, but then neither helping nor giving space seemed to cheer her up. I tried asking her, and she wouldn't tell me and just shrug. I thought it was because she was having troubles with those said men on Facebook, since she is deeply attached to them (they're old/good friends). After about a week of this, she sent a text saying she was not happy with me, and that she did not love me anymore, stating that I was stuck in the past and immature. Of course I defended myself, but it was all in vain. She promptly told me to f*** off and leave her alone. I've already attempted to get her back via logical arguments, showing her that I still love her, and even doing a bit of begging (stupid, I know...). None has worked, and she's claiming to already be in love with someone who is 3,000 miles across the country, and moved on. I'm in a deep depression, already having attempted suicide three times now. I've nowhere else to turn to help, seeing as my family just gives false smiles saying "it'll be all right, honey." and my friends just say "go meet a new girl!". I really just don't know what to do, seeing as she's back in love, and resenting me... My girlfriend broke up with me after thirteen months together. She did it over a text, and Facebook, claiming that I couldn’t see that she was hurting. I could, but I just couldn’t do anything about it, seeing as the previous two weeks that I’ve seen it, and tried to help, she simply either ignored my help or just shunned me and ignored me to go on Facebook to talk with other men. So I decided to give her some space, and it seemed to be working for a few days, but then neither helping nor giving space seemed to cheer her up. I tried asking her, and she wouldn’t tell me and just shrug. I thought it was because she was having troubles with those said men on Facebook, since she is deeply attached to them (they’re old/good friends). After about a week of this, she sent a text saying she was not happy with me, and that she did not love me anymore, stating that I was stuck in the past and immature. Of course I defended myself, but it was all in vain. She promptly told me to f*** off and leave her alone. I’ve already attempted to get her back via logical arguments, showing her that I still love her, and even doing a bit of begging (stupid, I know…). None has worked, and she’s claiming to already be in love with someone who is 3,000 miles across the country, and moved on. I’m in a deep depression, already having attempted suicide three times now. I’ve nowhere else to turn to help, seeing as my family just gives false smiles saying “it’ll be all right, honey.” and my friends just say “go meet a new girl!”. I really just don’t know what to do, seeing as she’s back in love, and resenting me…

]]> Comment on How To Make Her Fall In Love With Me Again by Jon http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/blog/how-to-make-her-fall-in-love-with-me-again/comment-page-1/#comment-597 Jon Fri, 20 Apr 2012 18:41:56 +0000 http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/blog/?p=13#comment-597 I know my faults. I know I'm the one who destroyed my relationship with my Fiance of five and half years together this past December. For the first time I'm openly willing to admit I've cheated on her more than once, Lied to her about stupid and petty insignificant things, Lost faith in our relationship and overall stopped being that guy that I once was and she fell in love with. I can honestly say I turned myself into that guy no girl truly wants to date. The smooth talking, empathic SOB and all around jackass that every Dad hopes his daughter never meets. I met the love of my life at 14 and now we have two children together 3 and 2. Family is the most important thing to me, but I lost my way more then once. The only thing is I never stopped loving her. She always came first in my heart and more then once when decision time came... I always choose her. Because deep down she was always the other half of me that made me whole. But I messed up big time this past December when we got into an argument over a very stupid thing omission of the truth. It was past midnight and we started arguing and I finally walked out on her. I didn't come back after that and I've since moved out. The part that hurts though is I finally crossed that line, but now more than ever I regret every second of it. I started missing her after a few weeks and started to in my own way try and repair our relationship, but I got angry when I learned she had started to see a "friend" of hers. I stormed out and didn't look back, but I think that was my last shot with her. Nowadays we've been fighting more and more over the children and other things, but all the while we fight I still love her. Deep down I'm killing myself slowly cause she's all I think about. She's now dating her friend and I actually tried to move on with my own life and started dating another girl, but every time I'm with my current girlfriend she'll do something that just sparks a memory of my old Fiance and I get depressed all over again. I don't know what to do anymore. I know I'm not being faithful to my current girlfriend when all I do when she touches me is close my eyes and imagine my old Fiance, But I can't keep killing myself when my old Fiance doesn't want me anymore after everything we've been through. I honestly can't love and give myself to another girl the way I love her. What should I do? Do I even deserve another chance after so many? I know my faults. I know I’m the one who destroyed my relationship with my Fiance of five and half years together this past December. For the first time I’m openly willing to admit I’ve cheated on her more than once, Lied to her about stupid and petty insignificant things, Lost faith in our relationship and overall stopped being that guy that I once was and she fell in love with. I can honestly say I turned myself into that guy no girl truly wants to date. The smooth talking, empathic SOB and all around jackass that every Dad hopes his daughter never meets.

I met the love of my life at 14 and now we have two children together 3 and 2. Family is the most important thing to me, but I lost my way more then once. The only thing is I never stopped loving her. She always came first in my heart and more then once when decision time came… I always choose her. Because deep down she was always the other half of me that made me whole. But I messed up big time this past December when we got into an argument over a very stupid thing omission of the truth. It was past midnight and we started arguing and I finally walked out on her. I didn’t come back after that and I’ve since moved out. The part that hurts though is I finally crossed that line, but now more than ever I regret every second of it. I started missing her after a few weeks and started to in my own way try and repair our relationship, but I got angry when I learned she had started to see a “friend” of hers. I stormed out and didn’t look back, but I think that was my last shot with her. Nowadays we’ve been fighting more and more over the children and other things, but all the while we fight I still love her. Deep down I’m killing myself slowly cause she’s all I think about. She’s now dating her friend and I actually tried to move on with my own life and started dating another girl, but every time I’m with my current girlfriend she’ll do something that just sparks a memory of my old Fiance and I get depressed all over again.

I don’t know what to do anymore. I know I’m not being faithful to my current girlfriend when all I do when she touches me is close my eyes and imagine my old Fiance, But I can’t keep killing myself when my old Fiance doesn’t want me anymore after everything we’ve been through. I honestly can’t love and give myself to another girl the way I love her. What should I do? Do I even deserve another chance after so many?

]]> Comment on How To Make Her Fall In Love With Me Again by Will Scott http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/blog/how-to-make-her-fall-in-love-with-me-again/comment-page-1/#comment-518 Will Scott Sun, 08 Apr 2012 02:42:18 +0000 http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/blog/?p=13#comment-518 Priority #1 is to keep your life together. Ditching everything and following her seems pretty risky when it seems she may not be 100% committed to you. You need a job that fits you and allows you to provide. You don't want to have to get between a girl and her mother. Not only is it a bad time for you, it's hard to win in the long run. And often: The girl becomes like her mother. Not her fault, it's just in her genes. Hope that helps. Will Priority #1 is to keep your life together. Ditching everything and following her seems pretty risky when it seems she may not be 100% committed to you. You need a job that fits you and allows you to provide.

You don’t want to have to get between a girl and her mother. Not only is it a bad time for you, it’s hard to win in the long run.

And often: The girl becomes like her mother. Not her fault, it’s just in her genes.

Hope that helps.

Will

]]> Comment on How To Make Her Fall In Love With Me Again by Dave http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/blog/how-to-make-her-fall-in-love-with-me-again/comment-page-1/#comment-517 Dave Thu, 05 Apr 2012 10:54:16 +0000 http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/blog/?p=13#comment-517 I have been dating this girl for a year and a half and we are very serious. I was not interested to carry on coz her mom had not agreed for this relationship and she is not even willing to meet me(though i am a christian i dont belong to the same Christianity community as them ) since my girls father had passed away long back, her mom says she does not want this to happen and she will get her married to someone from her caste.. Her mother had shouted a lot at me even after i spoke to her last year and when i confronted my girl she said her mom will take time.,.. but i said i cant move on coz i have no security or guarantee from her side coz i don wanna see her go away with someone else at the end of the day.. but my gal kept crying and begging me not to leave her.. about 3 months back i even quit my job coz i was not able to concentrate coz of all the stress.. my parents are ok with her and even they are waiting for an answer. she had promised me that she wouldn join any job until she convinces things with her mom and recently she she just broke her words and joined for a job..even before i could start searching for one. and she is saying she had to do this coz she has loads of pressures at home.. but i feel she has changed a lot.. she wants me to be ok with her if she keeps in touch with anyone.. but i have to keep away from certain girls.. she is not able to give me proper time also and i feel so alone.,. i dont wanna cheat on her so i am not going behind any other gal! My health has GONE down ALSO A LOT.. i dont live in the same state as her.. i dunno if i should look for a job where i am comfortable or should i take the risk to going to her state.. what if at the end anyways her mom wont agree.what if she wont be able to give me time coz of her job coz i cant force her to go against her mom coz her mom is a widow also,when i ask her an answer she is like her answer is she wants me but she cant do anything coz of her mom and is waiting ..nor will her church allow for me... but at the same time she needs me.. i am so confused... i feel i am clingy but i dont wanna lose her coz this is not her,, she wasnt like this.. and she has no other guy also. BADLY NEED SOME ADVICE! I have been dating this girl for a year and a half and we are very serious. I was not interested to carry on coz her mom had not agreed for this relationship and she is not even willing to meet me(though i am a christian i dont belong to the same Christianity community as them ) since my girls father had passed away long back, her mom says she does not want this to happen and she will get her married to someone from her caste..

Her mother had shouted a lot at me even after i spoke to her last year and when i confronted my girl she said her mom will take time.,.. but i said i cant move on coz i have no security or guarantee from her side coz i don wanna see her go away with someone else at the end of the day.. but my gal kept crying and begging me not to leave her..

about 3 months back i even quit my job coz i was not able to concentrate coz of all the stress.. my parents are ok with her and even they are waiting for an answer. she had promised me that she wouldn join any job until she convinces things with her mom and recently she she just broke her words and joined for a job..even before i could start searching for one. and she is saying she had to do this coz she has loads of pressures at home.. but i feel she has changed a lot.. she wants me to be ok with her if she keeps in touch with anyone.. but i have to keep away from certain girls.. she is not able to give me proper time also and i feel so alone.,. i dont wanna cheat on her so i am not going behind any other gal! My health has GONE down ALSO A LOT..

i dont live in the same state as her.. i dunno if i should look for a job where i am comfortable or should i take the risk to going to her state.. what if at the end anyways her mom wont agree.what if she wont be able to give me time coz of her job coz i cant force her to go against her mom coz her mom is a widow also,when i ask her an answer she is like her answer is she wants me but she cant do anything coz of her mom and is waiting ..nor will her church allow for me… but at the same time she needs me.. i am so confused… i feel i am clingy but i dont wanna lose her coz this is not her,, she wasnt like this.. and she has no other guy also.

BADLY NEED SOME ADVICE!

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